The surprising sign that your wedding ends with divorce, researchers say
The experts say that too much a good thing can have a disadvantage.
Nobody goes in a weddingwait for the divorce. But there are many factors that influence the viability of a wedding: your communication styles, the efforts you have put in, as well as general attraction and compatibility. So, it may seem difficult to call a specific reason for which a wedding will end. However, many studies have tried - and some of their conclusions can surprise you. Read it to discover the unexpected sign that your wedding will end with the divorce, according to researchers. The sooner you identify it, the easier it is to solve.
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Too loving couples can be more likely to divorce.
It might seem against intuitive, but a2001 study published in thePersonality Journal and Social Psychology found thatloving Couples were more likely to be divided than those who have not displayed the behavior. For the study, the researchers followed 168 couples for 13 years to determine which early signals could predict divorce and could predict a healthy and sustainable union. The results revealed that the couples who were too affectionate at the beginning of their marriage - in the sense that they showed "more understandable" levels of affection - were more likely to divorce.AE0FCC31AE342FD3A1346EBB1F342FCB
The authors of the study wrote: "As newlyweds, couples who divorced after seven years or more were almost affectionate GIDIeus, with about a third more affection than the spouses that were later happy." So, if you are preparing to shout the knot, look for excessive PDA levels - it could be a sign that something is wrong.
This behavior can report immaturity.
Obviously, it's not the simple presence of affection that comes out disaster-THere are other factors in play. "If overproduction is used to compensate for unresolved issues in marriage, it can sometimes lead to divorce," saysEmily Simonian, MA, LMFT and Learning Manager in person andOnline Mental Health Company Thriveworks. "When this happens, it is not related to the levels of affection exclusively - it has more to do with the disability of the couple to manage or resolve the conflict."
It could also be a sign of immaturity, saysSharon Gilchrest O'Neill, EDS, LMFT, andauthor. "[Some] couples gave me an image of their affection when friends or family, and it seemed teenager enough for their age and stage of life," she says. According to O'Neill, the explanations of the couples of these behaviors include: "We love each other and the affection is how we know we do", we will not be fuddy-duddies on the affection assignment In front of others, "and" we like to put a show. "Unfortunately, O'Neill notes that these explanations are somewhat immature.
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Remember: a high level of positive interactions is normal and necessary.
Does not interpret the above research as suggesting that you do not have to refuse affection or prioritize less than your partner. Astudy by Gottman Institute Relations ResearchersJohn Gottman, PhD, andRobert Levenson, PhD, noted that the difference between happy and unfortunate couples was the balance between positive and negative interactions during conflict. The "magic ratio" they found were five to one, which means that all negative interactions during conflict, a happy or more positive marriage, such as laughter or teasing.
Simonian notes This is also true in non-confrontational situations. "The durability and health of a relationship become a simple mathematical ratio: having more positive interactions (displaying a condition) than those negative (arguments, values clashes, mediocre communication) and the couple will probably be happier, more connected And satisfied, "she says.
Visit a couples therapist if you are worried.
As with any situation that affects your life in a major way, it is better to see a professional - like a professional Couples therapist -If you feel uncomfortable. There you can learn to work through disagreements, to understand each other deeper and improve intimacy. In addition, you can get an idea of an expert on any divorce harder, such as the affection or absence of it. Fortunately always after always have a possibility - as long as you put in the job.
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