This is why most ghost people dating, says a new study
Try not to take his sudden disappearance personally.
There are countless frustrating behaviors thatPeople employ when they go out together: Forget to send him a text, do not disturb their ways and present themselves late for the planned outings, to name only a few. But maybe the bad most irritating habit is the ghost. You know, when this person you have made several dates disappears in the air, never to answer a call or an SMS again. If you have been a ghost recently, you may be wondering: why someonedo this? Well, we have your answer. In front, we described the results of a study on ghosts; In addition, we interviewed the therapists about the most common reasons for ghost people. Read the rest to get the scoop.
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This is the most common reason why ghost people.
Ghosts occur for all kinds of reasons. However, a recent study published in theJournal of Social Social Psychology found that a common is the security problems.
For the study, the researchers presented participants a variety of meetings of meetings and patterns to break with a person. They then asked them how they would end the relationship. For example, the participants would have said: "You were on three dates with John / Jane and learn that he / she sent sms with her ex" and gave a reason to break with them such as: "You want yourself Put an end to your relationship and want to find a way to do it as easily as possible. "
The researchers found that the participants were more likely to say that they would end the relationship in ghosts after being informed that there could be security problems if they put the more explicit relationship at the end.
However, it should be noted that there are many other reasons why ghost people. Here is what therapists see the most in their practices.
Ghost people because they do not feel the relationship.
This may seem obvious, but it is true. If someone ghosts you, it could simply be because he didn't feel it and didn't want to tell you. "Talking to someone the reason why you don't want to be in their life is difficult," saysHeather M. Cain, LPC, LCPC, a professional advisor approved atThink about me no. "Most people don't want to talk about it so that they prefer ghosts."
It goes hand in hand with not being a clear communicator. "Most people do not learn to communicate their feelings effectively, and some people find it difficult to listen to how their behaviors make others feel," added Cain. All these things come together to make a person believe that leaving someone cold is more painless than taking a text "sorry, but I am not interested".
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Or because they are not single.
Another reason why someone could ghost is that they are not really single. "They have a quick blow of self -esteem by chatting with people via applications, but either it goes too far, or their partner discovers it. The same goes for a few meetings," saidCaroline Madden, MFT, therapist atCounseling with Caroline. "You might hear them again with an excuse for the reasons why they did not call-but keep yourself away from it." Ghosters are very rarely changing their air.
They know mental health problems.
People do not always because they are inconsiderate. Sometimes they live something and can't help it. "Depression and trauma can bring someone to you ghost," saidHolly Schiff, Psyd, aapproved clinical psychologist In Greenwich, Connecticut. "Someone who suffers from clinical depression will withdraw from everyone in his life. He cannot act on anything or nourish any of his interpersonal relationships and simply freeze and engage in avoidance."AE0FCC31AE342FD3A1346EBB1F342FCB
A person who lives this may not feel emotionally available to date and may also not have the mental ability to be vulnerable or truthful about what's going on. There could also be fear involved. "Those who suffer from anxiety can also be easily overwhelmed and can have increased sensitivity to the actions or words of others," adds Schiff.
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They are a player.
The last reason for which someone could ghost is that he does not want a long -term relationship, even if it is not what he has let pass. "Generally, this character tends to be a man, who considered the relationship as purely sexual, without wanting a deeper romantic connection," saidRonnie Adamowitz, aPsychotherapist in Melbourne . "By noting that his partner would not participate in such activities, he would disengage and ghost." To this we say: to see that you never have.
