Good Lifestyle

The constant feeling of anxiety and anxiety becomes the cause of chronic stress. How to deal with him in everyday life? Below we collected the seven of the most common beliefs that often provoke negative emotions with us.

I have to like everyone

Many experience internal discomfort, feeling that someone did not please. The roots of such a dependence on someone else's opinion lie in childhood. Parents often punish children when they show aggression or discontent. A child in such a situation feel lonely and guilty. To avoid these unpleasant experiences, it consciously avoids conflicts in adulthood. This behavior reflects a slightly limited, black and white vision of the world. Those who are not afraid to enjoy the world in all colors, perfectly understand that it is impossible to sympathize.

I have no choice

Most restrictions (with the exception of those are registered in the Criminal Code) we install themselves. And absolutely voluntarily. The life of society is generally limited by a variety of frames and prejudices. Try to determine your own stereotypes in your head, and then let go of them.

Self-criticism helps to become better

Healthy self-criticism is always good. But we are talking about more than a preventive attitude towards ourselves. Continuous depreciation, self-emphasis and criticism ... The more tougher you criticize yourself, the less you accept yourself. If you want to become better, try more positively look at life. Perceive it as a game where everyone can make a mistake.

I have to control everything

The belief that you are able to fully control your life - a very dangerous illusion. The easiest example. You bought a plane tickets in advance, arrived at the airport in a timely manner. But your flight was detained or completely canceled. Most events in our lives occur independently of our will. And you have to be prepared for any turn. The more you are trying to manage everything, the higher the anxiety and anxiety.

I am not fit (happiness, love, material wealth)

The belief that you are worse than others and you need to constantly make efforts to be compared with them, extremely adversely affect the psyche. As a rule, such thoughts instill close and family in childhood. Only by fulfilling certain requirements, it was possible to count on their love and approval. However, the truth is that you are not worse, and no better than others. And you, definitely, should not make efforts to deserve whose attention.

Everyone must me

Life becomes unbearable when those surrounding cease to fit your desires. It seems to you that everyone should take care of you. Otherwise, they do not like you. In real life, our claims are often not justified. Hence the many psycho-emotional injuries. Problems disappear when we revise our attitude towards people and the world, having ceased to demand something frantically from them.

Everything should be perfect

Constantly skipping bar in relation to itself and other, perfectionists are more often disappointing and anger. It is impossible to be perfect. Or be successful absolutely in everything. However, do not be upset. It is our flaws that make us unique and not like anyone.