Why is the search for love only a waste of time?
Do not search for love an ultimate goal. Instead, build a life where you will be flourishing.
Life is composed of stages, it is a trip and a permanent learning. By being focused on one thing, in this case the search for love, you can miss to your life, next to the opportunities that surround you and who can help you enjoy this trip. An insatiable quest for love can be satisfied when you encounter the elected being, but it can also be a real disappointment if you never reach your goal. It is often said that love falls on us when one expects the least: this assertion can be valid in certain circumstances, especially if you are active in your life in general. Do not search for love an ultimate goal. Instead, build a life where you will be flourishing. It is during this construction that you will encounter potential pretending to love, as you wish. Do not go next to your life, do not lose time.
- Set goals
If you focus all your energy in search of love and that it is unsuccessful, the weather is surely spinning you between the fingers. You must set other goals to distribute your time differently. You need professional goals, goals to take care of you, to please you, etc.
- Spend time alone
Behind the search for love at all costs often hides the idea that a person will fill a lack. Before looking for someone who would help you flourish, spend time alone. These solo moments will allow you to learn how to get to know you better and set your goals in order to fulfill yourself alone at first.
- Learn to love you
A person can love you to madness, but if you do not like yourself, you will always doubt the love that the other wears you. When looking for tireless love, you are looking for the other what already exists in you: the ability to love. To love each other better, we must first learn to love each other. Instead of wasting time to search, start by identifying everything that makes your value. In this way, you will not throw you on the first person just come to fill a lack of love.
- Be independent
If you are not independent in every sense of the word and especially in the emotional field, you will always be dependent on the look and approval of others. By learning to be independent at all levels of your life, you will no longer be looking for love at all costs. The quest for love can handle you beside your independence.
- Learn how to understand others
In your search for fulfillment, you do not have to forget others. It is at listening to his relatives and people encountered at the turn of a conversation that you will learn to understand each other. Thanks to this listening and active comprehension, you will be able to love and accept others as they are. Because in the pursuit of love, we often go next to meetings of beautiful people.
- Be open to meetings
It's not because you no longer search for the love you need to isolate yourself. On the contrary, by continuing your dreams and personal projects, you will be on a path where you will have the opportunity to meet people looking for the same thing as you. It is precisely for this reason that you have to stay open to meetings and keep your eyes wide open, because it is surely at that time that you will meet love.
