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Ah, dating: one of the greatest mysteries of life and the only thing we aspire more than depositing our taxes each spring. Okay, so maybe it's a little dramatic. The meeting has fun and exciting moments. (This first kiss! These butterflies!) But it can also be embarrassing and nervous, especially inDigital age. Of course, at the end, the meeting can be very very valuable, especially when you find the person with whom you want to share your life. The trick will get there. To do this, women have developed a number of different ways to navigate through the matrix and prevent major bad floors along the way. Historically, they kept these tools under the wraps. But now, we remove the curtain on thoseThe secrets of women meetings monitor.

1. We do more research than you realize.

It would be slightly to say that women are diligent in our research. We check your Twitter to see if you are funny, your Instagram to see where you are traveling, your Facebook to evaluate your political inclinations and your LinkedIn to see if you are employed.

"It's not harassing Google someone," saysTrish McDermott, meetings coach atMeetopolis.com and a member of the founding team ofMatch.com. "We live in the information age. We discover the reviews before choosing a restaurant for lunch; it is perfectly normal to be curious to be a date and security reasons, it's a good idea to dig a little. "

2. We compare ourselves with your ex.

Unfortunately, there is a disadvantage to harass a date on Facebook. Go through the old profile pictures come with the risk of meeting the ex of your date.

This can lead to prejudicial comparisons that cause a lack of self-confidence on the next date. "We rarely measure when we insistat the comparison of others, and we lose the very essence of whom we are, the magic that makes us who we are," says McDermott.

She adds that it's important for women to remember that "your date requestedyou out or agreed to go out withyou, because there was something about you who was intriguing or attractive. "

3. We check your zodiac sign for compatibility.

The cat came out of the bag on it. Even if we are not totally convinced thatAstrology is a legitimate concept, we want to know - before leaving on a date - if we pair well with Virgos (even if you did not know that you were a virgin).

4. We give you a code name.

Have you thought that when we talked about you, we used the name on your birth certificate? If so, you are oh so wrong. Your code name could be anything from where we met ("Gym Cruck"), at your work ("tech dude"), to your most recognizable feature ("Grand Guy"). Anyway, you probably will never know!

5. We crotted our friends for advice.

Group cats blow frequently before going dates with friends's thoughts on the subjects to a violation and what topics to avoid.

These group cats also include cardiac conversations on what we are looking for from the date-and dating in general. For example, if a woman has just seen a break, she could tell her besties that she just seeks to come back to the dating scene. And if she has been there for a while, she could tell them that she sincerely hopesThis person could be thea.

6. We want you to have an opinion but that you are also observing ours.

Especially if we are invited, it's good if the invitation includes at least one suggestion on where to go or what to do. The only thing as serious as feeling like we do not have the say on the date, it's having to manage "I do not know, what do you want to do?" guy.

7. We say to our friends where we will be and when we expect to go home.

Better sure that sorry, we always say. You can also make sure that we have at least a friend waiting to call us with an urgent "problem" if we send them textos that we feel uncomfortable. It's not something to take personally.

8. We use excuses to get out of dates.

At one time or another, every woman did it, especially to escape a second date if the first did not go all that. We will make aSmall white lie About the way the work is suddenly crazy or taking our pet (imaginary) to an appointment of a last minute veterinarian.

To no one is surprise, these brush sometimes. "Your potential date is likely to wait for your excuse. And who can blame them? They have no idea that you are just not interested," says McDermott. "Possess your right to say no. You do not have to make a treatise on everything you find little attractive, boring or really weird about them. Continue it and keep it about you."

9. We sometimes have a meal pre-meal.

Sometimes we do not know if it is a date of dinner or a date of drinks, and we want to make sure we are covered. And sometimes, as horrible as it sounds - we do not want to be too voracious on the date.

But as McDermott points out, this is totally useless. "It goes back to the decidedly anti-feminist conviction that women should be small delicate birds," she says. In other words: women should eat and order what they want.

10. And we are looking for the menu.

Yes, we choose our meal in advance. But if you think about it, it's very convenient. In doing so, we can spend less time reading on the harbor wine reduction sauce and more time focusing on hand-reaching conversation. So long, awkward silence!

11. We had a glass of wine before the date.

Who does not need a little liquid courage before a date? But McDermott warns that this should not be a regular pre-date practice. "You should not have to have a drink before a date," she says. "Your nervousness is part of who you are, and if your date can not see that, move on."

12. We pay particular attention to the way you treat staff.

If you can not be polite and friendly for service workers (and the patient if there are delays or other problems), we see that as a huge and bright red flag. It does not make you impressive, just rude.

13. We try multiple night outfits for our friends.

Try outfits in the mirror is one thing; Showing friends and roommates several options in person or on FaceTime are another. Make a complete fashion show for a friend tryingTwo or three outfits Before choosing the last hours of Frontrunner before leaving on a date is virtually abnormal. Is it slightly excessive? Probably. Will we continue to do it anyway? Certainly.

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14. We experience with different makeup looks.

Why we suddenly transform youtube influencers in the hours prior to a date that can always be a mystery. But we do it, tests and try againDifferent makeup look Until we would land on what we would have landed anyway: our original routine, go to makeup. Who would have thought?!

15. We arrive early, but we stop first not to seem too eager.

We are worried that the arrival too early makes us seem a non-incentive, but the late arrival makes us appear disorganized. The solution? We arrive early, but stop somewhere in the block to wait for the difference in time and walk in the restaurant or the right bar on Cue.

16. We text our updates from our bathroom friends.

Or the table while you are in the bathroom. Or under the table, while you look at the menu. You would better believe that our best friends receive the 411 on the date.

The first text coming out on a blind date? It's probably a variation of "Do not worry, it seems safe."

17. We sweat on the invoice to come.

No matter how you cut out, this scenario is always a bit awkward (or sometimes severely). Do you suppose your date pays off because it asked you? Do you offer to go Dutch?

There is not a definitive optimal approach, but offering to help you cope with the invoice by covering your meal can not hurt. There is a chance to your appointment anyway, but do the offer is always a nice gesture.

18. We fulfill our friends the minute we get home.

Have we already given fragmented updates throughout the evening? Yes. Are we still trying to contact them via FaceTime or a regular phone call once we go home? You bet. Our best friends obviously need a complete execution of the date, good or bad. After all, they sat through this fashion show and all tracks it on Facebook.

19. We do not need to wait for three days for text.

These rules relating to the hand after a date on a date so as not to seem "too impatient" are totally prehistoric, especially since texts are much more relaxed than a phone call. If the date went well, we will be happy to have a note, whether it's a mere refers to something we talked about the night before or just a "how is your day?"

20. And we reign our calendars for a second date.

If everything went well, we mentally reorganize our schedules so that we are free to see you again. Because we really want an zodiac incompatibility and everything. And for what not to do, here isThe 23 most common encounter errors, according to relationship experts.