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Most parents raise their daughters on their own or in accordance with the stereotypes that society imposed them. Not always their methods are beneficial to the child. We will tell you about the most common mistakes in the education of girls who negatively affect their further fate.

1. Pot all its whims

This is the most common mistake of parents. Mom and dad soul do not break in their little princesses, so let it be allowed to do everything that does not threaten her life. They instantly fulfill any whim daughter, it is only to be trampled by the leg. Most likely, in such a situation, the girl will grow into a shameful and selfish person focused on his own desires. In adult life, the girl will be difficult to create his own family, because she is not used to take care of loved ones and take out other people's feelings.

2. Want to be her friend

First of all, it concerns the relationship of the mother with his daughter. On the one hand, it is wonderful when they have close and trusting relationships. The girl is not embarrassed by sharing with her experiences. The reverse side, when mom complains his daughter to his problems, it is quite detrimental to the psychological health of the girl. Especially if the mother is used to discussing his relationship with the child with his father or other men. For the rapid psyche of the child, this is an unbearable burden. In such a situation, the girl, on the contrary, can block and hide his experiences so as not to disturb the already agitated mom. Such girls are early growing, but it is quite difficult for them to psychologically separate from their parent and create their own family. Often, such girls protect all their lives and protect their mother from life adversity, because they are confident that alone mom will not cope.

3. Shoot it responsibility

When there are several children in the family, parents are often drunk on the shoulders of the eldest daughter responsibility for raising the younger. At the same time completely ignore its needs. Here it is necessary to understand that the daughter cannot be responsible for the safety of babies, because she is still a child. The most fatal error to scold the daughter for the fact that the younger kids drank or do not obey. This is the concern of parents, but not her fault. As a result, a matured girl may easily disappear the desire to make their own family and children. She will be easier to live alone.

4. Speak: "You're a girl"

Often, parents are trying to impose certain standards for behavior, hypertrophy emphasizing her femininity. Mom and dad prohibit the child to play the ball, climb the trees, express anger and argue. Parents can also impose restrictions in choosing clothes and hairstyles. The matured girl can completely conquer the will of his parents and take an absolutely passive position in life. After all, she is a girl, she can't solve anything. On the other hand, in adolescence, the girl can draw up and choose a "male" line of behavior: constantly rude, it is defiantly dressed, take risky actions. After all, in her representation, the boys can all.

5. Raise the daughter as a son

Usually this situation is developing when parents dreamed of a son, and daughter was born. Mom and dad with joy encourage the passion for the daughter of sports, while at the same time preserving her interest in art, playgrounds with dolls, pink dresses and decorations. Parents forbid daughters openly express their emotions, especially crying and complaining. In the future, the girl may have problems with self-identification. In adult life it will be difficult for her to trust people and, especially, ask for help.

6. You demand that it be obedient and quiet

Parents are comfortable when their daughter is growing obedient and quiet. After all, she always does what they tell her and never expresses her desires. When the girl grows up, it will be difficult for her to build borders. It will continue to tolerate psychological discomfort, instead of directly expressing his desires.