Intimate couples before marriage: Is there an adequate number?
For many, the issue of how many people have had sex before finding that special someone to marry can become a concern. But even studies differ.
Getting virgin to marriage, whether you are a woman and if you are a man, it is something that for many is outdated or even related to certain religious beliefs. In fact, according to statistics, the number of people who have not had at least a sexual couple before marrying is getting smaller. But does it really matter? According to various studies, it does matter, but all have different results so there is no absolute truth. Keep reading so that you find out what these investigations say.
According to this study, 12 is the "ideal"
The British dating website Illicit Encounters conducted a survey among its users that asked what is the "ideal number" of couples that a person, of any genre, should have before marriage, and the results may be surprised: 12. Those who responded assured that having less than 10 sexual couples suggests that someone is "too conservative" and "sexually inexperienced", while those who have had 13 or more "Selfish", "undecided" or "unable to stay with the same couple a long time."
Christian Grant, spokesman for this web portal, stressed that the most interesting thing about the answers was that while 53 % of men said they always want to know about the sexual history of their partners, only 45 % of women said they were interested in that.
This study says between three and nine
Nicholas Wolfinger, a professor at the University of Utah, explored the relationship between premarital sexual relations and divorce using data from the National Family Growth Survey in the United States. The study indicates that, although women who have only had intimacy with their spouse or with only one person are the least prone to divorce, those who have had between three and nine sexual partners are less likely to divorce than women with only two.
In fact, women with exactly two premarital sexual couples have higher divorce rates than women between three and nine. Finally, those that according to the study would be more likely that their marriages end are the ones that have had more than 10 couples. "In short, if you are going to make comparisons with your (future) husband, it is better to have at least three, and maximum nine," said Wolfinger.
The best is none, according to this
A study by the Wheatley Institute of Brigham Young in Utah, United States, states that, according to a survey, people without sexual experience or who have only had sex with their spouse are those that are most likely to prosper in marriage.
The report, entitled The myth of sexual experience: why sexual experiences achieve more solid marriages , says that 1 in 5 married men and women who have only had relations with their partners have a 45 % chance of reporting a high level of stability in marriage, compared to 25 % of the married ones with between five and nine previous sexual couples and only 14 % married to 10 or more premature couples.
"It seems that sexual exclusivity between spouses provides a little appreciated base for the intimacy of marriage and helps spouses to create a mutually satisfactory relationship based on emotional intimacy and healthy communication," said Brian J. Willoughby, co -author of the study.
An "average" would be four to eight
In addition to the studies that indicate an "ideal" number, there are also reports that simply throw more neutral statistics, without adding value judgment. This is what the portal specialized in well -being did MindbodyGreen , which in an article emphasizes that, according to the centers for the control and prevention of diseases in the United States, women between 25 and 44 years have an average of 4.2 sexual partners, while men in the same age group have an average of 6.1.
Also points out that a study published in Archives of Sexual Behavior He found that the "millennials" have an average of 8 sexual partners. This generates an average of four to eight premarital couples.
What really matters
In an interview for the channel Telemundo Internacional , the recognized sexologist Jesmig Hernández said that people should not worry about a number, but for the quality of relationships and, above all, for self -knowledge.
"People, especially women, have to meet and have a good sex education. And that is something they can do alone, without a couple."
He pointed out that although she has seen many successful marriages in which the woman did not have other relationships before her spouse, "a large part are women to whom her husband has" taught "everything, and you have to be careful that this" education "is not only convenient for a part."
He added: "You have to discover yourself. Everyone is responsible for knowing themselves to take care of their enjoyment."
