Good Lifestyle

When you are in a relationship and your partner asks you to get married, most people overwhelm with emotions and the best they can deduce is a tearful "yes". What follows is the one month for wedding planning. Choosing places, finding the perfect dress, deciding on the theme of the party and what banquet business to get. All that is great, but often it comes in the way of discussing really important things, such as their basic values, worldview and plans for the future and if they coincide or not. Here is a list of questions to make your fiancé before getting married.

1. Do you take children?
It's a big one. Obvious, at the moment both will not queer children, but what about the future? Are you agreeing to talk about it again in 5 years? Maybe you already know that along the line you want children, but what if your partner does not? What if it is very difficult to accept for him? You can not just expect your opinions to change over time.

2. Are you compatible with your housing colleagues?
One thing is if you stay at the other's house for one night or two, but once they start living together - it's a completely different story. Who cooks? Who cleans? How to decorate your place and who is responsible for the pet? Do you have a pet? Do your sleeping and work schedules coincide? All these things may seem small at this time, but in the future they could become causes of great arguments and even a divorce, so talk now.


3. What place do they have in the families of the other?
You do not have to be your mom or dad's best friend, but being in a good relationship with the families of the other is important. You will inevitably have to see them from time to time, and during the holidays, so now, if you can not bear to see them, it will certainly put your marriage difficult.

4. How long do they need both to be alone?
At this time you could think that spending all the time together is a great idea. But being realistic, they do not spend all the time together at this time. So think about it. Maybe you need a day for you? Or maybe your partner consider the gym as its time alone and does not want to be stuck? Maybe it's something as simple as having coffee in the morning in silence, and maybe your partner only wakes up wanting to talk immediately. All these things matter in the long term and you could need to discuss these preferences between you before you are resent each other when one of you is at home waiting for the other, while they are out with friends, having your night's starting night.


5. What are your plans in terms of travel?
Many people think of marriage as the already staying at peace. And while for some only means to establish yourself with a person, on the other it means to settle in one place. This is something that must be discussed from the beginning. What happens if you want to travel around the world and live in every country or city a little time, while your partner just wants to buy a house and finally have some kind of stability in your life?

6. How do you feel about keeping appearances?
In an ideal world, we would all like to look good all the time. However, the truth is that we do not see each other awesome all the time. We strive more at the beginning of a relationship or marriage, but eventually we all want to be comfortable. How do you feel about your partner have to spend a whole day at exercise pants, or not shave for a while? Weight gain is a common problem, how much would you bother you? How is this discussing without hurting your feelings? All these are better discussed in advance than in a fight.


7. What do you expect in bed?
Not only is it important what your partner likes, but also what you like and how to communicate it to your partner. You do not want to be 5 years in a marriage and still be battling to say that you really do not enjoy what they do. Also, after having waited so long to talk about sexual preferences, it is even more uncomfortable at the end. You have to be clear about these things, because, in the end, your pleasure is at stake.


8. What are you willing to sacrifice each one of you?
This sounds terrifying, but it does not have to be. Imagine a scenario where your partner gets a new impressive job in a different country or just a different city. Would you be willing to leave everything and move with him? The same goes for the children, who are you waiting for them to take care of them. Who of you will renounce your professional life for a while to raise them? Or will they have a nanny?

9. Do they understand the language of love to each other?
This may sound corny, but that book about 5 tongues of love sounds true in most cases. We all interpret love differently. Some of us see affection and hugs as the best way to show love, others prefer gifts. Some of us did not care a cumin, but washing the dishes, cleaning dust or aspiring and other acts of service is the best way to show them that they really love them. We are not saying that both have to speak the same language of love, but they have to learn and understand each other.


10. Is this more than just love?
Could you think "What is more than love?" Is not love the most important thing? Well ... for a marriage ... you really need more. They need to be mutually, they complement themselves in ways that will make coexistence not only pleasant, but really cheerful. Respect is important, so if your partner has certain beliefs that you do not think very well - you have to learn to respect them and accept them, not just reject them. Can you really live together? How about working together? Can you make decisions and mutual agreements or are not you a fan of commitment? In the end, you want to enjoy your marriage, not only tolerate it.