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We do not need to tell you thatMarriage can be difficult. Chances, you now know the demolute statistics (53% of the first marriages end with divorce within 20 years, according to theCenters for Disaster Control and Prevention) But sometimes, the prospect of dividing can be the first unlikely step inRepair a marriage at the brink edge. Yes, in a strange way, saying the words "I want a divorce"Can actually help a long-term couple, because the following stories of real people prove.

Here you will hear couples who were fighting constantly or justto grow and ended updivorceOnly to discover solutions that helped them stay together. If you are looking forWays to save your wedding, Inspire these real people who have turned things up and rebuilt their love.

WhenJamie Freeman's career was on the rise, her husband Mark was down, she saidFriday. The different places where they were led them to stop talking about their problems, to choose ratheravoid others and any sweep under the carpet. Even their wedding therapist thought they needed time, that they spent nine months without the other.

Finally, their contradictory emotions forced them toFile for divorce For irreconcilable differences. But in the morning, they were undertaken to make the person in front of the court, they had lunch and finally started opening and communicating. The whole experience was more difficult for the pair, but finally, she saved their marriage, said Freeman. "Almost divorcing was horrible," she said Friday. "We are only going out of the debt she created. It was the most raw and most vulnerable time in my life. But I would not change it for nothing."

Faced with drug addiction andinfidelity,Danielle Simone Brand And her husband filed their divorce during his 13th wedding anniversary. But a month later, they canceled the paperwork and dropped to make their wedding work, partly for their children, Danielle wrote forWhat's nine moms.

What else was behind the change of heart? In addition to disgusting the amount of paperwork(and money) that a divorce would takeThey re-examined the reasons for their personal misfortune and found that they were themselves - not from each other - miserable. "Caught to the trap of a life that I had absolutely participated in the creation, the divorce looked like the only way to free ourselves," wrote Danielle. But "tackle the way I was unhappy or unrealized."

When communication problems started disturbingRobina Kauser wedding, she initially tried to change her husband, she wrote in an article forThe Muslim atmosphere. When he refused to accept that all that was wrong, Robina sought online answers and friends and experts, but none of the advice she has received held the answer to his problems.

"I had completely lost the battle to listen to my husband andSave our wedding. I felt helpless, exhausted and depressed silently, "she wrote." I finally started to accept the reality that mythe wedding was overAnd that it went down the path of divorce. "

It is only only that Robina was struck by a changing game of play that she put in a trap by making her happiness depending on her husband and trying to change it. She needed to find the ability to be happy and that the rest would come. This simple idea, Rabina wrote, "transformed my marriage [and] my life in a way that I have never dreamed possible. I was no longer suffering, screaming like a mad person to hear, and that the rows constant flamboyant also ended. "

After getting married at 21,Richard Paul Evans And his wife, Keri, had trouble staying in love for more than three decades, they explained toNBC News. They stopped talking and fought for power in the relationship. Then, after having cried in the shower a day at age 55, Richard said he thought he asked Keri aSimple and sincere question: "How can I make your day better?" Now, they are wondering every day the same question of making sure they help each other.

Robyn and Donny had a perfect life a minute, then a series of family problems pretty so hard that they almost divorced, Robyn wrote forCourageous Community Girl. They loved their career, their home, their daughter and their dog. Before things went to Haywire, Robyn wrote that they often please: "Life was easy. Why everyone around us did not know how to do that?"

Then they suffered a miscarriage and later had ason with autism. Their relationship went in a time of tutorial and they spent less and less time together. After a separation, Robyn and Donny put their non-confrontational natures aside and decided to work on their wedding. Now they take the time from each other every day and they are never badmouth apart from their wedding.

Darcy Reeder and her husband had it a bit difficult after three years of marriage, even fighting in the car during their three-year-old teste, like Darcy detailed in a position forP.S. I love you. But then they found an unexpected way to connect: Yoga YouTube videos. After a false start, they finished 30 daysYoga's protest, and they always work together three or four days a week.

How has experience changed relationship? "Rather than repeating the endless cycle of combat, I let the best in myself recognize the best of my husband, and it's saved our marriage," she wrote.

After 14 years together,Kim Zapata And her husband had essentially ceased to have deep and personal conversations, she wrote in a post forBabble. They had become separated while they had changed over the years and when she announced that she thought of leaving, he acceptedgo to the therapy.

Talking to a therapist, they realized that they needed to create a security space to talk to each other. "For us, it's nothing more than a moment that we put aside every day to address the other and listen to really," wrote Kim. "A free time, without a device and without distraction, to talk about what is happening in our minds."

ForSylvia Smith And her husband, the divorce seemed imminent until she begins to examine her own role in their failing marriage, she wrote forTuesday. Sylvia re-examined his religious faith, which contributed, but she also looked at her actions with fresh eyes. "It had a lot to do with the identification of my main problems, to stop the blame game, then deciding that I was going to work through the problems I had contributed, which compromised our happy marriage," "She explained.

VALLI VIDA GIDONONS And her husband had nothing nice to say, but then their therapist asked them to write lists of things they loved each other. "Once I started, I could not stop," wrote Valli in a post forHis view of the house. "And it was not the great things that resounded instead, the shades, the didbibits on the memory path and all the other idiosyncrasies I had no longer recognized. When they shared their lists, Valli and her husband were bothdisplaced by thought they had forgotten a long time. "Sweet Nothings are not nothing - they are everything," she wrote.

In an article onHouston's moms,A woman named Keri wrote how she and her husband, Ryan, had harm for years after the death of their daughter and other family health problems. The couple tried a separation and temporary therapy with mixed results.

In the end, what helped them find a way to stay together was something that a friend said, "It's time to make a decision. Select the sheets and move on, or choose the alliances you have made to the wedding. Anyway, make a choice. . Stop living in limbo. "They chose the latter and have been together for almost two decades now.

Valerie Kolick was convinced that she could "repair" her husband. "I thought I could use the information in books to get love and adoration I needed in real life," she wrote forGreen mind body. But Valerie quickly discovered that, thinking that she had to repair her husband, she really blamed him for all their questions. And blaming him, she went to the victim. Thus, she has actively chosen to change mentality to think of her husband as teammate. Now she wrote: "We work through our challenges and celebrate our team victories."

Heidi Powell And her husband, Chris, spread over the years and who understood a steep decline in the amount of sex they had. Heidi wrote about his blog that in the middle of one of their "abandoned infamous, dragging battles" and talks about divorce, they decided to try to reconnect by defiding to have sex every day for a month. Even in the days when they were fighting, they had to put their guns and make love instead. "What I really believe has really changed us, we were our dedication to spend even 20 minutes every day focused on the other," she wrote.