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We all know the type: the kind of guy who seems to be with another woman every night, is desperatelyPHOBE COMMITMENT, meets your sporadic texts and only presents you at home at 2 o'clock. This is the worst, and yet you or a person you know is probably fallen for him. The question is why women are attracted by the jolts?

To be fair, you may not realize that it is a fool first, and this can be a big part of the problem. These men often know how to present a much more attractive version of themselves at the beginning.

"MAny shock is very charismatic, "says the clinical psychologistCarla Marie Manly, Phd. "As such, they wear masks that draw in a potential partner with kindness and charm. Then once a new partner is captured, the mask is slowly removed but surely to reveal the real man below. This transition often happens so gradually that the partner is not aware of slow changes until the situation becomes obvious and intolerable. "

But once you know it's a fool, why not just hit him at the edge of the edge? It's a little more complicated than that. Some experts believe that an attraction for jolfs could be revealing aunhealthy fixing style which is inherited from your relationship with your parents.

"Some women can end up attracted by unhealthy partners because of the attachment style they learned how they grew up, "explains the clinical psychologistClinton Moore, PhD. "A classic example is narcissistic parents who are pros to be cold and distant. If you have grown up in this dynamic, you are more likely to be attracted by remote or practiced asnegationAnd kind guys who pay attention to you will look boring or stifled. "

But we could also make the argument that pop culture is at fault here. There are tons of films likeCruel intentionsThis includes a sweet caring woman reforming a narcissistic sociopath and Philandering through the power of his kindness. Of course, in the real world, it does not work really - but surely does a convincing story and an attractive fantasy to try to reproduce in real life.

"Some women consider it a challenge, which is exciting to them," Note clinical psychologiststKimberly M. Daniels, Psyd."If I can bring this guy to be a good guy, it makes me feel better about myself. It can be really exciting for some women. And it can also feel more powerful too."

The problem, Daniels adds, is that "our society still describes jolts as powerful and masculine", which means that many men might be tempted to act like shaking in order to attract women, even if it goes to the against their true nature.

The good news is that just because you have been attracted by the jolts in the past, you must be in the future. Remember that it's never worth your time - and maybe know where this attraction come can help you to core the line. And if you are worried, your current good weather might not be anything that serious, learn the17 subtle signs Your relationship is just a fly.