24 things to never tell someone with coronavirus
There are things you should never tell a friend, family member, colleague or even a total stranger.
You have the best intentions when you talk to people with illness - and you probably know a person affected by the coronavirus. However, even the compliments, comments, suggestions or advice for the best intentioned that we give to others can be insulting, hurtful or simply make them feel worse about their suffering.
You do not know what they are going through. And they might not know where you come from where you come from. Here are 24 things you should think twice to tell someone who has COVID-19 or another disease.
"The disease is everything in mind"
While research supports aConnecting the mind With some chronic diseases (for example, stress can contribute to heart conditions) most health conditions, including Covid-19, are totally real and their training has little to do with what happens in the brain.
"I thought you were gone better now"
Even if a few months have passed since someone has undergone traumatic injury or health illness, never assume that they are "all better". "I had a single salon owner tell me:" Oh, I thought you were recovered and healed "a few months after suffering a stroke!"Denise Baron, the healer and the Ayurvedic expert says. "Meanwhile, it was almost three years until I was totally recovered." In fact, doctors find residual coronavirus symptoms can last for months.
"Did you try …"
Chances are the answer is yes. Most people who suffer from COVID-19 or chronic illness have tried just about everything imaginable to get better. And so far, there is no cure for coronavirus. Do not hesitate to share links to interesting conclusions of famous sources, but do not assume you that you know better.
"Come on, I have something to eat!"
Victims of COVID-19 often lose their appetite - and their sense of taste. Although it is important for them to feed, they may not want to be said to eat. When someone is sick, they should not have to explain why they can not eat or drink specific objects. "I did not cut calories or fashionable with gluten," says the journalist and authorChristine Coppa, which survived thyroid cancer. "I was trying to go well. The truth is that I inhaled a pizza after having it clear!"
"Let me give you a medical opinion"
Unless you have a medical accreditation after your name, please refrain from giving other medical advice. Apart from exhorting them to see a professional, any medical advice you give to someone could be dangerous for their health.
"You should try to exercise"
Most people know that exercise is beneficial for many physical and mental health conditions, but it's not quite easy for someone who is sick of sweat.
"You do not look sick"
Despite what you may think, there is no "look" common to the disease or Covid-19. According toCDC, 60% of Americans live with chronic illness, including heart disease, cancer and diabetes. It is important to keep in mind that, if many people are likely to suffer silently, diseases do not necessarily include visible symptoms. As you try to try to make someone feel better by telling them that they do not appear sick, it could potentially make them feel as if you were safe from their suffering.
"Oh, I know how you feel"
Pain and suffering are not universal, so there is no way to know exactly what someone passes - even if you have suffered exactly the same disease. "Everyone is experiencing a disease differently"Matthew Mintz, MD, points out. "The experience of the disease is a combination of pathology (the real process of disease causing the disease), genetics / susceptibility of the host (how your body reacts), culture, experience of the Previous disease and a host of other factors. " Instead of saying that you know how someone feels he suggests alternatives such as "Oh, it seems awful," or "I can understand why you do not feel well."
"Please call me if you need something"
Do not expect a sick person to ask for help. Not only are many people are too proud to ask you for a favor, keep in mind that they are sick - they probably probably do not think correctly. "I had a person who asks me why I did not ask for help after having suffered a stroke," says Baron. "Hello! My brain did not work properly enough to even ask." Do not wait for someone to help you. Most people are not going to call you and ask for chicken soup, but if you simply order a delivery of food for them, they will be grateful and will soon drop it down.
"Positive thinking can help you cure yourself!"
Positive thinking can be powerful, but there is no, absolutelyNo scientific evidence May your personality or attitude can cure the disease. Most pain and symptoms associated with the disease are very real and can not be healed by the thinking of the luminous side.
"My thoughts and prayers are with you"
On each social media message where someone describes a medical condition, these exact words appear many times. Although this is well intentioned and perfectly acceptable, it can take off like sincere. Try to rephrase your feelings in something a little more personal if you want to let someone know that you care about them.
"At least you have nothing really bad"
For any reason, many people thank invisible diseases such as fibromyalgia, ADHD or even depression, as well, invisible. And they heard Covid-19, it's "just a bad influenza". However, in reality, they are incredibly real for people who suffer from it.
"You will beat that"
In a perfect world, everyone recovered from the disease. However, while you might think that telling someone they will recover is motivating and edifying, it can actually apply pressure on them to recover quickly.
"Maybe you do not want to have good"
It can be frustrating to look at a loved one suffered, especially if they seems they do not do everything you think can do to help themselves. But never, never involve they want to be sick. McCoppin emphasizes that his suffering is far from a non-stop party. "Losing our careers, our credibility, looks and spend all our money on doctors is not really great," she explains. The only thing worse? Having a friend implies that it's your choice.
"What's wrong?"
The way you say a question can make such a difference, especially if a person suffers from a mental health problem or a mental health issue related to Covid-19. "This question frequently makes an even more abnormal sensation, as if they are the only one suffering from an illness," warns a specialist in certified traumaTheresa M. Peronace-Onorato, MACP, Bag At the Anchors Board in Huntington Valley, PA.
"Often, this sentence lets blame on the patient assuming they caused a particular condition." She suggests taking a more favorable and informed approach to trauma, perhaps asking them gently: "Can you tell me what happened to you?" Remember that mental health problems, and even many physical conditions, are rarely self-inflicted.
"You should not take medication"
Peronace-Onorato claims that it often hears stories about affected atmospheres and family members making drug recommendations to their loved ones. "For some patients, drugs change their life and greatly increase the quality of life and a day-to-day function," she says. Similarly, it often hears "my family member is well now. They no longer need their medications." Although this may be true in some cases, such as the management of the short-term drugs during sudden death, it is not always useful when a chemical imbalance is present. "In the latter situation, family members do not realize that their expensive being is much better because of the drugs."
"It could be much worse"
Of course, everything could be much worse, but say that these words will not make feel better. Instead, try to use positive affirmations, suggestsBhaswati Bhattacharya, MPH, MD, Ph.D.Clinical Assistant Professor at Weill Cornell Medical College. "Tell something like", if you focus on the immunity you have, you can enjoy that you are born with a good hard body and that you have to return to this level of strength. You have it in you! "
"At least you lose weight! You are superb"
Comments on the weight of an individual are rarely a healthy practice, but especially when it is the result of a health problem. Weight loss and gain are a common side effect of many diseases and drugs and pay attention to it is not going to flatter anyone - it will simply remind them of their suffering. If you want to pay for them a compliment, rephrasst it in a way that really makes them feel good. "Tell something like", it's wonderful that you have looks so big. Having the mental strength you really shine ", suggests Dr. Bhattacharya.
"Everything happens for a reason"
As human beings, we want to be able to feel everything. We often try to remind people that their suffering could have a bigger purpose or that happens to teach them a lesson that will make them a better person. However, in the midst of their sufferings, most people do not want or need to be recalled. It can also be misinterpreted to signify that they were "meant" to become sick, or even deserved.
"I know someone who also has Covid-19, and that's what they did"
You are just trying to help, but keep in mind that many diseases have no single healing. While your mother's husband, a friend, your mother's cousin could have been diagnosed with the same illness as the person you talk about, it's very possible that their symptoms were not identical, they were on Thorough different medications before their diagnosis, or their side effects were drastically different.
"All will go well. Do not think about that and pretend that it does not happen"
You may think that you help someone keep their minds out of their illness, but "it" happens and that denial does not help you. "It is likely that the sick person thinks very little and tell them on the contrary of their reality makes them feel disconnected and shameful," says the therapist based in San Diego and founder ofThe place of relationship, Dana McNeil, LMFT.
"Suck it and treat it"
When you thank the condition of a sick person, it can really hurt. "Have a disease is scary and does that the person feels vulnerable," says Dr. McNeil.
"You just do not see like you"
When someone is sick - even if they suffer from something as simple as the common cold - there is a good chance they act out of character. "It is likely that the sick person does not feel like itself and emphasizing that changes may feel a judgment," says Dr. McNeil.
To say nothing at all!
The worst thing you can do if a person you love is sick is nothing at all. Ghosting the person or not register on them, can make them feel incredibly isolated. "Recording with the sick person to let them know that you think about it and you want to know how they will", encourage Dr. McNeil. "When we avoid talking about the disease, it gives the other person the impression that they could exercise you to talk about their illness leaving them feel abandoned or alienated."
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