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Today the obsession with Flags Network continues to grow and take minutes on social networks and programs, with the aim of avoiding problems such as narcissism or Ghosting . Today we bring you other tips on those known as Green Flags; As is known to the attributes that we should seek in a potential couple or friend. But that does not mean that it is good, since sometimes those points that may seem positive, are not recommended for a healthy and adult relationship.

The first thing you should know is that the absence of Flags Network It does not imply that there is Green Flags . That is, the fact that we do not see anything bad a priori, does not mean that everything will go like silk. So identify those Green Flags Basic is essential when moving forward when we start knowing someone.

We must bear in mind that, at the beginning of a relationship or when we begin to meet someone, we all show our best face, so we must be careful with the signs. And, above all, with narcissistic people.

The first step: know what you want and need

Although it may seem too obvious, you must be clear about the basic points of a healthy relationship: mutual affection and respect, kindness, reciprocity, emotional security, etc. But it is also very important to know if you have a narcissist in front of you who will only think about having all that, but in their own benefit, without taking into account your needs or feelings. Of course, during the early stages of the relationship will try to make up their actions and words with Love Bombing so that everything is Green Flags .

Of course, there is no greater green flag than feeling valued, respected and as a priority for the other party. There is no perfect relationship, but we all get time and energy for things that are important to us.

Aspects to consider

Once you are clear that a healthy relationship must be based on love, respect and mutual security, we leave you some points that should make you open your eyes if you have not already done it.

Communication : The way of communicating and interacting with someone is one of the fundamental points for a relationship to work. Of course there must be physical attraction, but someone who knows how to listen and show interest in what you tell him, is a Green Flag total.

Seeing how he reacts to a joke or if he does them himself is very useful, as well as seeing that person discussing a problem or confrontation. If you see something that does not fit you, flee!

Responsibility: If you are not able to admit errors or apologize when you commit them, Red Flag! Mature people assume their mistakes, recognize and apologize; Immature, try to throw balls outside and blame others.

Empathy: The main quality that narcissistic people lack and that you should not consent to lack in a healthy relationship is empathy; The ability to put on the place of others and try to understand how they feel in different circumstances. It's more; Become your good news, be a support in the good and bad times. That is essential and it is something that every relationship must have.

Self -knowledge: If someone is not able to know himself and want to grow and mature, he will hardly accompany his partner in that process. In addition, the desire to learn, prosper and advance are indicators of an adult, mature and functional person. It is not about looking for perfection, but trying to find a better version of ourselves.

Equality: The relationships that are established in terms that are not equanimous or egalitarian usually end up being toxic, especially for the "dominated" part. Dominant people often lack empathy and do not mind saying things without taking into account the damage they can cause, but they would never consent to do the same, that is where inequality occurs. Mutual respect is something essential that should not be questioned under any circumstances. Always remember to establish healthy limits and communicate them assertively to "scare" these beings.

Trust: That a person fulfills what he says consciously, without traps or deceptions, is totally a Green Flag. This point is closely related to that of responsibility, because we all make mistakes, but a trustworthy person is also responsible for them, assumes them and does not try to blame others, in addition to apologizing and tries to solve them. Trust causes that feeling of security that we all need when we are in a relationship.

Independence: That your partner does not make you the center of the universe (and vice versa) must be somewhat priority. You should never consent to try to isolate yourself from your family or friends. In addition, it is very important and healthy to maintain an independent life, in which time is shared, of course, but in which each one keeps their friends and hobbies separately. Having a partner does not mean becoming Siamese and having to do everything together from that moment.

Personality: Of course everyone has their own and is something extremely personal. But some features, such as flexibility or commitment, are Green Flags They help to move forward knowing someone. Then there are many characteristics that for some are essential, for others, necessary, and lack importance for the rest, such as kindness, gratitude or the sense of humor.