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Giving advice to parents on how to raise children is hard to say the least. People say that "the truth is born of arguments." - A slightly heavy and intellectual socket on our subject - one that I do not necessarily agree with. What we need to do here, just discuss some really land and essential rules to talk to your children. Children have no kind of manual in their young skulls full of porridge on how to talk to their parents. Children live the moment at the moment and are not in the intellectual analysis of the mother or father. That's why each of your sentences can play an important role in their lives. It's so easy for adults, saying something to telegraph a bad message that we can not even realize. It is undoubtedly impossible to keep the whole situation totally under control. But the rule here is that we speak to our little ones with the best intentions and in a positive tone or we start to lose their confidence. Parents who make negative sentences are one of the reasons why children develop negative behaviors.
Read it and take note of the upper expressions you need to eliminate from your parental vocabulary.

1. "Roof" To try:"It seems that we are both too emotional right now. We must stay calm and then to discuss it. Let's try to think and lengthen everything we want to talk more faithfully. We love each other and that's why we need to be considerable.

2. 'Let me alone! "I'm not sure you want your child to be far from you. I'm sure every time you say that, you can not rest 2 minutes later! Being a mother means keeping your emotions under control. The phrase "does not bother me" is internalized in the message "There is no point of trying to talk to mom. She always brushes me. So, why should I share my thoughts with her if she is tired of His own life? You will not neglect the moment when your child will lose the need to be close to you "
To try:"I'm a little tired right now. I had a good day and I need time to decompress, discuss tomorrow.

3. 'I'm big'You are the main model of beauty and fulfillment in children's eyes. You are the single person who can show your children what real woman can look like. You are really the face of your child's world and there are Sherpa on so many topics that finally form their values ​​and judgments. That's why you do not show a hysterical reaction to pick up a book or two. They see the world through your reactions. If mom pick up a little weight or breaks a newly manicured finger nail, does not explode and have an angry attack. If you do, you can absolutely count on their following points in your footsteps. Do not spoil their impression of you.
To try:Oh, darling, these extra chocolate cupcakes were a bit too much for my size. We are going to go cycling tomorrow and I bet our trip will burn my cupcakes!

4. 'Do not cry'This is probably the most cliché of parenting sentences. The tears of children are never easy to manage. But you will never prevent them from crying, pronouncing this sentence. They perceive it as: "It makes me angry. It bores me. Your feelings and emotions are not acceptable to be expressed at all. Trying to prevent them from crying with this sentence, making them shrink and internalize things that are not healthy. Do not invalidate their feelings because later, this can lead to more explosive emotional conditions.
To try:"It is normal to express the overflow of emotions like this. But you should analyze what makes you cry and share with me, because I am the person who loves you most and that I'm always at your side. Believe me together, we will find the best solution.

5. "Anything bad on their father"Children still feel bad and uncomfortable hearing something negative about his parents and especially when it comes directly to one of the parents of their spouse. In this way, you break the principles on the integrity of the family and harmony. You deprive the child of this magical feeling of unity, love and mutual respect that must flourish. You do not have the right to make your father disappointed child. Certainly not.
try: Dad and I are just trying to reach a joint decision. Sometimes two people have very different ideas on how to approach a problem. We share our points of view with each other, then reach a decision. You can always take a part if you wish.

6. 'You are always ... "or" You have never ...'You must realize that your child is always in a training process in a fully rounded person. You are the first who helps it in this development. To say one of these two sentences that you connect the child with the unfounded stereotypes that can hinder his personal progress. There is no "always" or "never". There is a way that he expresses himself. Do not establish these unnecessary stereotyped boundaries, but send it in the right direction with a positive message on his personality.
To try:Do not you think your habit can be more faithful to your real values? Try to look at things from a different perspective.

7. 'You are so ...'Tags Courch each person. Your child is probably the main person of your life. Remember that this young personality can monitor this sentence as "I'm shy" or "I'm not the one it can be proud of" or even worse 'I'm not as good as others. This sentence is a dangerous shortcut that makes it absolutely low. It will never be assured without yourself if you do not leave it.
To try:'Are you satisfied with that? We both know you have to change the direction because you want more than you get. Do not stop, darling, take just one more step and always do your best "

8. 'That's not how you do it! Here, let me 'In case your child did something you do not like, you need a conversation. But you do not need to bring it so that you are ringing the belligerent and you never want to be condescending when the child has tried to do his best to do something. You must make it learn the mistakes and analyze the failed situation. You will never learn them to be autonomous with a sentence like "I can do it better". These words make a defensive child and send them the message they do not think correctly and someone will always do it better than they would. You want the child to explore options and creativity in problem solving.
To try:"I do not think it's the best way to do it. I know you can do it better, just try! '

9. I do not like this kid. Do not be friends with him / her 'Your child really needs you to take each of his serious choices. Let him feel the level you respect his personality and how much you trust him. Try not to criticize the friends you do not want to see next to him. It's better to ask the reasons why he loves a friend then. Do not intervene between your child and this game game, you may not convince you your child. Rather, keep asking what your child does with this person, the basis of their rank of results on the values ​​you have given over the years over the years. Know the answers, you will have the opportunity to summarize this relationship and analyze the points
To try:Start modeling and discussing different situations. Ask your child to imagine how his friend will behave. Talk about these strengths and weaknesses. These types of "marginal friendships" are a great way to bring your child to critically analyze other of a constant base.