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A little strict, old-fashionedlabel rules-Semplace where to place the sauce boat on your table or in which order to introduce guests may seem a little obsolete for modern life. But while some label books are somewhat difficult by today's standards, there are many bits of advice that have none of their decades of social value and even centuries. In some cases, the rules have become so familiar that we continue to practice them regularly. Others help us overcome common social challenges, such as what to do when you accidentally hit someone and you do not want them to start fighting.

Many social graces and customs that you instinctively follow the date of returnlong time. Here we are rounded 23 of these timeless evenings that do not seem to have ever disappeared.

1. Send letters.

What the only way for people to communicate between the distances has become much less frequent, like an email and texts have taken its place. But that's what does the act of sending a special gesture and always appreciated.

"The first handwritten letter can be traced to the PersianQueen aossa In 500 Bc.c., "saysKarene A. Putney, President of the Business-Label SocietyLabel label. "Shortly after this hour, the writing of letters has been used for self-education and important commercial transactions of several institutions."

She says that today, the writing of letters has a greater emotional resonance because it takes more time and reflection than an email or a text message. But it also has more relevance because "letters are used by certain organizations to validate certain contracts and transactions".

2. Be punctual.

We can talk about being "fashionable" for parties or other meetings, but in most other situations, be on time, never exit style.

"Late arrival for an appointment or a meal or a defect to complete a project in time is considered a pot-caster," said Putney. "Unfortunately, many companies suffer from a lack of reactivity to the appointment clock."

She adds that the word "punctual" comes from the Latin wordpunctuality, which means "one point".

"To be punctual, you have to get to the right point and on time. The label, such as punctuality, is essential and can do or break its reputation," says Putney.

3. RSVP early.

You receive a wedding invitation that you usually accept, but you are not sure if you can do it. So, you find yourself sitting on this invitation and finally responding a week before the "RSVP" date. It's not cool.

"Please answer aA long time before the date, "writtenMARALE MCKEE, theManner. "Do not do it sends a signal that you expect to decide because the event does not excite yourself on the first thought."

The RSVPing close to the deadline is not great, but the negligence of RSVP at all is downright rude - and it has always been.

4. Do not point.

When you were a child, your parents have probably told you that it points to people is rude. It was a long time before passing this board and it remains so much. But why?Slate's "gentleman scholar"Troy Patterson explains that "this rule dates from primitive days whenfinger pointing Was considered responsible for administering a hex-and, in its instruction, to risk attracting the attention of a stranger who could answer with a bad eye. "

More recently, the gesture has evolved to serve as a blame or accusation deposit, which makes the target of the sharp finger suddenly reduced to an object. If they notice that you indicate, most will assume almost instinctively that it is not for a positive reason.

Although forms of communication have evolved, the score continues to report the lack of respect.

5. Create a visual contact.

"Manufacturingcontact lenses When they speak represent a level of professionalism and both insurance, especially on the theme of discussion, "Putney said.

While some cultures can see too much contact viewing as a tacit threat or malicious visual contact with the wrong person (for example someone from afar above your station or your rank) in a disrespectful way, most of the It has long been a way to establish and maintain a level of confidence during the conversation and a confidence sign of the person who maintains the contact of the eyes. Do not miss a strong visual contact and, as there are also real centuries, you are likely to be considered Shifty, unworthy trusted or uncertain of yourself.

"As insignificant as it may seem, visual contact helps keep your attention engaged and reduces the fatigue of the discussion," adds Putney.

6. Keep in the process of being introduced.

If you catch dinner with friends and someone brings the new girlfriend or girlfriend, it's a bit easier to get up when you shake the hand of the person or giving them a hug. Although it can be more common nowadays for someone to give a quick wave and present yourself while sitting down, the person who makes the effort to bear is to convey both more respect for the person who meets and for themselves.

"Standing upon his introduction is the appropriate method of introduction," says Putney. "In addition to the fact that this gives room for identification, it also indicates: whatever the status, what is the respectful. So, during the introduction, you have to get up as a form of recognition."

7. When at a date, if you requested, you pay.

Gender roles have evolved a bit over the last decade, and many of the "rules" that have once served as guidelines have been balanced. But one thing has not changed: the person who made the invitation to the date should pay the bill.

"This is independently of age or sex," saysJodi Rr Smith ofMannersmith Consulting Etiquette.

Traditionally, the rule may have been that "the man" should pay, but in the old days (that is, a few decades), it was generally the man who had to make the invitation to a date. (This obsolete rule also ignored the same-sex couples.) Now, as asking for strictly a male domain in heterosexual relationships, the rule has been clarified. And it's not right for romantic outings.

"The clarity of the obligation allows the guest to accept without fear of expenditure," Smith declares. "For example, a rich friend may ask me to join her for a broadway show. Later, I increase it by inviting him to lunch in a restaurant of my choice of my prices."

8. Express gratitude.

We learn a young age the importance of saying "thank you", and it is because it is an important practice in countless circumstances.

"Whether it's a birthday present, a customer reference or an evening, the recipient is politely required not to respond in kind, but rather to express their gratitude," Smith.

Counselor and life coachLaura trice explains inHis Ted Talk thisExpressing his gratitude Helps strengthen relationships and brings the person who says thank you as much good feelings as the person receiving it.

9. Write thank you notes.

But to make an expression of even more striking gratitude, we should put it in writing. Just as a handwritten letter expresses more than a written letter written in a hurry, a thank you note transmits more than just say to someone "Thank you".

"A" thank you "in person during the exchange is not enough," said Smith. "A written note is a low-cost and low-impact tool that encourages these interpersonal interactions."

10. Say "Excuse me".

"When we hit someone, we always find ourselves saying"sorry, '"saysSam Whittaker, a life coach and a mantelligence publisher.

While the specific phrase "excuse me" has evolved over time ("I'm forgiven", "Forgive me", etc.), it has served a timeless advantage of the definition of a potentially volatile situation, which transmitting that faces someone or another another small violation of social norms has been made by mistake.

"We always do that because it is always effective when it comes to avoiding conflicts," said Whittaker. "People today are more likely to simply say that other than entering an argument."

11. Offer your seat to others.

While the specificities of this respectful behavior have moved over time (men should offer their seats to women, whatever their age or abilities.) He continues to be a sign of politeness for young people and The buses to give up their headquarters in a bus, in a waiting room, or elsewhere - to those who are older or more in need.

"The habit of offering in your place when you are in a crowded room or a fully packaged mode of transportation, is still in effect today," says Whittaker. "This is especially true for those who are in perfect health, they always offer seats to an elderly woman or to a pregnant woman. This is how this habit is summed up to compassion and compassion never out of style. "

12. Do not call someone too late or too early in the day.

Since we used a ROTATIL to dial a phone, it was considered rude to call particularly soon or particularly late in the day. AMental flosswriterputs the old cupLike 9:00 A.M. or after 9:00. Whether the person is called or not, to obtain a call to one of these times is likely to define alarms for the recipient, which led them to wonder if something is wrong.

Another Whittaker phone rule says never go out of style: take your call out of the room. Although it meant to go in a separate room where the phone would be out of reach of others, it now means taking your mobile phone elsewhere if you are with or in a public place.

"That's all about privacy and respect," he says. "It's not good to force others to listen awkalthily to our conversation, especially when it's a personal affair. Since we always value the respect even during these modern times, traveling to answer a call, c is always a practice we see today. "

13. Dress up to impress.

The distinction between "formal" and "relaxed" blurred at this time when it is less common to see costumes and ties at work or applied black vestige codes. Yet it is expected that we can show that they have been shown to have put time and thought of their appearance, even if they just wear a t-shirt and jeans.

"Getting out of the house dressed properly is always a rule we see being followed today," says Whittaker. "Wearinggood clothes And maintaining an elegant look is things that we always consider so appropriate and essential to appear presenting, that's why we always see that at stake. "

14. Not bad ceased.

Although the occasional Cuss can add spices to your conversation or texts, in case of overdone or used in "Polished Company", it is still unlikely to create the impression that you are a particularly thoughtful person or sophisticated.

"Mauré in front of others, especially in public, is not only bad manners, but it can take off as vulgar and rude, "saysStephania Cruz, an expert in relation with DatingPilot. "Maudoute can also make people around you feel uncomfortable."

15. Cover your mouth when you touch.

Even before thecoronavirus pandemic Hit the United States, understood that coughing and sneezing could spread a disease. This makes the use of a handkerchief or at least one essential social behavior of the elbow. To neglect to make the sort of coughing or sneezing into the air or against a surface in public - is not only impolite, it could be mortal.

"At present, more than ever, it's more than just a label, it's for everyone's safety," saysLynell Ross, Founder and editor of the Advocacy Education websiteZivadream.

16. Avoid spitting in public.

Perhaps more rude than coughing or relaxing, spitting is a habit that has long been considered offensive for a number of reasons.

"It is often considered an action of anger and lack of respect, but it has not always been the case," says aWriter health for BBC. "Some people, crack is in a class above all the violence."

It always has such connotations, but as for coughing and sneezing, disgusting the bad habit now concerns as many health concerns as ways. Many diseases are diffused by saliva.

17. Avoid yawning in public.

The yawning is inappropriate in public because of what he said about the person with whom you have a conversation. Even if it is the fact that the Yawner being truly tired, there remains a sign of disinterest or disengagement with the current conversation, and it is difficult for the person who speaks to avoid feeling as if they boring the Yawner.

In 1993,Miss Recommended a reader Who asked if it was inappropriate that his son let out "frequent strength of strong and unhindered" at home saying, "If Miss Manners were you, it would clearly indicate that his mother expects to be in a company polished in his own house. "The logic is always true today.

18. Wait for the host before starting a meal.

Maryanne Parker, Founder of Label Company Manor of Manners, offers a number ofTimeless label tips specific to restoration or dinner. The first: do not start eating before the host or hostess do it.

"The host places the towel first and the rest follows the head," she says. "This comes from the era of King Louis Le XIV. The noble with the higher political rank was the one that begins the meal and unfold the towel. This rule is still valid until today."

19. Do not grab the food without trying first.

You can love a lot of pepper on everything. But when you dine someone's house, do you abstain a superparation of the sabitaque and do not reach the pepper shaker before having even had the chance to try the dish.

"It is perceived as a very rude behavior and this could be very insulting for the host," says Parker. "In other words, we express doubts of their cooking before even trying food."

20. Stick at tasteful topics.

Like the swearing, discussing discontented or unpleasant subjects can be correct in a number of situations, but are generally better avoided when a mixed group of people or in a more formal setting. This does not mean that you have sugar at each subject, but when it comes to the conversation for dinner, there is a reason why those who have fun with fun and optimistic areas are often invited.

"Talking about pleasant topics at the dinner table, hope Never will never change - the dinner table is a place of collage and enjoyable experiences and memories," Parker says. "While having a delicious meal, we refrain from all means to communicate heavy, difficult and frankly unpleasant subjects."

21. Avoid private conversations before others.

Professor of Expert LabelWalter R. Houghton written in his manual of 1883American label and polite rules This one should "never engage a person in private conversation in the presence of others, nor mysterious allusions that no one else understands." Which is always true. Private conversations make others feel excluded, then save these topics until you and the person it concerns are alone.

22. Eat with your closed mouth.

"Eating in general is a first signal instinct and, because of that, the label rules have been created so that people can enjoy the meal," says Parker. "Making bad sounds, which are created by open mouth, can be potentially very unpleasant. This is the other reason why we do not talk as we eat."

"Talking at the dinner table with his mouth full of partial food chewed is not clearly not for other guests", approves RR Smith. "But more importantly, when you tried to talk about food in your mouth, you risk sucking food into your lungs. This is uncomfortable at best and life threatening at worst."

23. Bring a host gift.

Bring a gift when you frequent someone's gathering is always a good shot.

"Visit someone's home for the first time always requires a truly presented gift, not too expensive and not too personal," Parker says. (Think of the candles, a bottle of wine or a potted plant.) "This will create better opportunities for future relationships."

Extra Reporting of Bob Larkin