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Did you know that you can buy a hug? Yes, there are people who are happy to invade your personal space, with your permission, to live. Nothing scary-we are talking about the therapeutic contact session with a qualified professional practitioner, or as they like to call it "human contact coaching. »

Why can someone pay for a hug? "Touch certainly reduces cortisol levels in stress times. And just think when you see these terrible stories about the disasters that took place-hurricanes, floods, shootings and you see how perfect foreigners come together, and they are hugging each other where they put their arms around the other, "Linda Mayes, MD, Who is President of Yale Child Study Center, says Eat This, Not That! Health. Stress is one thing; another is the fact that, according to a study published inInternational Psychogerian3 out of 4 Americans feel alone and when you feel alone, a hug certainly helps. "He is a kind of social interdependence. It reduces stress. It brings us together, and in this kind of moments, almost the social convention is off it can be acceptable to go and cuddle a foreigner, "says Mayes.

Some scientists even speakContact Famine Epidemicswhich may be the reason why companies likeCuddlistor more-oriented social eventsCuddle Partyhave no problem getting customers. "Cuddlist has more than 1,400 people on our training program. Our members, who consists of those who have successfully completed training and have chosen to subscribe to our members a monthly rate, has averaged about 150 people at some point. We have members in more than 40 states and five countries, "Madelon Guinazzo, Director of Training for Cuddlist, says Eat This, Not That! Health.

So what are they doing exactly? Snuggle friends describe their service as "Platonic touching that offer personalized experience ... cuddling for friendship, relaxation, or for therapeutic reasons. The standard session includes "cuddling, blotting, conversation, friendly massage, platonic outdoor dates for dinner, movies, etc. Any platonic activity you would do it with a friend is acceptable "and costs $ 80 per hour. Skype Sessions Talk (only "friends and Platonics") are cheaper or we can book a night session that the costs of $ 330 for 8 hours ("about 5 hours sleep"). As long as you are respectful of the laws by the Code of Conduct, creativity is allowed. "Sometimes it looks like massages, play games, dance, singing, a meal, reading aloud one to the other, looking at the eyes, etc. " they say.

A personal touch can become embarrassing even when you try Calin your brother-in-law, not to mention a8 long hours of sleep session with a stranger - so how do you make professionals make sure it's not a problem? "The most essential ingredient, in a word, is:. Limits This is the goal of our training, "Madelon Guinazzo, Director of Training for Cuddlist, says the cure. "In addition to the Cuddlist Code of Conduct, at the beginning of each session, the practitioner goes on an opening agreement which is a commitment of each person to keep their own limits during each part of the session and to communicate with them. This is an important part of the empowerment that our practitioners offer their clients and what makes it therapeutic ", says Guinazzo.

And who asks for such services? "Customers come for a wide variety of reasons. Most are private touching for one reason or another. Some have had difficult experiences with touch, are opposed to him and want to change that. Some are in relationships where their partners do not want to provide touch and they want to maintain integrity and commitments with their partners. This is a safe option. Some cry the loss of a partner to die to death or separation, which helps them grow through this transition. Many simply feel isolated by their use and their lifestyles and want an authentic human connection more meaningful. In a way or another all want to feel more close to their authentic me ", says Guinazzo.

We wanted to know what she learned as a professional and Hugger Guinazzo was pretty friendly to help us reach Cuddlist practitioners across the country and one from Australia. Here's what they told us.

Everyone needs it

"As a professional gutdler, I learned how to provide a safe and feeding contact of the many walks of life and with different needs. This is mainly practicing healthy borders with them in sessions, while approaching simultaneously their needs in touch. Touch the affected deprivation or aversion. With my clients ranging from 18 to 80 years and all the elderly and sexual orientation, there is a huge need in America for people to exchange a platonic touch With a professional who can meet them with a compassionate embrace. "

Robin, Lawrence, KS

Touch us feel human

"What I learned like a professional cudller has been the deep and persistent need that people have to touch. It is undeniable that we need that social creatures need to touch not only for well-being, but also For survival. It is through the contact we know our humanity, our link with others and that we belong, that we belong to others. Touch is extremely powerful. "

Janet,San Antonio, TX

It shows that we care

"I learned that feeding the human touch is the medicine of our souls. Connect and be present with another and to show unconditional care is healing. This is the best way to tell someone they count , offering a feeling of well-being by putting unity in humanity. "

Jennifer, Philadelphia, PA

Hugging is empowering

"I learned how fast this work is, healing and transforming this work. Customers leave a session feeling empowered and renewed. I hear later how they slept better, faced challenges and long-standing obstacles in their lives, felt more connected in their relationships and are more connected in their relationships now live a happier and healthier life. The benefit of this work for me is part of the help of people to see These types of positive life changes occur. "

James, Minneapolis, Mn

The successful people also need a hug

"I realized that so few people have a sufficiently diversified support network. I'm not just talking about the person who does not leave the house all day, but even the owner of the successful law firm or the Director General of Technology or the famous wine connoisseur. These high-level people have an entire life and they seem to have everything, of course, but in a way, their success prevents them from accessing these support networks as easily as someone who could work for them. I call it "pedestal effect" "and that's exactly why some of my clients come to see me."

sat, Medford, Ma

We bring work at home

"Over the two years I did this work, I realized that people who are already in conversation therapy benefit so much from the addition of contact! When someone does work on themselves and heals by therapy , that can trust a professional with their borders is an integral part of their growth. Cudiffusion helps to divert the trauma and bring peace that was missing alone. I have never known more rewarding work. "

Mare, Pasadena, CA

Embring allows you to learn limits

"I learned many things in my time as a professional hug. They understand the following:

1. Frontiers: Being clear about them from Upfront saves confusion and hurt feelings later. To be clear with someone else about your borders, you must be very clear on them for yourself.
2. NO: To say that no can be difficult sometimes. No hearing can be more difficult. Cuddling really helped me hear "no" and being able to celebrate it. To be able to recognize that someone else holds their border and taking care of themselves, is a real gift. And knowing that their "no" has nothing to do with me, but has to do with them and their borders, makes it so much easier to celebrate the hearing.
3. Ask what you want: When you are comfortable hearing no, it's so much easier to ask what you want. And when you are clear about what you want and ask for this boldly and clearly, you are more likely to get it. If you hear a no, you agree that and you go to something else and ask for someone else. "

Grace, Orange, ca

He shows our most courageous aspects

"1. When you give people the opportunity to show the most courageous and kinder version of themselves ... they do it! I'm sometimes asking me if I feel safe with my clients, if they Never respect my borders. The thing is that the answer is no. It is deep in our nature to be safe with and for other humans. In the environment prepared with a connection session and with a clear communication , our best aspects as brief, the most beautiful, the most beautiful come and again.

2. "No" is a prerequisite for a real "yes".

A deep realization that happened during my certification training is like many earthbreaker achievements - so simple! If a person does not feel safe to say no, then their yes is no consequence. The option of no is essential to the concept of yes.

3. Without a strong sense of self, healthy borders are impossible. Without an understanding of its own borders, consent is impossible. Much of the work I'm doing is to hold a safe space for an individual to heal their relationship with yourself, so that they can be entitled to connect with others healthy and consensual. "

Maryam, Portland, or

This helps us enjoy our life in full

"In my two years of giving one of the certified Cuddlist sessions, I learned a lot for a happy life rests on the ability of a person to ask what they want in the moment, inspiring himself At their borders and express them to others. Follow the flow of desire to inspire them at the next moment. We have become very good to numb intimacy, even hiding it. What I want to bring, feed and receive with people From my meeting is this meeting place which human can ask what human connection they are thirsty. When people are able to fully ask what they want, without shame they are able to participate and receive the fullness of life. "

Sarah, Melbourne, Australia

He improved my relationships

"As Cuddlist certified hug, I learned that direct communication reduces a very clear way for healthy relationships. It was only necessary to be able to czech that I had training and role models. Passing frustrating personal relationships to quality experiences with quality experiences with people in my life, including my clients. "

Michelle, Baltimore, MD

It brings happy tears

"I have the opportunity to see in the first hand the importance of touch. When a seemingly simple touch brings tears, I make deep aspirations and miss so many people live with the safety and comfort of our service. C 'Is a privilege to have confidence. of my clients. "

Gaia, Hopkinton, Ma

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