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We are continually developing our games, trying to do everything better: close the deal, shivering woods, floating bunker short cap. Generally, we are nuts about getting every advantage. But there is an activator of powerful and easy to grasp life that most of us leave on the table. With the exception of service Thanksgiving lips once a year on the pumpkin pie and yams, men are really washes gratitude.

Also blessed many of us know, you'd think that gratitude is disappearing everywhere, but not. Most men are ungrateful bastards. I say this not in the indictment, but in fraternity. I was lucky as a man can be, and yet I am ungrateful fool, so too immersed headlong into the boat to have to stop and savor the thousand flowers bloomed.

If you want an excuse, it's here. Men are weaned on the ambitions and the demands that we move away from the gratitude and discontent and envy. The same energy that we make it so assertive and therefore, if successful, we also pay unappreciated harvest these virtues help us harvest. You know the border in your head? The motivating idea of ​​bigger and better and more and more wonder-what-what-on that hill?

Well, gratitude grows best from this side of the hill, right here and right, not the land of nature and only one day. And you know that the selfish man who carves his life with both hands? Well, it does not always notice how many others have done for him. And this complete controller, go-go boys admire us? Well, it often gets where he's going, but it has not always enjoying the ride. Every single feature that complies with gratitude, each atténicité of the heart is crushed by capital capital capital capital-driving, we are exhorted to be from the moment someone shouts, "it's a boy". Gratitude is for your mother; The old man is busy repairing the roof.

If your mind first line asks, "who cares? What is in gratitude for me?" The answer is more than you'd think. First, countless studies have shown that grateful hearts are also healthier. The short version is too simple and that thankless guys have higher levels of stress hormones, especially cortisol, which degrade the blood vessels. It's not good. Second, if you have not enjoyed your life as much as you thought you would be now, it might be because you do not even see your life, you just look after part of a life should to have. But third, and best of all, if you are just greedy and you do not know unless you are a better person grateful for what you actually bring you more of the good things that you want. A grateful man is a magnet. The capitalists want to hire him. Women are attracted to him. He adds with every game. Being decent is actually quite clever.

Now of course, we do not want to be grateful greeting card. Nobody wants that. We need a more muscular version of gratitude, an assessment which allows us to get out of our training thankless, but always makes honor indifference which makes us well. We are after the total fineness of the warrior poet, a gentle force that allows us to participate in and enjoy.

I have already started the way. And I will use this Thanksgiving, when I'm surrounded by my most precious blessings, as the official launch of the Hallelujah tour. If you were already done something for me over the years, do not be surprised if you get a late note of thanks. Here are some thoughts that guided helped me to begin and may be useful if you are interested in catching the benefit of gratitude.

Facing east

Most often, when I hear tips in the kind of stop and feel the roses, I have a desire to piss on the rosebushes. Yes, of course, we should notice all the little enchants of the world and we should be grateful for this phrase oh yeah, the miracle of the breath. I would like to have this serenity, but ... Hey, where is my iPhone? Let's face it, we are bad to be in the moment, preferring to look forward what is the next or, even better, anger and regret. I will never become a conscious Buddha, but late, I actually took a small step towards tranquility. Every day in the last 2 weeks, I took 2 minutes to look or more precisely, you feel it - the sun rise. Yes, I know, I know. I was skeptical too. Just try. I liked it. Outside. On the bridge. Before the starter pistol. A tip of the cap with daily creation.

Try

We see life as a fight. It's not. Of course, he has his competitive corners, but hey, it's easy. It's hard to notice beautiful things if we are constantly in battle mode. Remember the review of "70s Pirate Pirate Slugger Willie Stargell, who captured the effort and baseball of the required flows in two oxymoronic words: try more easily.

Cherish cracks

These days, when a curious father of a lazy teen worries about this in chemistry, he often gets the lazy slogan "that's all good." It is intended to teach PAMA focused on the continuous success that the setbacks are also part of human history and are of course fitting when it is deployed. However, there is in fact a wisdom in this idiot wind. We do not have a lot of patience with bad news.

We prefer rather diving in advance. In a way, this instinct is a lot to admire - by continuing with it's good. But we should not move forward without the lessons of pain. Sadness makes gratitude brighter. We learn gratitude downhill in grief and fear of infirmity and illness and loss, drinking what is bitter in the cup. Our humanity becomes completely lit by Heartbreak; Gratitude grows wounds. When my father died, ourselves-his wife, his children, his friends, said how much the world seemed diminished without him, and showing us the beauty of his time here. I think it was a poet and singer-composer Leonard Cohen who wrote that everything is beautiful is cracked; That's how light hinders. Take pride in your scars.

See with new eyes

We are used to women in our lives. Once they have been around a few years, we forget that they are (a) greatly kind, (b) well and true, and (c) exquisite. Look again. No chance? Look again.

Be sweet with yourself

Yes, I stole this area of ​​Desiderata, the flower poster that proliferated in the adolescence chambers of the Republic of 1968 to 1975. This is why. Then it was a lame excuse for doing nothing. But now, it's something different. Now it's an approval of everything you did.

We must do better the pride of our achievements. Perhaps it's the scene of life, but I know a lot of successful men, guys with real professional achievements, flourishing children, yeast weddings, beautiful houses, good friendships, who are more Serious for the successes they did not have they are excited about the great things they made. A grateful man appreciates his trip. If you can not say your own value, it is difficult to value other people and enjoy this place as much as you could.

Welcome to the decline in blood pressure and more joy. Now, pass this Pecan pie. Sure why not? Slap a whipped cream on there too. Thank you my friend.

Note: This column originally ran originally in the November / December 2004 issue ofBetter life.

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