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This story was originally published in the March 2008 issue of Better life.

When John Mayer finds a woman, he will finally be able to take it easily.

Many things will change. For one, got dog paparazzi joints do not bother it as much as they do now. Just recently, that's what happened: he was leaving a restaurant in the city of New York, his girlfriend and Friday Night Lights Star Minka Kelly on his arm, when the paparazzi climbed. "How are you doing," John? "This video is asking, all friendly. And then ..." Is Cameron Diaz's body a wonderland? "Normally, Mayer would not answer. But, really, it was too much." Do you see that I'm with a woman? "He asked the guy." Do you see that I dined with a woman and ask me for others. ... man is terrible! "

"When I get married, all these things will be null and void," he says.

Married guys have other problems, of course, but Mayer is positive, he will not have many of them. Let's say he has to go to work. Currently, he is 30 years old. He has been a singer of heart, songwriter and guitar for only seven years over the last seven years, but what he has accomplished during this period is remarkable: three major label height albums, including the room. Squares, his first and continuum, his last, as well as nine singles 10 top 10 shots, especially "nothing like", his first and "say" his last. He won five Grammmys. He played on ballot with Big B.b. King and recorded with everyone from Kanye West to Dixie Chicks. He called a Porsche dealer in New York from Eric Clapton's Estate in England and, Sight Inseen, bought $ 134,000 Turbo S, just because it was the thing to do. He has been named a Time Top 100 person's magazine influential. In addition to the diaz and Kelly, he came out with Jennifer Love Hewitt and, the most tumultuous, Jessica Simpson. He writes a monthly column on everything that interests him and who keeps his own blog. More recently, he decided that he wants to be a standing comic and went on the pursuit of Yuks. In other words, everything he wanted to do, he did and he wants to do a lot more.

But what about his future wife? His future wife Bitch and he moaned and tell him, for example, that he can not go on tour this year, because she has other projects and what about his planning projects ? She is not going. She will be incredibly happy for him. She will say, "I understand." And she will say, "No complaints."

"I think of my wife all the time," says Mayer. "I'm a little obsessed, and what I want to find is a person who can speak these kinds of magic words. I mean" no complaints "is a great way to live. In addition, I want a woman Who does not hear 'how are you?' As "I would like you to show with something dramatic now, it will allow me to sit in front of you and give you more attention than I had only if you just said" no complaint ". When I find the person I can understand at this level and who is also pinup and who also says' can I take pictures of your ass? Then I'm going to get married with her. That I can promise you. "

But there is a small hitch, and it is the Mayor day and night because it is largely out of its control.

"My fear," he says, "Do I get to the daughter of my dreams and say," I'm sorry, but I have to say hello, "and she slips the stool and gets up and moves up and moves away , saying, 'Not for me, Bub. I do not want to do anything with you. "And she says that because of something in my past. I mean, I know how to be a celebrity. I know how to be a guy in the street. I know how to ride with punches. I know how to do it all. And my past is actually pretty sterling. But when I think of my wife, I'm worried. I worry about what she thinks when she reads on meUS Weekly. It's all the steam, nothing ether. But I'm worried about that. I'm worried about what she thinks. "

So it's John Mayer for the moment: a worried man, thinking living in a country of steam, nothing, ether, his perfect wife, sitting on a stool, perhaps knowing too much on him already. Conversely, she might not know almost enough - about her rare first years as a closing of acne-climb, some "loopholes" in her brain and xanax in her pocket pocket, on her pornographic docks -Même, on his constant lips beating, his love for Jessica Simpson (and he seems he loved him) and how she changed his life. Things like that. What his future wife should really know really before it turns off half arched, deeper in the land of Mayer, for better or for worse.

Look at him. Look at him in his chair in an Indian restaurant in the SOHO neighborhood of New York, near where he lives. Look at his big shock of black hair ruffled, with these great melancholy, eyes smoky brown, to this big head sitting on this six feet four-inch muscular frame. Look in Mayer, in its black sweater and green pants. Everything is great, oversized, exaggerated. Now listen to it talk.

Repel the table, the places Mayer his shoulders and said, "I tell you without fear. I do not feel like everyone knows my personal life. My personal life is 100 percent intact. Where I eaten last night or who I ate with is not my personal life. Do you mean the name Jessica Simpson? Say the name Jessica Simpson. You mean Cameron Diaz, said Cameron Diaz. It's not my personal life. My personal life is what happens in my heart and my head. Nobody knows what happens in my head.

"What else do you know? " he rolls. "If you really want to do it, if you really feel like you are born for that, then you have to get if meta in your consciousness that even the worst parts of it seems just. People be naughty to me or not know how to tell me ... I almost found a way to recognize what the positive is by how to look around negative. So, if the negative is present, it must be there because there is a positive spirit that created this negative. So, I'm going, Oh, Wow, I'm picked up on the left and right. I really have to be someone. In a way, you sort of understanding your place by understanding what the problem is. you know what I mean? »

The honest answer is, of course, more or less, because phew, what a big big load of padded verbiage. But it's typical of Mayer, never just say what we can say with fourth fireworks of July. "I think I've always been talkative," he says. And with this admission, one could believe that it could slow down a little. But he goes off again, before at full speed, this time talk about his duration of a year again, again off-relationship with Jessica Simpson, who ended the beginning of last summer, and the difficulty The surrounding media circus was for him.

"Allow me to bring you in the state of mind now," he says. "When you take two people trying to come together and report, which is already a kind of F-K cluster. But with us, there was all this imminent threat. And at some point, I have so many tension headaches just of magazine covers. Real tension headache, the mention of my name with someone else and how people felt about it. Literal physiological reactions where I said, Oh my God, Oh my God, Oh my God, Oh my God. I thought of myself, are you sure you want to do it? And what I said to myself was, what do you know? There are moments in your life when there is no one to chat with but you. And you know what? This is my life, which is a person I want to spend more time with, and I will not leave the other fart of steam in the way. And I will defend this decision until the end ". He pauses, then walk on. "I also want to say about Jessica that I do not want to talk about him or my experience with her as it is any dark cloud perception or something tumorous or cancerous .. he was very comfortable and very soothing. I have never been, Gee, I only two or three days ago. »

It is interesting to the way it reverses this last group of words. Nobody here mentioned cancer or tumors, nothing even. On the contrary, his time with Simpson seems to have been good for him. But come these thoughts and ugly images, marked the beginning of course for no apparent reason. He is like he does not know when putting a sock in her, and we must wonder where he comes, this irrepressible desire to speak, whatever happens.

One thing he does not like talking as much about his childhood - or rather, he does not like to talk about what he has spoken before. For the most part, it's pretty fundamental. It has been raised in the city Connecticut rich in Richy de Fairfield, the middle of the middle of three. His father was a secondary director, his mother a college English teacher. At the age of 13, he took the guitar and became obsessed. If he was not at school or with his high school girlfriend, he was behind the doors closed in his room, attached to his guitar, causing the guitar-god heroes such as Stevie Ray Vaughan, Jimi Hendrix, Guy Buddy, and Robert Cray. When he was 15 years old, he told his parents that he could also go out of school because he was going to become a famous guitarist. They were not bought. In his 17th year, he landed at the hospital with an irregular heart rate that was diagnosed as cardiac arrhythmia. The episode then reassembled that after having started writing songs with words for the first time ", with a depth, I did not even know I had as a person." After graduating, he attended Berklee College of Music in Boston, but packed him in Atlanta in 1997. He started playing the local club circuit, has developed a reputation, went to Austin to play. South of Southwest Southwest Festival, captured the ear of certain types of recording labels and a year later, in 2001, released from the square for squares. It has been immediately labeled "sensitive", for its "empathic voice" and "emotional intrepidity". The girls loved him. The guys were not so sure. When he went to onstation to collect his grammed for "your body is a wonderland," he said, "it's very very fast and I promise to catch up" a declaration of heart who did good In the short term, with 2003 the heavier things (which were only slightly heavier), tries 2005 (its great exploration of blues, as part of the John Mayer continuum), and the 2006 continuum (which was in Effect that and produced the unique success "waiting for the world to change")). And that's how it happened for him, more or less: all young, quite fast, everything is great.

But if you look at Mayer on some less known childhood details, mainly surrounding his bedroom guitar, a slightly more complicated image starts to emerge. He says, for example, that he took the guitar that because he saw no other way for him to have ever in advance in life. He felt trapped and the guitar was his exit. Quite common. But the strange thing is how he went on this subject, so alone, almost like a monomania. On two separate occasions, his parents were concerned so worried that they had taken it to contract to try to understand what was going on and perhaps opening the child's eyes to the wisdom of career choices. realistic. Nothing to do. He stayed in his room. He played his guitar. He fought with his people. And although everything happened years ago, he can not bear to talk to him, even now, and he Smartmers when he tries.

"I think I think it's for me of my life a very good idea to close some parts of my past," he says. "It was difficult. It was difficult for everyone."

And that's pretty much everything he will say about it ... for now.

There, a future potential bride from Mayer have read Mayer on Mayer and knows a few things. She knows that, like most guys, he collects stuff - in his case, bracelets, sneakers and guitars - and that he loves his high definition television. And that he loves his fast cars. And that he likes to spend money, always has. She knows that her dominant color is blue, it's a huge fan of popsicle ice pops, and that it's good friends with Elton John. She knows that some people think he looks too much like Dave Matthews. In addition, they hate the faces he made on stage and think he's a pompous ass. None of this disturbs it. But she is confused by one or two things he said and she wants clarity. He has already said that watching another couple having sex is something that could do it "vomiting pure excite." On another occasion, he said that one of his girlfriend's rules is "you have to run every fantasy you ever had through me. You will never cheat. You see a cute guy at the gym, I'll be him. Or we will look for it. I do not care. "Then the question is, is this man a voyeur or what?

"It would be true," says Mayer, frankly. "I am a person based on the image, and for me, everything is about details. I'm not interested in any American ... I mean, I can not be motivated by what most people get motivate. But the problem is that most people can not meet me where I have to be. I find myself in many situations, collapse my expectations, because girls do not walk by saying: "Oh, I bet that he wants that. "I have always been supermantly with this kind of things. And I'm not talking about Kinky. I'm talking about detail. In other words, I have never seen self-arousal or auto- some, as secondary. I have never seen it as a disappointment. I remember when I heard about girls, it's not the same, I do not want. Well, this n is not supposed to be the same. And then, when I sail on the internet, I'm really resigned not to find anything I'm in. I mean, there are times when I have I write my own stuff. I wrote just bring my ideas to life for me. "

He paused here, looks into his chair and rises shoulders. "The thread is intact in my life about the difficulty of being who I am," he says. "I have always had a relationship with being different. But the world needs me to be crazy, I need me to be crazy, I need me to stay crazy and I'm never going M ' Excuse to be crazy. " So the.

In his debut as Star Rock, he did a great public case not to go down the road of Rock-Star ruin that he had seen so often while watching VH1 behind the music. To this end, it will not drink, was not going to smoke dope, and most were not going so far --Crebrites. "At all levels of the career, there will be traps," he said. "Unique level is, like, do not coggo a celebrity." Early enough, however, all that has changed. He started drinking (Scotch, although not heavily), smoke smoke (through a vaporizer, although he soon left), and, above all, date celebrities (in progress). He presented these changes mainly because he wanted to be someone other than the one he was, and to whom he had mainly had to do with these parts of his obsessionly guitar childhood that he would prefer to remain closed.

"Once again, I do not want to talk too much," he says, "but when you're alone and it's not right as you want outside, you do it as you want inside. You Create comfort to compensate the outside world. You create, create, create, create. All is in your head, but you go there, because it's your place safe, and that's what I did. "

A problem that he had to face the back and was his skin. Throughout his adolescence and in the early twenties, he had a terrible acne. "In Atlanta, I had acne so badly," he says, "I cancel dates and plans and stay in the house. I will not go out. When I was a child, I remember Well thinking, well, I'm not going to be a model, so I'd better do good on the guitar. "The guitar thus became his life, furiously and with revenge. "All I wanted to do was to make a robot and kill him, to kill him, to kill him, to take the heads of people. If my blood was an alphabet soup, it would come out," I'll show you, Morkerf-Ker. "For a long time, he felt that he was nothing without his guitar, that he did not really exist, except to the extent that his fingers continued to work with the magic of the crowd. He did not drink , smoking weeds or celebrities. All he did, played the guitar. And it was better than agree with him. That was what he wanted.

In its early 20 years, however, one thing changed inside this private world of itself created its. He will not say exactly what happened, only that of a specific day, he realized that "you can create dark neighborhoods in your mind as easily as possible to create wonderful rural lands. And the day when I realized that it was one of the worst days of my life. It sent me a tower tower. I went a Bender. A Bender-anxiety. "That's why he keeps Xanax in His pocket, even now: "Because there are these types of loopholes in my brain, where the threads can pass through a second and the hard disk hangs." But the real turn of Mayer's internal life did not take place until 2006, when he met Jessica Simpson and decided to exchange tension headaches, he suffered good times in public with His new girlfriend, Paparazzi are damned.

"I had been famous tourist musician who had also been closed for a very long time, who was bizarre," he says. "But I would have really good, really good. I hit the song, hit the song, hit the song." Have you heard of this kid? "And I'm like, look at my respect. Look at what point my artistic art is credible. I'm really perfect. I really do it. It's. And you are addicted to the culture of this thing and make it perfect . I am telling you, man, I'm not f-king with you. But it has been perfect for being perfect the day I told myself, Wow, my heart is involved in that. The only thing I'm have never been in my life is a person without guitar. I really scared that if I stopped, it would leave me. But I had to evolve. If I wanted to see more than Jessica, I had to grow up. And C ' is the day I grew up. Many people say it's the day I grew up. Too bad. It's the day I grew up. "

One thing about Mayer is brave like that. He always seeks new truths on himself and, once found, he is not afraid to move to them better than he can. It's like that with a standing comedy. He loves him and while he was not laughing at laughing all the time, he is not about to stop trying. "I'm going on stage, I'll keep going on ballot, and no one can tell me that I can not go on tintage," he says, "and that's the thing. Nobody will tell me that I do not Can not you. Do not tell me what I can not do, Mordf-Ker. Of course I can. I mean, look at what I did in my life. I have no reason to believe that everything What I think is impossible. It makes me boring sometimes. But all this has become reality. All this. "All a guy, then, this Mayer. Although he is right, it sometimes makes him a little boring.

Mayer receives some ant. A couple of collectors of Italian watches of big names are in town and he wants to go out with them and talk about watches: Omega, Cartier, Patek Philip ... They call them chronographs in this price range. "I know all the reference numbers," he says. "I know accurate market prices a day. I'm going home, I'm on all the tips of messages. I do not talk about sport, but I can talk about watches all day."

Before leaving, however, he wants to erase one thing about his future wife. He knows he is largely his fault that the daughter of his dreams can be so difficult to find.

"I accept myself as a very specific type of type, and in that sense, I'm a bit like a woman, because my chemistry is so demanding," he says. "I can not describe it in words, but I can see it in my head, its color, its light, its forms and I managed to synthesize my love for me by many different reasonings and processes, and I j ' I was able to really synthesize my own satisfaction and my things that do it for me. They usually been self-taught, self-instrumented, self-refined. So, to be with someone else who must be somewhat lying in This comfort zone I "Ve created with me so well."

Like a lot of what he says, what he specifically means by this is a little trouble, but the great thing is, it's good. He will never put a sock in it. Whys are unimportant. And now it's time for him to go there. He stands up. He puts his winter coat and confides his hands in the pockets. He mixes his feet, begins to leave, then thinks that and returns. It pushes its big head forward. "Let me ask you a question," he says. "Do you think you? I mean, overall, you buy me? Do you think at least that I believe myself?" Yes, of course, maybe probably. But when the perfect girl comes, she will buy it and believe it, and what obscures him to others will illuminate it only for her. And when she agrees to be his wife, everything will be different then, as he has always hoped.

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