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Has your date already did something so far from the left field that you were turning off? Congratulations, you got the Ick! The term slang refers to the visceral feeling of disgust towards a specific behavior or mannerism displayed by a romantic partner. Sometimes the ICK in question could be a dealbreaker, but conversely, it could also highlight a character defect in you.

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A study published in the journal Personality and individual differences discovered an interesting correlation between the sensitivity of disgust, narcissism and perfectionism, and how they relate to romantic aversion (alias "Ick"). The results show that women (75%) have significantly higher rates of "ICK" compared to men (57%).

While "The Ick" has become a popular subject of meeting speech on social networks (more after an episode of Nobody wants that was devoted to him), the concept has existed for decades.

"The" Ick "has become an increasingly widespread subject in recent decades. We have found references to this phenomenon on social networks and television programs dating from the mid -90s", author of the study Eliana Saunders , a student graduated from Azusa Pacific University, said Psypost .

And now science says that "getting the Ick" could say more about you than your partner.

In the study, the participants fulfilled an online questionnaire, in which they were questioned about their "Ick" personal experiences with regard to meetings. A more in -depth analysis prompted participants to assess their likelihood, using a scale of 1 (unlikely) to 5 (extremely likely) - in response to specific behaviors. These have been grouped into eight categories: physical appearance, faux pas de Mode, too digital, too feminine, misogynist, boring speech, publicly and too trendy. The results showed:

• 64% of participants said they had known the ICK.
• Participants experienced the Ick on average 9.71 times.
• 26% chose to end the relationship immediately because of an ICK.
• 42% ended things at a later time (post -ick).
• 32% stayed with the person, despite the ICK experience.
• 80% said they complained about their partner's parties to friends.
• Only 28% shared their Ick experience with the person involved.

However, this set of data reflects only part of the study. The second half focused on the responses of participants in disgust, narcissism and perfectionism.

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For this section, the participants finished an inventory test of grandiose narcissism which measured the importance, domination and search for attention. Perfectionist expectations for others were evaluated by "the measure in which individuals impose high standards for those who are close to them, which makes it particularly relevant for our concentration on features which can increase aversive reactions in romantic contexts", according to the study. The tendency of participants to feel disgust was also measured via a "agreed / disagreement" declaration test.

According to the results:

• There is a strong correlation between greater sensitivity to disgust and probability / frequency of obtaining the ICK. This suggests that "increased aversion to the signals of minor partners can shape the rejection thresholds of the companion," wrote the authors.
• Narcissistic personality features were linked to an increased probability of obtaining the ICK, "indicating that narcissistic people can selectively reject partners on the basis of specific perceived defects".
• Perfectionism has led to increased probability and frequency results, "suggesting that people with rigid standards more often experience the ICK".

"I think that one of the most important lessons that a reader can take from our results is that it is important to take each" Ick "with a grain of salt," said Saunders. "Although this feeling of disgust can be a valid marker of the incompatibility of partners, it could also be a symptom of high sensitivity to disgust, narcissism, other -oriented perfectionism, etc."

So, the noisy chewing of your partner gives you the ICK, or his green neon racing shoes make you grouped violently inside - does that mean that you should end things permanently? This study argues that certain behaviors could be signs of warning potential incompatibilities of the future relationship.

However, on the other hand, the Ick "can also lead to too rigid rejection standards". In other words, your partner is not the problem ... it's you.

"Before throwing a partner because their feet hang when seated on a chair, we should think in a critical way of the reason why we feel" Ickés ". Ask yourself: is it something that I really can't manage, or am I too critical? Is it" Ick "of their fault, or is it mine?" concluded Saunders.