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These days, most of us are on at least oneSocial media platform. And although Facebook and Instagram seem to seem good ways to connect with friends, colleagues and family members that you do not see too often, many things are smoke and mirrors. People come out of their way to present the best version of themselves on social media, even if this version is not exactly real. So, while your old flame may seem struck by their new significant, know that theirLovey-dovey comments on the photos of the other Do not show the whole story. Moreover, with filters and photoshopping, you can not compare your appearance every day to someoneInstagram photos carefully manufactured. With so many opportunities to create "better" versions of ourselves online, chances are high, even if you have told a fiber or two on Facebook. It's time to be real and talk about social media lies with all those who have been guilty of saying at some point.

Everyone wants someone to be proud (or envious) of them. But it needs to have other people to see your successes and achievements, because something extraordinary has created a culture of manufacturing or exaggeration, especially on social media.

Mike Bran, founder ofAttractiveness, says it's something he sees too often because people "want to be recognized". For example, alazy colleague Which happened in another position because they did not work well in their other role could go online and say they "have a promotion", so that people see the switch of a positive light rather than negative.

We all want to seem like if we are the best dog at our office - as many people will embellish the importance of their role in their business on social media.Shaun McDonough explainedQuora That he has worked with people who were happier to receive a "swollen" job title on a salary increase, because most people will know your title but not your salary.

What you are viewing on social media: photoprojets of your business party, once a celebrity has come in your office, or this huge widow bottle Clicquot your boss had a congratulation gift when she was promoted when she was promoted. What you do not show up: replenishment of the mini-fridge for guests, this air conditioning leak which left a stain of water on the carpet and the colleague who can not go through your office at the beginning of the week without asking if you have "A case from Monday. "Even the thing people complain the mosttheir work-It something they can not help but glamorize on social media.

Of course, this photo in front of the Eiffel Tower and the perfectly timed photo of an oceanic wave are beautiful, but they do not show the snapshots of your travels. They do not show you a race at your door, you almost miss your flight. They do not show you grumpy and shifted, unable to leave your hotel room Mediocre. But during his holidays, people show only the best parts of their trip.

An investigation into the 2019 jet costs of more than 4,000 Americans showed that two-thirds have admitted "lie on their experiences with the weather, the quality of accommodation and the amount of visits made" when traveling, likeTravel pulse reported. So, the next time you are dissatisfied with a vacation, know that most people have lived the same thing, even if they do not ask about it.

And some people will go up to lying on the places they have visited entirely. Whether it's a holiday or just lie to people for spending somewhere in the past, it's not a rare social media practice. In fact, the idea broke so much that there was aViral video trend Where YouTubers "Simulate" a trip on their social media profiles, proving the ease to do.

Whether the flash of dollar banknotes on a video screen or indicating things online that you can not really afford, people always try toget richer than they are. Having designer items means that you have money, so you propose a photo of a creator bag from the store instead of buying it in reality - but no one has to know that, of course. Even the phenomenon of people who pose in front of luxury cars that are not actually an example of that. It's aboutapparentas if you have a wealth.

We understand. You eat a chensome salad, and you want the world to know that you turn on a new sheet, if you want. However, more often than it is not.Natalie Levy, founder ofShe is independent, says this idea of ​​wanting people to see you as "healthy" coincides with aDiet disorder called Orthorexia. This is where people are obsessed with the consumption of foods that "people consider to be healthy", whether or not it is to consume it in good health.

On this same note, people will also lie on their workouts. As the levy points out, many physical or junkies professionals actually have "training disorders or corporal disorders". But do they present this reality online? Not enough. Instead, they "present the presentation of the physical and speak to their success and success, but do not affect much more than the physical marks and brands that co-promote," says the levy. This, in exchange, makes people compare unhealthy themselves with the physical condition objectives that can be unrealistic because that's what they saw online.

It's easy to create an online knowledge facade. Poster a photo ofTolstoy Anna Karenina And people will think that you are a smart and well read human being, even if you have never previously passed it. AsKarl Taro Greenfield to crushThe New York Times, with the emergence of the internet, "it has never been so easy to pretend to know without anything to know anything."

Your followers may think that your children are "perfect little angels" if that's all you show about them online. But theRealities of parenthood are much more complicated than that. In fact, sociologistKoyel bandyopadhyayay to crushQuora That parents obsessed with social media adopt unhealthy complexes on their children. "Parenting becomes a competition and the children try to follow the ambitions of their parents," she wrote. "These affirmation and competitive problems percelent to children, who feel invested in their performative capacities, aspiring to be" perfect children ".

InDonna Freitas' The effect of happiness, an overwhelming 73% of the students she questioned said "Always try to appear positive and happy with all that is attached" to their real names. Whether posting an old smiling selfie when you are crying or tweeting on how you are #bous you are when you are having difficulty mentally and emotionally, it is clear that life is not Always what he seems about social media.

Based only on social media, everyone's relationship is essentially a well-directed romantic comedy. But people who turn to Facebook or Instagram to boast of their romance more often than not hiding something. Spoiler alert: their relationship is probably not really so big. In a 2018 survey from a relational board organizationReportMore than half of the millennia (51%) allowed to make their relationship seems happier online whether and 42% have worked to carefully treat a "perfect relationship" online. In reality, all these couples have disagreements behind the screen.

On the other hand, dating expertLaurel houseSome partners will go to the opposite road and will not post on their other else on social media. Many people create a false persona online as if they live a unique life when they actually have a person at home. They keep their relationship hidden so that they can flirt with other people or even cheating without anyone knowing they check the truth.

Who among us did not leave a relationship, then published a photo where we are happier than ever to show the world, but mainly our ex-we prospees? In fact, there are whole articles onlinededicated to the coach of people How to act on social mediaAfter a break. But just because we do not all wear our sorrow on our social media round, it does not mean that we do not experience it.

It's easy to compare your raw skin, acne cicatrized and dried with someone else's complexion in an Instagram photo, but you just stand against a false representation. AsStacy Caprio, creator of theAcnecar Blog reminds us, the truth is that no one has "a perfect skin". The photos you compare your skin to have filters on them and you have been "smoothed" with tools such as Facetune or Photoshop.

Who to say that the #nomakeup selfies are actually free? It's easy to hide a small designer cache here or mascara there. And even if you are really a naked face, you can use angles, filters and smoothing tools for aids in this so-called "natural" facade.

In addition, you can not compare your natural skin to celebrity photos without makeup. "Their selfies - although magnificent and responsibilities - offer potentially harmful examples about natural beautyshould look like,"Brianna Arps to crushInsist. "Among things that are not discussed, perhaps, may be the extensions of false eyelashes, lip loads, docompeic eyebrows and expensive spa treatments that many celebrities pay for the average person can not just not afford. "

On social media, someone could post a picture of themselves wearing a face mask and get a pedicure with the hashtag #treatyourself. But the reality is thatPersonal care is not always a pale and glamorous thing. Sometimes it finally makes your laundry after letting stack for weeks or take a shower after spending days in the depressed bed. AsMawiyah Pattento crushThe powerfullWhat people do not tell you often is that personal care includes "the activities you want to put back indefinitely". "Personal care sometimes means that difficult decisions that you are afraid that others judge," continued Patten. "Personal care is to ask for help; it implies a vulnerability; it implies being painfully honest with yourself and your loved ones of what you need." In short, #SelfCare is not just a bath bomb video that you download to your Instagram history.

We all had this moment when we went to take a picture, place our phone and quickly scrambled to straighten the landscape behind our photo subject. After all, our social media followers can not knowas we are disordered! But just because no one is not searched on their social media flow, it does not mean that it does not exist.

With a simple press on the "Delete" button, it's easy to make it appear as if things about your past have never arrived. Have you had a musician that you liked when you were a teenager that you were constantly posted? If you do not want anyone to know your former fun guilty pleasure, you can simply delete these messages. There is such a thing as a lie by omission.

To be sick is never nice, butthe average coldis rarely life in danger. That said, many people tend to seem like if their prognosis is sorry. This is the online version of wanting your mother to take care of you when you are sick, except this time, this is the entire Facebook. If anyone isActually Seriously ill, one of the last things of their mind takes a selfie selfie or a photo of their medical group.

Everyone strives to appear more "social" on social media they really are. After all, people want it seemed to have a lot of friends who always want to go out with them.

And of course, it might have been cool to invite the VIP section or meet a-list, but if you try to draw attention to your online relationships, it is likely that they are not not as strong as you make them to be.

Similarly, if some event or circumstance is not exactly the story that someone wants their disciples to know, they can take parties and change the story through social media. Psychologist and social media strategistLouise Sattle says she sees that often with the people she works. For example, attending the same party as a celebrity or a high profile is not the same as knowing them or "working" with them and their affiliates. But people will stretch the truth of their experiences to appear "cooler" online.

These pictures of your dance with an oversized margarita in your hand can make it look like every night ofYour life is a party. What most people intentionally leave, however, is the embarrassing house, the gatorade contest of a person you had when you arrived there and the pillan headache you still treat A day later.

Any post on the social media that begins ", I know you all wonder ..." is probably the beginning of a lie. In fact, for many people, it is common to set up these lies carefully constructed with a little "vaguebooking"Previously, let down a" they know what they were doing "or" huge news today! I can not talk about it quite. "But chances are chances, people did not wonder or even wonder.

In a world where it is so important to appear authentic - but not necessarily toto be Authentic-the thrust for the original content is bigger than ever. But even if someone boasts of their original content, it may not be. There are many online people who take the work of other people and try to transmit it as their own. In reality,A REDIT user That they actually knew "well respected bloggers" who would buy stock images, modify them and would post them as if they were photos they had actually taken themselves.

People tend to jump on trends quickly, even if they are notActually Implement them in their own life. That's what happened with theecological movement. People were tweeting # Savetheturles, but buy five plastic water bottles from the store the same week.

In a 2016 survey ofTrulie With more than 2,000 Americans, 79% of respondents said they considered themselves as themselvesaware of the environment. However, only 26% reported doing something beyond recycling and turning off the lights from time to time.

Many people swell their good deeds and good nature online when they do not really come out of their willingness to volunteer or even donate to charity. In fact, theAmerican Office of Labor Statistics Reported that, only about 25% of the Americans voluntarized at least once from September 2014 to September 2015. Not a terribly promising statistic, especially for the amount of people who boast of their generosity and social conscience online.

It is easy to share countless political posts on Facebook without spending a lot of time participating in political activities. People on social media like to pretend that they are on the pulse of politics, dedicating hours to the solicitation and the call of voters. But considering what theBIPARTISAN POLICY CENTER I revealed that more than 50% of registered voters have actually returned to the polls in 2012, chances are that "I voted", the sticker marks the extent of your political activity.

As people get older, they tend to want to hold their youth even if they have to lie to do so. But these are not the only ones possibly leading from their age online. Have aFacebook accountYou must have 13 years or more. But through an investigation into the 2013 advertising standardization authority,The Guardian Reported that 83% of children aged 11 to 15 had registered on social media platforms using false age.

While you may not let everything else think to meet you, these positions proclaiming that you did not know that the opinions of other people are unfortunately transparent. Why do you post for other people to see, so? The entire purpose of social media is to post things for a reaction - if you really worried yourself, you would disconnect yourself for good and become aSocial Media Naysayer.

Additional reporting of Sarah Crow.