How not to spoil your relationship with a loved one on a quarantine
In China, after completion of quarantine, the number of divorces has increased significantly. In the city of Fuzhou, in the south of the country, even installed the limit - no more than 10 applications for a day because of a large number of those wishing to divorce. What are psychologists and professionals say?
In China, after completion of quarantine, the number of divorces has increased significantly. In the city of Fuzhou, in the south of the country, even installed the limit - no more than 10 applications for a day because of a large number of those wishing to divorce. Psychologists explain, this is that now the couple spend a lot of time at home and begin to quarrel through the little things, which even did not even pay attention.
In such circumstances, ordinary household discrepancies are fluttering conflicts. The lack of new emotions, communication with other people only complicate the situation. Specialists recommend to stick to a quarantine simple tips, so that you do not spoil your relationship with a beloved person.
Keep the distance
At least one or two hours rest apart. For a girl quite a good option to "build" a clock-friend in the bathroom, until the beloved watches the series or plays the game. Or even a south to time in different rooms. It is also important to "do not go" to the territory of its partner and not to bother tips, even if they are really correct.
Don't forget about aesthetics
Quarantine is not a drive to sit in pajamas, terry gowns and rubbing leggings. If you already wear a robe then only silk with a lace. Do not follow the direct path to what they say: "Life ate Romance." Quarantine is not a time machine in a stone age. Men should not forget to shave, and women do epilation. Elementary care is a manifestation of respect for his partner - the most expensive person in which you are constantly before the eyes in quarantine.
Joint entertainment
Do Together Yoga, Morning Charging, Hare Karaoke, Play Board Games. Think about every hour, plan your day. Moreover, the ideas for shared leisure today can be found a lot on the Internet. It's sad when such a chance is to finally spend time with your family, people are devoted to a TV and a refrigerator.
Leisure for children
Children need a lot of attention and energy, and especially to 10-12 years. They want to play and make them entertained. Parents are accustomed to translating this role on educators and teachers. On a quarantine it is necessary to learn to do ourselves. You can come up with joint home rituals for all family members, by the way can become a point of unity. Try to find games that will be interesting to everyone and will not provoke conflict situations, but will become a good alternative to animated cartoons and games on your mobile phone.
Psychologists explain that when you are nervous baby - it means that it violates your personal boundaries. Therefore, it is important to explain to it, to teach what moments (for example, when you are on a computer, parents are better not to disturb).
Divide home duties
Traditionally, most cases of the farm performs a woman, because a man spends a lot of time at work. At least so "says" stereotype. In quarantine conditions, when everyone stays at home, do not rightly translate all household work on a woman. Finally, when you need to cook for everyone at least three times a day, and then wash the dishes - it may take most of the day. Therefore, it is better to do together quickly all the work, so that there was more free time for joint leisure.
Home can also attract children. This is by the way, in the continuation of the topic of children, it may be a common thing and the idea of how to take a child.
Quarrel correctly
In most cases, unpleasant conversations and disputes are inevitable. But, that it does not overcome the protracted crisis - partners need to be able to stop the vocabulary "negativity" in a timely manner. That is, having so-called passwords, such as "Let's dwell", "enough", "Stop-Crane", etc. But it is important to agree on them. In order not to sound phrases in the type "stop quarrel", "stop". After all, in conflicts, two people are always involved. The partner who is charged with unilateral aggression can perceive it as transferring guilt to it.
And what's next? And the next step is to solve the conflict.
First of all, you need to leave a conflict. If it occurred in the kitchen - it's better to break through other rooms. And then try to learn to hear each other and calmly explain their point of view. Psychologists call it "empathetic communication", without the skills of which to solve the conflict is unlikely to be possible. Quarantine is a good opportunity to learn this.
