Here's how marriage changes your personality
No, it's not always for the better
Once upon a time, I went to the wedding of two very good friends of mine. They were madly in love and could not stop coming out of each other. A year and a half later, they could not defend themselves. It's not a rare story in newlyweds, that's why people always say that when the honeymoon is over, when marriage begins. But you can not help but stop me from asking you: Have these couples always had these faults but did not notice them until the original excitement exuded, nor the marriage reallycash people?
Paperto be published in the June issue ofThe psychology of developmentIt's the latter. A research team at the University of George has followed 169 heterosexual couples in their first 18 months of marriage and has seen important personality changes in men and women over time. In addition, it is that these changes were not affected by the age of spouses, demography, the length of the relationship before marriage, cohabitation before marriage, initial marital satisfaction or the status of parenthood, This suggests that, to a certain extent, these changes are universal and a little unavoidable.
Some of the changes are good, but unfortunately, most of them are not. You can read the five biggest changes they have discovered below. And for new surprising news about the honeymoon period, seeScience says it's the happiest point of your wedding.
1 The husbands become less extroverted
It's logic. After all, half of the men leave the house is to meet women. The best part of being married is that you can finally sit at home in your boxers as God wandered.
2 Women become less neurotic
The logic here is that women take their role again as a woman, they present themselves in the comfort and stability of marriage. After all, you no longer need to worry that he will never offer or call things at the last minute. Of course, it often changes later, especiallyOnce you have reached age when men are most likely to cheat.
3 Women become less open
This one is more a mystery, especially that everyone knows that communication isone of the secrets of a great relationship.
3 Husbands become more conscientious
As they take a new role, they tend to work harder and feel more responsible, which is great.
3 Both become less enjoyable
According to Harville HendrixGet the love you want, The first step of the marriage, romantic love, is followed by the fighting scene against the dreaded struggle. Once these soft feelings disappear, you start noticing all these small faults that have never bothered you before. You start fighting little things like how they cut their tomatoes or how they brush their hair because you want them to turn around in this person you were so appreciated at the beginning.
Soon, you are this couple who is constantly shagging, everyone tries from each other. It's a terrible step, but here is the good news: If you manage to cross this test phase, you are moving in a mature love, even deeper than you had at the beginning.
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