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There is half a generation, if you were reversed by a person, you did one of the two things to raise the flame of their own ardor: you flirted with them in person or flirt with them by phone. How times have changed. A single friend of mine recently told me that his low-risk low-risk disturbance is simply uses social media. Yes, he understood how correctlyFlint on Instagram. There are several ungracious and even romantic ways to do it.

"Sometimes, just after a [woman] can feel like a bold loop," he says. "But believe it or not, it works. If it does not follow, it's a fairly useful information. And if it follows me, I'm just going to start to love a photo or two and see where things go ... Recently, I entered a [woman] in which we kept without words the photos of the other every two minutes. Finally we dm'd and went on a date. "

For the record: he is 38 years old.

Now, all you think in this way safely, distanced and even childish to flirt (for record: I urge all men to take the phone, always), you simply can not discuss with results. So I called some meetings and social media experts to compile the ultimate backs and do not flirt on Instagram to help you follow, as and DM your way to the relationship of the relationship.

Make: Follow them before slipping into their DMS.

If you want to draw someone's attention, follow them. "Most people consider that their disciples are and if the other personFollow you back, you are already ahead of the game, "saysJen Hecht, Chairman of the Dating Advisory Board. This is an action on Instagram that will really not be perceived as too aggressive by anyone, that you know them in real life or not. But a word of caution: if you ask to follow someone who has a private profile and do not accept your request, do not ask again. Sorry. They are just not in you.

Not: Like every photo, they post.

All our experts agree that a mass taste of someone else's positions is a terrible idea that derives as haunting. If you will love more than one photo, however, here is a prominent council: "I advise guys fromlike a variety of photosnot just selfies and sexy photos, "saysJonathan Bennett, certified advisor, dating expert and founder of the popular man. "Build a relationship and get to know her by actually exploring photos that reveal more than her appearance. Women know what a guy is after when he focuses only on sexy photos."

Make: Send a reflected dm.

Ah, to direct a message or not to direct a message? Sometimes it may seem to send someone that a DM is a little too advanced, but "it's not scary if that's tastefully", "said Hecht. After all, you are an adult and you know what you want. "Be light, fun and hire when sending the message," she says. If you arrive at someone you have never encountered before, be particularly prudent to keep things appropriate. "How are you going to touch a potential business customer if you were trying to create a first meeting? The same principles apply to the tendency to an interest in love", pose Hecht. If you already know your love interest, ignore them and send them instead of the DM text.

Not: Send multiple DMS.

"The basic rule ofFlirting social media is not to be scary, "says Bennett. Repeat messages when you do not get an answer? Yeah. Creepy. Instagram messages have a practical function that displays the word "VU" once the recipient read the message. If your love interest has read your message but did not answer, take the index.

Make: Framing comments as questions.

The best way to get an answer fromSomeone interested in Instagram is just asking him a question, according toMae Karwowski, Marketing expert on social media and founder and Chief Executive Officer of evidence. "Comment on someone's photo content in a pleasant and non-aggressive way," she advises. "Make a comment a question about what's happening on the photo, not looking for that person. Do not forget that you are trying to create a dialogue," she adds.

For example, if you leave a comment on a picture of the person on a beach, say something like: "Your holiday looks amazing, how was it?" Do not write: "You look like a total smoke show." Simple, right? Law.

Not: Tell everything you would not say in person.

Be not weirdBehind the social media filter. "A good guideline is she asked," I would say that or did this if I saw this [female] in person? "Bennett said." If the answer is no, so do not do it on Instagram either. "

Make: Take things offline.

The final goal here is to meet this person in person, so do not prolong the online conversation when it is possible to go to a date and whether you are right for each other. "Exit public information as quickly as possible," says Karwowski. "Say," I come from you dm "and keep the conversation out there. If that goes well, go to the text, send yourself an email, all you want to do." Once you have both shown interest, there is no reason to waste time playing games.

Not: Send mixed signals.

If you are not interested in meeting a person offline, do not search them online. "We have to stop hiding behind our devices," says Hecht. Ghosts, bread crumbs and padding have become easier to do because of social media, and it's not a nice look, especially for an adult man. "Be human," adds Hecht. Do not only add someone to stimulate your ego or as a way to fill your time when you're bored.

Make: Make your move, then let it go.

Overall, Karwowski has a global rule to flirt Instagram: "Delicate it once aside, then to drop it, especially if you do not know the person," she advises. "Repetitive comments, tastes and Other actions expressing interests do not count as the real flirt. "If they do not take the index, move on or look for a simpler way to let them know that you are interested, as calling them to a date.

Not: Count on social media for dates.

"The truth is that Instagram was not conceived as a dating site, so it can be very confusing when it is used as a", explainsNikki Goldstein, sexologist and author ofSingle but dating. "How do you know if anyone loves your photos because they really like your photos or because they love you? There could be some more evident clues if they send you direct messages and ask you for a date, But a flirting electronically the terms of the following and loves them can be misleading and confusing and leave someone who asks, "What does it mean?" In other words, if you are really sure that you are Love someone and you have the means to contact them outside Instagram, it's probably a better bet.