7 things that happy couples never do
In love there are no guarantees, but there are certain actions that help a relationship last over time.
In love there are no guarantees, but there are certain actions that help a relationship last over time. Stable and happy couples know that certain attitudes do not lead them to anything good. Therefore, they avoid as much as possible to say or do things that do not contribute anything positive to the relationship and that create unnecessary conflicts. Here we tell you seven things that you should never do if you want to have a strong and healthy relationship.
1. Press
Nobody likes to feel pressured, much less for his partner, because this should be our support and consolation. When we ask him with insistence that he does something he does not want to do or when he feels that it is time to do so, we are putting a burden on our partner who can generate discussions and discomfort. The best thing to avoid this situation is to act with empathy and look for a joint solution without generating friction.
2. Fall into assumptions
The best way to create an unfounded problem is to suppose. Many couples fall into the mistake of believing that they know enough to make assumptions, taking for granted what the other person would want or would think of certain situations. We are not readers of minds: the ideal is always to ask if we have doubts or if we want to be aware of what our partner thinks or feels. Communication is fundamental in happy relationships.
3. Have unreal expectations
Those who have time in a relationship know that it is not an easy task. No false expectations should be generated or thinking that love will always be enough for the relationship to work. We have to be aware that problems will emerge, that we have defects and that we make mistakes; And we must be open to face it. Those who run away at the shortest difficulty or ride a drama before these situations will fail abruptly.
4. Save secrets
We do not refer to intrascendent secrets such as you would kiss an older boy when you were primary or who made a mischief to your sister in childhood. We talk about those secrets related to the relationship or that they could in some way influence your lives. Having an open and honest communication with your partner of life will make you a calm consciousness and find peace. The lies or omissions always come to light and trust ends wounded.
5. Stick like a chewing gum
It is normal that at the beginning of your romance you spend a lot of time together, that you do not go out on the street without the other and that you want to be constantly united. However, this is an error if it is prolonged. As much as two people want, in the end they may feel suffocated and getting bored. Happy relations give for fact that each one is an independent being; We need some time alone to make our own activities and enjoy our friends.
6. Complain to others
Relationships are two: Involving a third party will always be wrong. Even if you do it with your best friend or friend or with your mother, skipping about your partner's defects with others could generate problems. Complaints can reach the other person as a gossip or can end up advising you wrong. If something goes wrong in your relationship, the ideal is that you think directly to the other person involved.
7. Want to change the couple
When that first stage of infatuation passes in which we see the loved person as perfect, problems may arise. Many make the mistake of wanting to change the other to adapt it to your needs. That is a lack of respect for the individuality of each one. We all have virtues and defects and when choosing a couple we must accept that whose "defects" we can tolerate. We do not refer to bad actions, but inherent traits to their personality.