Good Lifestyle

We tell ourselves every day and that is inevitable because the lies are one of the many instruments that our psyche uses to cope with stress. Whether it's a small lie to motivate yourself to do more exercise (I think I'm looking thinner) or a bigger lie to maintain family ties (the family reunion was not so bad), we need to use them from time to time. Much more dangerous are the lies you've been telling yourself for years, if not decades. Those lies are actually preventing you from growing up and become a healthier and more happy human being. They are toxic because most of the time you do not even realize what you really are! Here are the 6 lies you should stop telling yourself already.

"I'll be happy after ..."

This kind of lie has many variations, but the main idea is that something good will happen after a certain event, change or action. This type of conditioning does not allow you to see the truth of the situation where you are and change the focus on some distant future better than you will surely come. You will hold you to the work you hate for years, because "I will keep some money, and then I will go on a trip, and then I will be happy." Better ask yourself what it is that prevents you from doing the things you love at this time. Why are not you living a happy life? Do not focus on something that makes you happy in the future, look what you can make you happy here and now.

"I'll start exercising tomorrow"

Of course, I do not speak only of the exercise, we tend to postpone positive changes in our lives all the time. Whether it's a healthier diet, go to the gym, lie down earlier, drink less alcohol or eat less sweet, you can start right now. It does not matter what time of the day it is, because leading a healthy lifestyle does not have a timestamp. Tomorrow will not be different from today unless you start making small changes right now. Even if it is only a training plan you want to do tomorrow morning, sit down and write it, look at some videos, install applications. Build your motivation, do not even postpone the changes you want to make in your life.

"I'm not worthy of love"

You may not tell yourself directly, but this line may be ringing in your subconscious as a scratched disk. If you are getting involved in unhealthy relationships in which you end up being mistreated, stop and ask yourself: do you really think you are worthy of love and happiness? Then go deeper and look if really, madly, you love deeply. First of all, you should learn to love you and be happy with yourself, that is the basis of any happy relationship, including the one you have with you. You may have to start from scratch and meet you again, with your wishes, longings and passions. We spent so little quality time with ourselves that we tend to forget who we are and what we really want. Love yourself, to your life and the world in which you live and that love will return to you.

"He will change because I love him"

Being in a relationship involves a lot of responsibility. If you really want, you can solve most of the problems. But if you are stuck with a person who is disrespectful and constantly violates your trust, simply love it will not be enough. No matter how much you appreciate the relationship, no matter how much you love and take care of your partner, he will not change unless he wants to do it. Your pure willpower is not enough to change someone, just as I could not change the behavior or reactions of it just because someone told him to do it. Only when you realize why you need to change and that you really want this, the growth process will begin.

"My dream is too big, I will not even try"

Dreaming big is one of the most important motivations we have in life. Have you ever heard about some inventor genius, successful businessman or a great actor who did not dream big? If you can imagine it, then you can achieve it! This is how things work in life. And if you start moving towards that dream of yours, even with baby steps, you will make your life much more significant and pleasant. Most of the time it is not even the result, it is the trip that makes everything worthwhile. Even if you want to go to space, but you can not imagine how it can happen, why do not you try to approach it? Visit some great space event, explore the night sky through a telescope, visit some huge observatory, and get so much inspiration as you can. And then, who knows, there may be some change. Do not abandon your dream because it looks too unreal, because it's the only thing that really matters!

"I'm not good enough"

This is one of the most toxic lies as it prevents you from doing things that make you truly happy. When you think you are not smart enough, you are not beautiful enough, and in general you are not good enough, you do not even try to do what your heart wants for fear of failure. Is that handsome guy flirting with you? But you think you're not good enough. Do you present a great work opportunity? But again you are afraid of not being good enough. Someone may have told you this at some point, maybe when you were small. These cognitive distortions are deep in our psyche, but as soon as possible, it recognizes them, the better. Do not hide behind this phrase and be brave, you are the only person who can change your life and live it to the fullest.