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When it comes to seeking love, it is common for women to feel vulnerable and fearful, expectant to what they could experience in that appointment with a new person. But, although society has advanced a long stretch in terms of positivism, neutrality and body acceptance, many large women can double that vulnerability, this fear and that expectation, since they believe that by their body the objective of achieving a potential couple is more difficult. Nothing is further from reality. The following tips will help you.

Work your self -confidence

You have surely read it a thousand times before, but it is true: before looking for love elsewhere, you must love yourself. Only then will you know exactly what you need from the other person, which you are willing to tolerate and what you are not; You will understand how valuable you are and that your partner must be someone who appreciates and adds to that value. This applies to all sizes, but gains importance in the case of large women, who tend to believe that they must change some of their body or personality to attract others. Trust is sexy, and if from the first date you show yourself comfortable with yourself, the other person will know that you are not for games.

Go on your clothes

Here we will not give you those advice of "put this to hide that." When we say that you lean on your clothes we talk that you wear something that makes you feel comfortable and reflect your personality. If you like tight clothes, wear something tight. If you like comfortable dresses, wear a comfortable dress. Use accessories, a good makeup, sign your hair ... just as you would do it for an important meeting or for an exit with your friends. Use what makes you feel beautiful and special, to help you with your self -esteem so that this trust is reflected in your attitude and personality before that potential couple. Of course: you are the size you are, we advise not to wear too revealing clothes in the first quotes.

Do not take for prejudices

One of the most common "complaints" among large women is that they do not find a partner because most men or women prefer thin couples. But is it really so? Do you know for sure that this boy with whom you have crossed looks in the cafeteria only goes out with clones of Victoria’s Secret models, or is it something you have convinced yourself? All people have different tastes and maybe you are surprised to know that many of those tastes are not "fixed." That someone has a thin ex -partner does not mean that he does not want to go out with you. The point of all this is that you evaluate that, perhaps, you are putting the limits. Sometimes it is worth taking risks.

Do not try to fool

In this era in which the vast majority of couples begin in the world online, it is very easy to fall into the temptation of deceptive filters and photos. Don't do it. Whether you use your social networks to meet people as if you enroll in appointment applications (of which, by the way, there are some specialized in large sizes), be honest with your photos. Remember that the ultimate goal is to know each other in person, and if your potential couple sees that you are very different, it may feel that you have lied all the time. Do not use old photos, do not edit them too much and make sure you include at least one full body. This not only demonstrates your self -confidence, but also make sure that the other person looks for you for who you are, not for how you look.

Beware of fetishism

This considers advice for your own security: take care of the fetishists. Unfortunately, one of the dangers to which large women are exposed are people who have a fetish with this type of body. It is not the same thing that someone loves you for who you are together (physical, personality, attitudes, interests, etc.) to love you just because the size of your body gives you a specific sexual satisfaction. If during his appointment the person makes you fulfilled only in your body and that make you feel uncomfortable, if he asks you to give specific numbers (weight, size, measures) or make indecent comments, consider it a red flag. Unless you are also looking for that and getting consensus, you better get away.

Find out and don't "conform"

At the other extreme, you may find potential couples that make passive-agrees such as: "You are very pretty, and you would be more if you would go down a few kilos" or "I think that dress is not for your body type." If you are barely knowing that person, he flees, because from the beginning he is telling you that he is not satisfied with your appearance, and if you accept that just because you think you will not be able to get something better, the safest thing is that it will not be a healthy relationship. One thing is that your partner motivates you and accompany you to lead a more active life or a more balanced food for health (which does not mean that you are no longer a healthy woman), but another completely different is that from the beginning it believes that it has some moral superiority to tell you how you should see yourself. In summary: Find out and be respected.