33 forgetting rules forgotten to practice impeccable ways
People were much more polished from the day.
The label rules do not always agitate well. In fact, some of centuries centuries ago seem squarely ridiculous today. For example, in the manual of the ways of 1883American label and polite rules,Professor Walter R. HoughtonAnd his colleagues explain that when a man is presented to a woman ", the two should bow slightly, and it is the duty of the gentleman to start a conversation." A little old old, would not you say?
But there are actually some forgotten label rules that are still applicable today. Yes, even Houghton and Co. Have words of wisdom deserve to be elapsed. Keep reading for some of the old label rules of their manual that you can - and should you still use today.
1 "If you have the chance to be in the company of a lower, do not let him feel his inferiority."
With this board, Houghton and Co. You urge you not to act as if you are better than anyone, even if you believe in the merits of you. Not only is a superiority complex is a complex of superiority to the person as a result of your attitude, but it's also just rude!
"When you invite an indicator like your guest, treat it with all the politeness and the consideration you would show an equal," advises the manual. So, the next time you find yourself, you turn on your nose to someone, remember thisto reign and Nix sprootiness.
2 "The private property of others should be carefully respected."
This one is simple and simple: do not fit. People have the right to theirprivacy, and this should be respected.
"Do not allow your curiosity to try to attempt to pray from offices, letters, pockets, trunks or anything belonging to another. Do not read a written paper lying on a desk or table; What it can be is certainly no matter on your part, "explains the manual.
3 "Never hire a person in private conversation in the presence of others, nor mysterious allusions that no one else understands."
This advice can be interpreted in different different ways. In respect, this could mean that you should not exclude someone by participating in a conversation with another person in public that only you will get. In another, it could indicate that you should not embarrass someone by raisingpersonal conversation You had with them in front of other people. However, you interpret this old-fashioned label rule, one thing remains a constant: if it's a private conversation, keep it private.
4 "Never lose the time of others by waiting for them."
This ancient label rule really emphasizes the importance of being on time. According to the manual, in beinglate, you "waste someone's time from someone else, which is quite gross and inconsiderate.
5 "Do not show a lack of courtesy by consulting your watch at home or abroad."
If you check thetime In front of someone, you can send the message you prefer to be elsewhere else, which can be considered disrespectful.
"If at home, it appears as if you were tired of your business and you wish them to be gone. If abroad, it seems that the hours dragged heavily, and that you calculate how long you would be released "Note the authors.
6 "It's your duty to seem interested in the conversation of those who speak."
Being a good listener does not mean that keeping your eyes on your watch. You should make an effort to hire you and tell the person to talk that you areaudience and understand what they say.
7 "Gossip and tales are always a personal confession of malice and fool."
According to the manual, chatter and backstabbing "should be expelled by young people from both sexes". Not only does the diffusion of rumors suggest that you have sick to someone, it also makes you seem like a person who should not trust.
8 "It's very rude and an extreme violation of the rules of the label to make a commitment, business or pleasure, and to break it."
Do not cancel plans unless it is absolutely necessary. More importantly, do not go out someone, whether it's on purpose or just because youforgetYou made plans in the first place.
If you are a non-forgetful natural person, the manual suggests writing your plans "in a small memorandum book transported for this purpose." Or you know, you can use the calendar of your smartphone.
9 "An invitation, once given, can not be recalled."
If you invited someone to something, you should never cancel your invitation for any reason. The only exception? According to the manual, if the bad person has received the invitation, you are allowed to say something.
10 "Never ask for impertinent questions. Never betray a curiosity of knowing the private and interior affairs of others."
It's a more enjoyable and more Victorian way to say "Think about your business". According to the manual, the lives of other people by asking personal questions "often causing embarrassment".
11 "If a person is satisfied in a conversation, you should not insist on the hearing of what he intended to say."
We have all been in a situation in which we almost accidentally said something we did not want to say before stopping quickly. And if you are in the presence of someone when they make this mistake, according to Houghton and his colleagues teachers, you should not put them pressure to continue talking about it. There is a reason why they stopped themselves and you should respect that.
12 "Never reply to another roughly or impatiently."
Unfortunately, we tend to take ourbad mood on those around us. However, depending on the manual, no matter how frustrated you are in the moment, you should always be aware of how you answer people and avoid making them feel bad without any reason. Even if you have a bad day, make sure you always give others the respect they deserve.
13 "Never boast of birth, friends or money, or higher benefits that you might have."
Be proud, but remains humble. Everyone did not have the same benefits you had in life and you need to be aware of that when you talk to others. More often than no, boasting it only makes you appear upheaval and impolite.
14 "Make sure you do not spend your money only to show how you can be liberal."
Similarly, do not spendmoney Only to be flashy or seeing, especially if you spend beyond your means. "There is a reasonable limit to spend money, that everyone will respect you for observation. The economy is nothing to be ashamed," Houghton and Co. write. Those who matter will not judge you on the basis of the money you have, so do not just exceed to impress people.
15 "Never harm a businessman or a woman in hours of work, unless you want to see them on business."
Do not interrupt someone while they arejob. If you have something to chat with someone while they are at work that do not concern their work, just wait after the times.
16 "Never answer a serious remark with a shot."
There is no harm toBe funny friendbut all has a time and place. If someone tries to speak in a serious way, do not answer by doing ato joke.
17 "Always shows respect for religious opinions and observations from others, no matter how many they differ from yours."
Site of religious statisticsAdherents Estimates that more than 4,200 religions exist around the world - and with that in mind, it is important to show respect towards everyone, even those who pray for a different God than you do, or none of the all.
18 "Young people seem very ridiculous trying to make the other ridiculous by satire or ridicule."
Make fun of someone does not make that person looks bad - it's doneyou Look badly. If you want others to think very well, do not find yourself using the call, to make fun of or intimidate someone else.
19 "Never talk about the virtues of a man in front of his face or his faults behind his back."
Houghton and Co. warn that you should nottalk a lot about someoneWhen you are in their presence only to go talk bad about them when they are not there. No good can come from being two face.
20 "A gentleman should never reduce the intellectual norm by conversing with ladies."
This is a specific old-fashioned label rule that we can certainly have behind. According to the manual, a man should never assume awomen Can not follow an intelligent conversation or offend it by talking to him as if it were lower. "A lady of intelligence will not feel compliments in any way, if, when you talk to him, you" go down "to the subjects of the town", Houghton and his colleagues note.
21 "Do not put your elbows on the table or sit too far, no living room."
Thistable the way can be fallen by the road, but an expert labelMARALE MCKEE says it's something we should absolutely practice. "When your elbows are outside the table, you are sitting instead," she wrote on his website,Manner. "The research has shown again and again that the greatest you are sitting, the more people pay attention to you and place an additional authority and added value to what you say."
22 "No one, while walking in the street, should fail, either by negligence, or a voluntary negligence, to recognize the knowledge."
If you see someone you know in public, he is rude not toacknowledge them. Even if you do not want to talk to them or are in a hurry, a simple "hello" by passing or a head head in their direction will suffice.
23 "Look in the way you go, both to avoid collisions and because it's bad ways to look in any other direction."
Depending on the manual, "do not look in houses. Avoid looking fully in the faces of foreigners you meet, especially ladies." In this case, the authors simply recognize that one should be aware of their visual contact during the exit and from the point of view. Watch someone can go out like an invasion of privacy, rude or even frightening.
24 "In the means of public transport, we must do nothing to dispel or annoy his passenger colleagues."
Each subway runner andpassenger airplane should take note of this label rule. When traveling, you should always be attentive on those around you. It means keeping your shoes on, keep your music down and maintain as much personal space as possible.
25 "When a visitor has been granted to the courtesy to choose his own period, he should certainly leave his friend knowing in advance of his coming."
It does not matter the proximity that you are with someone, if you planto visit They are only polite to give a courtesy warning. Even though your PAL could enjoy an unexpected visit, it is always better to give them time to prepare rather than catching them potentially out of custody at an annoying time.
26 "Do not touch or treat any of the ornaments of the house where you are visiting. They are intended to be admired, untreated by visitors."
When you areVisit someone else's house-With warning, of course, keep your legs of their property. If you spend picking up or dive into their personal belongings, it could not only be considered a coarse gesture, but you could even accidentally break something in the process.
27 "Couples must know each other carefully before becoming engaged."
Although Houghton and his colleagues recognize that "love at first sight" can be a reality, they also note that it is not something that should immediately lead to marriage.Relationships Take work and even at the end of the 1800s, it was wise that the couple is safe, they are a good match before indulging.
28 "A gentleman can repeat his costume after being spread once pushed back, but if she refuses a second proposal, the pursuit should be abandoned."
If you aska womanAnd she says no, the manual says you are allowed to try once again in case the "difference or uncertainty" played a game in his answer. But should you continue if she says no twice? Certainly not! And, like Houghton and colleagues, no man is due to an explanation either.
"The label requires the pretender to accept the decision and retires on the ground. He does not have the right to ask for the reason for his refusal," they wrote. "To persist in exhorting the combination, or to follow the lady with marked attentions, would be in the worst taste possible."
29 "Never lends a borrowed book, but returns such a book the day you're finished."
This advice goes for all that someone has lent to you, whether it's apiece of beloved literature or a pair of shoes. You should never give someone else's things, and once you have finished using a borrowed item, make sure to immediately return it to the person who had lent him.
30 "Never neglect to make a committee business for a friend."
If a friend asks you for a favor and you agree to help, you must always follow your promise. That's what friends are for, after all! However, if it is completely out of your ways to execute this favor, so excuse you before denying the request.
31 "Always accept with expressions of gratitude Any gift offered you in the spirit of kindness."
No matter thegiftAlways accept gracefully what has been given to you with a smile on your face. Even if it's not your taste, it's the thought that matters.
Houghton and her colleagues also warn that you should not question how someone has been able to offer a gift they gave you. "Never tell someone who makes you a gift," I'm afraid you do not prove to you "or anything to imply that the gift exceeds his means," they write.
32 "You owe it to you and those with whom you mingle me as well as possible."
According to the manual, one of the most important things in life is to be well balanced, well read and well informed. In all situations, you should be able to participate in an interesting conversation without going out as unknown.
"There is no embarrassment like the one who comes from a conscious ignorance of things we should know," Houghton and Co. write. "Get an education if possible, but by all means, get information."
33 "Do others as you would have others that others do you."
This is probably one of the oldest label rules of the book, and Houghton and colleagues make sure to note. They say that it is universally the biggest rule that there is, and that "every insensitive and nasty act is rude and impoli". And if you are looking for more ways to be nice, avoid these30 nasty things you do without even realizing it.
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