≡ Why are there older men looking for young women? 》 Her Beauty
Upon completing the 40, many men fall into the stereotype of going out with women to whom they bend their age. There are several explanations to this attitude, we tell you.
You may have seen the news of the actor Sean Penn and his fleeting marriage with actress Leila George, 32 years younger than him. Or from his colleague Leonardo Di Caprio, who has made hundreds of memes about his “mania” to break his girlfriends before they turn 25. More recently, a relationship was made public that Red Hot Chili Peppers singer, Anthony Kiedis, had with a girl in 2014. He had 50 and she just 19. The fact that there are older men looking to go out with much younger women not It's novelty, but have you ever wondered the reason for this preference? These seven points can explain it.
1. The "medium age crisis"
This list does not have a specific order, but it would not be unreasonable to consider this as the main reason why many mature men look for young couples. As the 40 or 50 years pass, some men feel more susceptible to the passage of time and their effect on their physical state. They may also have gone through a bad divorce or some setback in their careers. In summary, they are in a gloomy or lonely moment of their lives and the idea of having a younger woman next to each other, who fills them with vitality and raises self -esteem, is a relief. Of course, this is something that they can also find with couples close to their age, but at first glance they associate youth with a more optimistic vision of life.
2. An ancestral theme
We cannot miss the anthropological issue of this attraction. Evoluctively, humans have based their selection of couple on the chances of reproductive success. Apparently, in the primitive part of men's brain there are traces of that perception that young women can conceive a child more easily. It is something similar to what happens with men who prefer women with large hips. Therefore, if a man of a certain age decides that he wants to have children, he may feel attracted to a younger woman to achieve this goal, because he considers that it would be more difficult with someone of his own age. Yes, science has already helped break this barrier with modern fertilization methods, but anthropologically, this trait is recorded in the subconscious of men.
3. They look for passenger relationships
Yes, this information clashes directly with that of the previous point. If an older man seeks to have relationships without obligation, it is possible that he weighs the idea of going out with younger women who are not looking for anything in the long term. Maybe they already went through a divorce and seek to enjoy their new singleness or simply do not want to sit down regardless of whether half of their lives have passed. The fact is that, at this time, they only look for casual encounters. That is why it is common to see that they accept “frivolous” relationships that come without the need for a commitment. These men consider that women of the same age seek committed, intimate and reciprocal relationships, something that they clearly flee for a while, or indefinitely.
4. The "provide" pressure
Although fortunately the times are changing, there are still vestiges of that patriarchal society of the past in which the male standard is that of the "supplier." That is, men who have been raised to be the "family head." At present, much of women are more oriented to their professional careers and can keep themselves and/or their families, so they do not actively seek a man who maintains them. At most, they look for someone to share responsibilities, to an equal. A man who is comfortable in the supplier's role could look for younger women who still do not win enough to be independent. Although this is then in a pressure that can eventually be unbearable.
5. Their equals intimidate them
An insecure man of himself or who needs to feel that he is in control can feel intimidated by women of the same age, those who have more life experience. These are women who are already clear about what they want in life and do not seek to waste time, who are ambitious or who are independent enough not to have to depend on anyone (as we tell you in the previous point). Of course, there are younger women who can become mature as their elders, but usually men seek girls who are in the process of understanding themselves and life.
6. They need to caress their ego
There is much talk about the pressure that women feel when you aging or, rather, when trying not to do it. However, there are men who also feel in their ego the passage of time. As their gray hair or wrinkles glimpse and pains that did not exist before, many men come to go out with a younger woman a sign that they can still be beautiful and charming. When this is so, it is most likely that this girl is only a kind of "trophy" that man wants to exhibit before his acquaintances, something to get the ego. Yes, it's that stereotypic.
7. They want to relive their youth
Sometimes, older men look for younger women just to relive their past years or to improve their social life. With them they can party and meet new people or even try activities that would not have dared to do before. Having a younger partner means to live more adventures and feel an emotion they had forgotten due to their daily job responsibilities or family obligations. The idea is to feel that they have not yet left their "best moment."