Why you may have been happy with your ex that you do not think, the study shows
You can control your past relationships, according to recent research.
When you look in a relationship that has long expired, you probably do not remember all that. The sound of the name of your ex could induce an eye roll and the thought ofEmbrace them again makes you piquant. It can be difficult to remember a time you felt love for this person you now have contempt - or at least one ambivalence. However, at one point, you care about enoughengage in a relationship with them. Time and perspective can change your perception of memories, especially romantic. In fact, a recent study has found evidence that you were probably happier with your ex that you do not remember.
A study of 2020 February published by theSocial and Personal Relations Journal sought to examineHow the satisfaction of the relationship changes over time. The researchers saidThe charlatanthat they recruited more than 180 people aged 19 to 35.romantic relationships to get their data. Couples shared how satisfied they were with their current relationships. A few months later, the researchers contacted the couples to see who had broken.
According to a statement by one of the main authors of the study,Aidan Smyth, 26% of couples had broken after four months. Smyth says they then asked these respondents ", four months ago, when you were always with your ex,To what extent are you satisfied with your relationship"Use respondents' responses", researchers compared retrospective satisfaction at the satisfaction level reported four months before, when couples were still intact.
The answers clearly shown that people have remembered their relationships in a much more negative lightpost-break. "After a break, people thought they were not as happy in their past relations as they had been. So, the former partner who had already been considered romantic, adventurous and spontaneous can now be memorized as as naive, reckless and impulsive to have made things work in along-term relationship, "Smyth wrote.
The researchers hypothesized that this change of perspective is an adaptation mechanism that contributes to unconsciously protecting people from the multitude ofFeelings that come with a break. "When a romantic partner is no longer available, a bias to see more critically could provide relief and mitigate regrets," wrote Smyth. Another theory The researchers posed the possibility that the exes are now all of each other without the pink love glasses.
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The remaining question for researchers is what relationship rating is more accurate. "In other words, do you evaluate the quality of a relationship more precisely while you are during the thickness or after the end?" Smyth wrote.
Anyway, research proves that our personal perceptions of our relationships are often biased - and can easily be asymmetrical by time. And if you are eager to strengthen your current partnership, learnThe # 1 thing that makes a successful relationship, a new study shows.
