8 things that happy couples do not do
Carrying a stable and happy relationship is not something that happens by simple luck or because love is enough for everything else to flow. The truth is that it requires a daily effort to develop and maintain healthy relationship habits and above all, learn to avoid harmful actions that hurt the couple and end up destroying love.
Carrying a stable and happy relationship is not something that happens by simple luck or because love is enough for everything else to flow.
The truth is that it requires a daily effort to develop and maintain healthy relationship habits and above all, learn to avoid harmful actions that hurt the couple and end up destroying love.
Do not complain about your partner with family and friends
The worst thing you can do is speak badly about your partner with other people, even if they are your own family or the children of both. This includes not making fun of him or criticizing him.
Complicity and respect are core pieces of every healthy and happy relationship. The good couples know that they should not involve others in their problems.
They do not allow fights to last too long
Although discussions are inevitable, the healthiest is that they are short, focused on the problem in question and not at an earlier grievance count.
The goal of fights is not to try to win in a power war, but find the best solution for the relationship. This includes controlling the duration and heading of the discussion, so that they do not leave their hands and end up becoming a painful confrontation.
They do not put on the role of victim
A successful relationship requires maturity, and victimized instead of recognizing their own errors and asking what is desired clearly and empathic, does not help solve anything.
Happy couples are responsible for their own feelings and actions, and do not blame the other by everything. Nor do they expect the couple to guess what is bothering them.
Do not ignore your financial affairs
It is always tempting to avoid difficult themes, and one of them is undoubtedly, the management of finances. But avoiding it derives in greater conflicts and lack of confidence.
Money is one of the main causes of divorce. Therefore, happy couples address these issues, reach agreements, they plan short and long-term expenses together and find solutions to the financial problems that arise along the way.
Do not press each other
It is not the same to press your partner to motivate her and support her. It is a fine line that happy couples know how to differentiate, because they have the emotional intelligence necessary to know how to communicate in the right way and because they care not to make the other feel bad.
That constant support becomes an engine that drives both to achieve its goals and to overcome failures.
Do not underestimate the feelings of the other
One of the most harmful things in a relationship is when the couple takes a condescending attitude towards the other, subtracting their opinions and feelings.
Words can be very destructive weapons and bring problems at a point of no return and happy couples know it, that is why they address difficult issues in a sensitive way and without verbal aggressions and never despise what their partner feels.
Do not use your partner as emotional garbage
Nowadays, so much about the importance of sincere and honest communication, and to share everything we feel with our partner, which is common for many to take it to the extreme and end up using the other as an emotional dump.
It is not the same to share what you feel, to act as if your partner was responsible for you and to load with all your traumas, fears or frustrations.
They never put work or children before their relationship
It is very common in families, which when children arrive, the relationship is seriously affected, because children become the central axis. Your needs become the most important thing and for when parents realize, the distance between them is insurmountable.
Likewise, the demands of professional life often steal more and more time to the relationship, causing conflicts.
Happy couples understand the importance of not neglecting their relationship and never leave it in the background.