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Despite what romantic comedies could tell us,dating is not always fun or easy. This is especially true when the two people involved are not on the same page where their relationship goes: we may want to make a commitment while the other is looking for nothing more than a good time. So, how do you mean if your relationship does not go everywhere? With the help of therapists, we have rounded the infallible signs your relationship does not matter.

Although it may seem, they are simply playing Coy first, if the person you see seems to avoid their eyes every time you talk to them, who is a good sign, they might not be too serious about from you.

"This is a basic indicator that easily differentiates if someone is committed emotionally with us or not," said marriage and family therapistLauren, MMFT, author ofSunny Side Up: Celebration of Happiness.

"Looking at the other in the eye is a paramount way that we connect to each other and when we avoid this gesture, he indicates a lack of openness in the relationship," she says.

It can initially seem like a good thing that the person you see is comfortable with you around social gatherings. However, if your time together always understands other people, it's a serious red flag.

"Emotional availability requires a vulnerability that occurs often in a private space," says Cook. "When someone is closed to the relationship, he always seems to be someone else around what it is a friend, a neighbor or the children. This helps people who are not invested in the relationship avoid real intimacy.

Of course, many people can hardly pass through a meal without looking at their phone, but if the person you see never gives you their attention, it could be an indication that things are not as serious as you think.

Cook, explains that when someone is not completely invested in a relationship, "they often keep their phone so practical that they can stupidly scroll while talking in the background", which is a physical manifestation of their reluctance to completely devote their attention to the relationship or you.

In the era of smartphones, there is virtually no excuse for someone to be incommunicado for days, or even hours, at a time.

"People who want to be exclusive are consistent in their behaviors in the relationship, including regular phone calls or texts, explainsChaure L. Josie, A licensed clinical social worker and the owner ofCJ Council and consulting services. If they enter sporadically in touch, they are not taken seriously your relationship.

It is wrong with nothing with one last minute inviting for a night from time to time, but if it is the only kind of "date" your partner knows how to plan, the chances are that you are dealing with an adventure.

"If anyone wants to meet when it's convenient for them and it's usually in your place or theirs," which is a certain sign that things are not serious, explainsStefanie Juliano, LPCC, a clinical adviser in Rio Rancho, New Mexico.

Juliano says that people who are hesitation on the definition of dates or frequently cancel are probably not thinking about the relationship. They do not need to let everything fall friends and pre-existing plans included to be with you all the time, but you need to be a priority in their social program, and the one they will get to take time for she says.

Of course, not every date going to be a whirlpool adventure, but they should probably be a little more exciting than just ordering and watchingThe single person.

If "the dates are not things that create memories, such as travel [and] road trips," you are probably in an adventure, not a relationship, the marriage says under license and family therapistMargena Carter ofCarter Therapeutic care services.

According to the clinical marriage and family therapistRisa Ganel ofCouples counseling setIf someone you see can not be bothered to take 10 minutes to withdraw from the online dating pool, which is a sign that you are just an adventure for them. "If you feel like it's" there for a good time, not a lot of time, "trust your gut," she says.

This is to "take advantage of the excitement of a new relationship and encourage them to mature with a longer term," says Ganel. But if the warm and heavy passion never seems to grow in other, "the best thing to do for your own emotional development can be to let it go."

If your time ends the second set you have finished in bed, do not count on your relationship evolve towards something more serious. Have "no emotional investment in the rest of sex" means that you are in a flainting, not a relationship, declares an authorized clinical professional advisorKarla Ivankovich, Psyd.

"If you said it was just a flan, believe the person!" Carter says. She pointed out that someone who claims that they interested in your friendship is probably not thinking of you as a long-term partner.

While you do not have to click on the box "in a relationship" on Facebook to know that you are in touch with someone ", tells the world of social media that you are together shows that the person does not have shame to say all those who watch us, "says Josie. However, if the only photos of which he or she plays your time together does not have you in them - or you are never marked - Chances are that is not serious for them.

"People who want exclusivity are very clear about their intentions and feelings about you", including telling their friends and family of you, "said Josie. If you fall on someone, they are close to when you are together and that it is clear that they have never heard of you, your relationship is not long for this world.

Does the person you see is systematically forgotten the name of your mother or where you went to college, even if it sounds like what you told them a million times?

If they do not seem interested in "Discover your needs, your wishes and desires outside the bedroom, it is unlikely that [they are] to build a relationship," says Ivankovich, who notes that Serious people on relationships will serve as they specify that they listen to these details.

If the person you meet insists that you never leave your personal belongings and other items in their place, your relationship is not serious for them, according to Juliano. In other words, if it does not look like a relationship, in their minds, they are probably not in one.

If the person you see "is almost never plans in advance", chances are you're just a blank, says Juliano.

Define the status of your relationship can be uncomfortable. However, if it is a subject of the person you see refuses to discuss, even after you have been dating for a while, it is likely that your relationship will not move on the "occasional" territory.

"If you did not have the conversation on the exclusivity, you are not determined at a monogamous relationship," says Carter.