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There have been a lot of discussions recently on how millennials have a seriousgo out together problem. And when it comes to the root of the current desert - which includesDecrease in marriage rates andvery little sex-PEOPLE tends to point to the social media and, in particular,Dating applications. Many singles met for the practice of the court before smartphones and Amadou. And now, a new company does exactly that.Here Now (Previously known as the perchage) takes the dating again offline and return to the bases of the human connection.

"Dating applications have created many unexpected consequences and many ways have been looking for a harder compatible partner, "here / now co-founderRachel Breitenwischer, 31, saysBetter life. "The endless basin of options has created aparadox of choice- It's more difficult than ever to settle on someone because there is always the persistent question of whether there could be a better person for you if you continue to slip. "

It's like that and co-founder,Lyndsey Wheeler, 28, created the idea of ​​here / now, what is "on a mission to bring people from their phone and bring the excitement of the meeting into person". Yes, the new hot thing in the meeting is the old thing: go offline.

Breitenwischer feels like applications "dehumanized the meeting process", reducing everyone to a photo and a job title when "we are all multiform human beings." In addition to that, there is no accounting forchemistry Online, seeing as an brief organic and a series of photos can only give the same sparks as a connection in person can. And, echo the complaints ofBaby boomers, the applications made us lose somequite valuable social skills.

"This is especially true for the youngest generations that have been raised onSMS and social media"Said Breitenwischer." Bars, who have always been places to meet new people, are now filled with people glued to their phones. It seems that people have forgotten how to talk completely to foreigners. "

Here / now launched its first "live dating experience" in April 2019, and they are currently hosting weekly gatherings discharged on different sites in New York in three formats: intimate dinners, parties and signature mixers.

They also have a variety of rules to combat part of the social ineptitude of modern times. First, you are not allowed to release your phone, and they give you a blanket to place if yourSmartphone dependency is so bad that you can not stand physically to put it away. Secondly, there is no "working conversation" authorized because the co-founders of now "believe that we are too often assessed only by what we do. And finally, you can only order drinks at the bar open for another person, an attempt to restore a little gallantry todating that we lost.

I attended one of the mixers of the signature from here / now as a member of the press on October 2nd and was pleasantly surprised by the crowd they attracted. Most guests were friends of friends who knew the founders in one way or another, which gave him a comfortable but elegant house of the house a kind of atmosphere. Anyone outside this circlemust apply online, since it is a community of "curious, equity, ambitious,Singles between 24 and 40. "

It sounds a bit snoby, sure, but the goal of Wheiter and Breitenwischer is to create an atmosphere of "individuals sharing the same ideas" that have the best chance of connecting. They are also determined to curalize the "optimal alchemy of people", since the initial meeting and the configuration is followed by group sessions designed to give you the opportunity to speak to each human being.

Each station during group sessions has a set of maps with questions designed to fomentsignificant conversation, like, "What are you the most afraid?" And "what is your most embarrassing memory?" But no one I discussed to need cards. We all had the same question: why is an event like this if necessary? How did we have a point where we need rules and games to talk to people?

Many applications of meetings blamed and, more broadly,Our phones. Several people on the mixer even said they had started using the iPhone function that warns you when you have exceeded anythingscreen time limit You are ready for yourself, which is the extra proof that / now has arrived at the right time. There was also a recentBacklash against influencers of social media And the way they sucked us in a world that is not real. And we all saw the titles on themental health problems andanxiety which have just been constantly overestimated by our phones andsocial media.

But when it comes to getting out today, there is another problem that many men to the mixer here / now have been raised: the fear of being nicknamed "sex hall. "" I want to be "one of the good guys," said David, 27, said in a group discussion. "Last week, I asked a girl if I could kiss her and after all my friends have told me it'sa major outstanding. But is that not what I'm supposed to do for consent? "

His question has led to a broader conversation about the importance of tone and reading listeningCues of body language, which ends up transforming into David asking if it's ok to hit a woman at the gym.

"Never struck on a woman at the gym," said a woman. "She's not here for that." I disagree. If I am out of the house, I am open to human communication. And if you're in me when I look like I'm just crawling a swamp, I would say it's okay for agrass relationship.

We possibly settled on the agreement that if a woman has his earpiece and it looks like she had a difficult day, it's better to stay away, but if she seems interested and engaged, so why not? This is a reasonable conclusion to draw, but it is the one we had to have a lively debate about to go.

At that time, I realized that there are so few situations when I have to have conversations like this with people outside my immediate interior circle. And it's the biggest advantage from here / now: it has not placed a particular pressure onromantic link; It was just aboutIn general connection. At today's day and age, we need it more than ever.

And for more recent science on relationships, seeA new study highlights why so many Americans are still single.

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