8 phrases that can not speak to the child
Psychologists say that neurotes are not born. These are made, often parents. If a small person appeared in your family, try to make it most consciously approached to its upbringing and not allow such phrases with it in communication.
Psychologize that neurotes are not born. They are doing them, often parents. If you have a small one, try to make it possible to make it possible to make it possible to make such phrases with him in communicating.
Such people are watching
Saying such a phrase, you involuntarily recording it in my head a certain scenario- "My fate depends on the sided people." Do not be surprised, the future will turn into an insecure of a complex person who fearing his will.
Girls (boys) do not behave like this
Eesepriced you are a conservative to the brain of bones Ipopular feministic slogans do not like it, think about your leisure. How hard will the boy be in his life, who is constantly prohibited to show it? Or a girl who was brought up as a princess? Our world is not at all odd, and one day she will have to stand up. But does she succeed with this scorec?
Uzech children, like children, and you ...
Parently love to compare your child with other children. Often, not in it. The baby begins to feel like himself and not to take herself like this, Kaevon is. Probably, it is not necessary to explain how hard it takes in an adult life of low self-esteem.
You know how to do, let me do everything myself
Daily world time on the weight of gold. All is rushing somewhere. But sometimes still sustaining priorities. When your little ones to master the laundry launder of the buttons are not necessary, it is not necessary to join and carry out all the work of the Zanny. After all, he is just learn. And the manifestation of the initiatives on his part is very important. It's like him to learn to solve all the samples alone?
Will you lead yourself, I will give a policeman
For a small child, the family is all. Jesl is already a mother or dad ready to give an eno-country uncle ... who then can it be possible? A similar phrase forms skewly fear of the world around. Will in the future, he will be very difficult to trust and build relationships with them.
Yaradi you ...
"I would like everything for the sake of you," they love to speak to their baby, completely uninhabited about the consequences of what was said. With a child in their unstable and load it with such a statelessness - the latter. Whether in time, the child will begin to feel terribly guilty. And in consequence, he suffers this feeling of guilt in adulthies, forbidden to be happy.
Father (in Mother)
Embrenochka begin to compare with one publicity, and in a negative key, his world begins to collapse. After all, it is like that with his mom or dad that like that. What is even worse, with him, too, like that. This situation develops a chronic feeling of uncertainty.
Not pay (do not shout, do not touch)
If you prohibit the child something, and the baby reacts to it with a stormy hysterical, do not overlap the taboo immediately on his emotions. After all, this is such a natural process. Better try to offer him an alternative and try to use the settings less, it seems "not", "no", "not." For example, if he asks to turn on the cartoon, and you oppose, offer him to go to the park or play some exciting game. Otherwise, in the future, he inertia will prohibit something to wish at all, because "it is impossible."
