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I have always suspectedparenthood was more than the goal of my husband as mine.MaternityWhile something I wanted, was difficult for me to understand to our daughter, Maya, was born four years ago. It had always felt surreal and unknown.

My husband Russell, on the other hand, was apparently born to be afather. He learned to support like a champion, he immediately seemed to listen to Maya's needs, and he had more patience than I could never hope. Being aRest-at-home fatherHe really found his call.

But it was not always our plan to have Russell being a parent at home.

During the eight months following Maya's birth, we learned our A-Russell plan continuing to work full-time, I write to the Writing of Mayan Naps and the evening, just not going to work.

Maya was Juliaduice, refused all the efforts to be "formed" in any way (go to the figure), and for two weeks, would only sleep with his head planted firmly on my heart. Nursing has been difficult, leading to several excursions early earlier ephemeral to hospital breastfeeding nurses. It quickly became clear that I would need more help than expected.

When Maya was five months old, Russell contracted a strong flu pressure, resulting from him riding the bus from the city to go to work in winter on little sleep. And then I caught the flu, which quickly turned into pneumonia. But even after my hiss has decreased, mystress stayed.

I would like Maya would sleep through my conferences. I would like to agonize on time. We would have days when none of us came out of our pajamas and nothing did. I felt like I was barely surfing.

As difficult as it was for me, it was more difficult for Russell. He worked 12 hours a day, after which he would come directly at home, took baby homework and often prepare dinner and do the dishes. I started dreaming of a life where he could be at home with us, where I could just write all day and he couldBond with his daughter.

Then, on a particularly brutal day, I fell apart. I waited until Maya did not hit with her swing before I leave the sobs exceeding me, pray all the divinities and angels I thought in as well as some that I did not do it . I asked for something to give, no matter what it meant.

The following day, I received a text from a friend who changed everything. She asked if I would be interested in a contractual position with her company. The salary was almost exactly what Russell brought home at the time. Although it was a bet, I was convinced that if I could land this concert, I would be able to find enough work when the contract was ready to take care of us.

Although Russell has never been thetraditional type-And, in fact, he had half-knotted to be a father at home before - I was nervous to make him propose the official proposal. But after working without stopping since he was 16 years old, and after falling asleep on the bus from Seattle City, external depletion of a depletion, Russell was ready for change.

"I know so many people who would do anything for the occasion ofraise their own children, "he says." Why would I pay someone else to raise my only one? "

And so, I accepted the role, Russell put his opinion and ournew life has begun.

As soon as Russell removed his work boots for the last time, he jumped directly to the maintenance mode of parents / full-time households. He treatedchores and grocery races as a job, up to the spreadsheets and checklists and "Tub-scrub Tuesday". He became an exceptional cook. He has endeavored to make every effort to involve Maya in appropriate activities by age, play tablets at the park during ballet and aquarium turner at the aquarium. Instead of barely seeing his daughter every day, Russell and Maya are better friends.

I did not worry too much about external opinions of our situation. I sat down for comments and snark, but they never came. Our friends and family were extremely favorable, and if someone had tried, they kept it to themselves.

There is a surprisingly greatstay at home dad Community in the northwestern Pacific and, for the most part, Russell is rented for its efforts with Maya, by particular women.

Although it is absolutely worthy of the positive comments he receives, he mentioned several times how he gets congratulations to do what he considers parenting. The cashiers of the grocery shopping compliment him to "give a break mom". It was asked if it is "Baby sitting"His child more than once, and he has a fan fan club amongSingle mothers At the park. (For the record, I say good for him - we all like to be recalled that our spouse is a catch!)Moms at homeAre definitely considered differently in our society of the holidays at home, even in a progressive city like Seattle.

Our arrangement was a huge boost for ourwedding, too much. Instead of putting my husband with refined eyes in a bus at 7 o'clock, he and I cuddle to bed together until our human awakening wakes us up. While I had days when I had to take refuge at the nearest cafe so that peace and tranquility and meet a deadline, I'm still largely at home with myfamilyWhere I can take breaks for appointments on the doctor, playlights and "Snuggles Mama", as may call them Maya. And we were both there for his first steps, that she took Russell to me in our room.

I do not pretend that our situation is always easy. We have been dealing with unexpected redundancies, paying customers and all the financial drama provided withpigeon. And while I clearly shared Russell that he does more than enough for our family, he always deals with feeling as if he does not "enough" whenThe money becomes tight.

The idea ofmale being family support In a traditional family dynamic, it's a difficult state of mind to overcome, even for someone who has never really believed that this is how it should be. It took a lot of time to Russell before stopping for me if he could spend money, despite the fact that we have always had a common current account.

When Russell returns to work when Maya begins the pre-k of this fall, we will have serious catch up to make our retirement accounts and the Maya's College Fund. But I really do not want to exchange a time of the last four years for all the financial security of the world, because I have something better: the satisfaction of knowing that we have made the right choice for ourfamily.

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