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One in five American adult deceived their partner, according to a 2015Yugov survey. It is an alarming statistic, and if you are lucky enough to be among the 80% of others, you probably suppose you would start someone who betrayed your trust like that. But often, it's not so simple.

Everyone has an opinion on what a person who has been deceived should do, but only the person in the situation can decide what suits them. The next 20 women have chosen to forgive their cheating partners, and then others have continued to end the line, others have found that it led them to true happiness. Read on to find out why these womenforgiven their cheating partners.

1. "With both of us determined to repair it, we did it."

Nakia saidBetter lifeShe forgave her husband fromCheating three times during their relationship. The root of their problems, she says, stems from the fact that he wanted children, and she already had two and did not want any more.

"He was a sad and imperfect man and I understood that, [but] not at the beginning," she said. "I was [upset] both times, but the last time was different." How? 'Or' What? Well, "The last time has produced a child," she noted.

"When I discovered, I do not even Flunch. I immediately congratulated him and said," Do you want your family or me? "" He chooses it. "We have of course had some work to be done as we had only been married two weeks. Yes, you have heard right, I discovered two weeks after I wife he had a baby this week . But with us both determined to repair it's, we did it. It's been five years now. "

2. "Forgiveness is for yourself, not necessarily for the other person."

"My boyfriend has deceived me and brought back to the house a STD so that it aggravates, "said an anonymous womanBetter life. Yet she chose forgiveness. "Always forget that forgiveness is for yourself, not necessarily for the other person," she noted.

She explained that while she thinks that it is impossible to love another unconditionally person, you can pass past things. "I know it sounds strange, but I did not really attach to the idea," she said. "Does that mean that my boyfriend does not love me? No, he loves me a lot."

3. "He crossed the country to resume our relationship."

"We broke after cheating up, but we stayed friends and after seeing other people for about a year, we reconnect and are back together," wrote the reddit user@roadkill_burrito. She was skeptical at first that he would not be serious about their relationship, but "he crossed the country to resume our relationship and was the ideal boyfriend for four years," she said.

"I've hadTrusted problems For a moment, but things have really been different. I think we understand each other better now. Things have worked, I would not have expected that, but I sometimes supposeLife surprises you. "

4. "I fantasized on our 50th wedding anniversary."

Stacey was deceived about eight years ago and was completely admitted to discover just after she and her husband celebrated their renewal of 25 years. "When confronted, my husband confessed immediately and said the case had been continuing for about five or six months," she saidBetter life. "I imagined the first 25 years of our wedding. It was good. So I fantasized on our 50th anniversary of marriage with all the children and all grandchildren. What would be five months compared to 50years? "

In the end, they made work. "I'm delighted to say that my husband and I have so much learned one on the other and what we really want from each other," she said. "We are goofy, lovers and ready to celebrate our 33rd birthday in a few weeks."

5. "I gave him a list of" non-negotiable "of all the things I was not willing to compromise."

Penelope and her husband were married nearly 14 years old, but a decade of return, he was a former misleading friend who had hurt her. "I only discovered unfaithfulafterWe had broken, "she saysBetter life. "This crisis of life breaking and trust has actually turned into one of the greatest taming trips in itself in my life. I hired a coach and I trusted the process, and I completely changed who I was. Read: Total 180! "

She said she turned into a confident woman healed and then when he came back, she chose it again. "I gave him a list of" non-negotiable "of all the things I was not willing to compromise the things he had to do and things he was not allowed to rebuild confidence thanhe Excluded, "she says. And Loy and behold, he did it.

6. "He tried to do everything he can make of our relationship better."

User reddit@LemonsunshineDiscover her husband cheated her, but they decided to make things work. He then spent the next year putting everything in the relationship. "He tried to do everything that allows him to better make our relationship and help me trust him," she wrote.

7. "He judged to change 100% and he did it."

At first, reddit user@ MANGO2407 Took a little time from her boyfriend when she discovered he was deceiving. But four years later, they finally spent a good place.

"What I really think is that it works, it's because I would have my own apartment in a unit S ***** and seeing him (when about half of my business has been moved)" "She wrote. "That really struck that it was there that we were." She said that the idea of ​​her and their living son there was unbearable for her boyfriend. "He wanted better for us and dedicated to change 100% and he did it."

8. "I'm glad I did not leave my pain at the time enter the path of an otherwise wonderful relationship."

User reddit@expat_sally The discovery of his friend (now - husband) trusted about a year after the fact. "It was a very difficult period, but I thought it when he said he had cut the contact with her," she wrote. "I'm glad I did not let my pain at the time of having a relationship otherwise of a good relationship, but it was not easy to trust him. ... We are married now and very happy. "

9. "We still have a lot of love for each other."

"My ex-boyfriend deceived me," wrote the reddit user@Rosieco. But she decided not to hold the negative feelings to hate her and choose, rather to forgive.

"[He] misinterpreted myself to me, I have drunk and made a very bad choice. Does it go to break? It could be. However, worth it to hate them and the hate. Valuable time waste that broadcasts them? absolutely not, "she writes. "We are not back together, but we always have a lot of love for each other."

10. "It's not a big deal."

"I forgive him after discovering the first time he deceived me," Reddit User@ThisSnotacSpiracy wrote. His partner had been drunk at a New Year's party and kissed another girl. "Then I went," Oh ok, it's not a big deal. You just kissed a girl at midnight. " No matter."

But three years later, she discovered "the other 30 women he deceived [her] with (all different degrees)." She noted that their relationship is now "non-existent" which is "for the best".

11. "We love each other."

"He had beensextage another girl and met her with her once, "User Reddit@overlordkim written of his other significant. Initially, it destroyed their relationship. "But, it turned out to the fact that it was a punctual thing, stimulated by our mutual depression andstressful relationship. "

In the end, they decided to make it work. "He makes sure that I'm always comfortable with what's going on. If I get a little suspicious, he will show me his phone at any time. I do not ask or even accepting his offer to look more" , wrote Redditor. "If something helped us. We both learned about working on ourselves. We communicate better. We give ourselves 100%. ... We love each other. We love each other, and I would say that our relationship is very healthy. "

12. "Our mistakes do not really define us."

"He cheated on me and ended up becoming clean about the entire transaction, "User Reddit@WLADY_LITTLEJOHNwritten of his other important, with whom she has been with seven years. "I have just finished feeling like our mistakes do not really define us. ... I was not going to throw all the good parts of him because of a moment of weakness, a bad decision, especially the one I know that I am also easily could have done. We gave things another shot after taking a few months off and things have been good since. "

13. "I had to stop raising the past."

"He cheated me emotionally and in a way physically", "wrote the reddit user@fetusnachos of his other significant. She was crushed and had lost all confidence for him, but always wantedoperate the relationship. However, it took a long time for this confidence to come back.

"I continued to tell me that I was the one who gave him this second chance and that ... I had to stop bringing out the past because he was trying very strong," she said. "We had our fair share of quarrels, but we are now better than ever. There was also a communication barrier before, but we are now much more open with each other."

14. "I'm not saying it was easy to forgive him."

User reddit@Soinloveitsgrossdiscovered that she had been deceived month after he arrived, after some suspicions. "The cheating has arrived at the beginning of the relationship, and he stopped after less than a month we are together," she writes. "I think what helped me most, is it never really caught in the act, but arrested because he started taking care of me too much. »

She added, "I'm not saying it was easy to forgive him, but ... I trust him entirely, and we could not be happier. »

15. "I think he was horrified by what we had lived. »

After his other significantly cheated on her, the user reddits@Xixia written: "I'm still bad and I still have moments when the low self-esteem strikes me really hard ... [But] I think he was horrified by what we had crossed back when he arrived . She added, "Things are much better now. »

16. "I have seen texts from this girl talking about Plan B."

The boyfriend of a woman continued a cross-country trip while she stayed at home. "He slept with this girl in Colorado, then when he came back, he acted like everything was fine," another anonymous woman saidBetter life. "So once I was on his phone and I saw this girl's sawPlan B" She said she forgave him because she probably misplaced during a trip as well.

18. "I'm not right, it's probably. »

Depending on the user Reddit@aa_man_dulShe and her wife had been married for four months when she "discovered through his text messages" that his wife had a "guy from his work. They tried to save their relationship and stay together. However, they decided after three yearsto separate. "I'm not right, it's probably," she writes. "It's the best thing for both of us. »

17. "People can grow and change. »

User reddit@NortherncalikhaleesiThe boyfriend of ", who finally cheat on her, showed some early red flags. "He even ghosted our first months of meetings for like two weeks," she wrote. "I can laugh now because he was 10 years ago and could never imagine doing it now. People can grow and change. »

19. "We were both wounded, but not as crazy as we expected. »

For Reddit users@laidymondegreenThe cheating has come both sides. "We both cheat while he was doing a study abroad. We both confessed when returning home, "she wrote. We were both wounded, but not as crazy as we expected. We started discussing non-monogamy and eight years later arepolyamor. "

20. "There is not even something that I think more. »

User reddit@OwlpowaaThe boyfriend of "cheating on her a year in their relationship. "I'm too sensitive for a while later, but he did not do once again and we were together more than two years," she says. "We are happy, we have a house together, and the incident is now in the past. It's not even something that I think more. And to learn more about how to treat someone in the act, here's The 17 worst things you can do if you surprise your cheating partner .

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