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In 2014,Gwyneth Paltrow caused a certain emanation when she announced that she and her 10 year husband, Coldplay FrontmanChris Martinwere "Consciously decoupled. "At the time, she was ridiculed so as not to call him" divorce "like everyone else, and people saw it as a sign of how too nine years ago - there was become.

In a recent interview withDax Shepard on hisPodcast Expert ArmchairIt opened its doors about the difficulty of the entire reaction to be taken - and why it decided to use the term in the first place.

"It had been invented in the 70s, I think," she says. "It's such a concept. You look at the barrel of divorce, the worst possible result. My parents were married until my father is dead. All my best friends ... all their parents were married, they All married their college or high school person, they are always married. I just did not come from a world where there was a lot of divorce. "

She then explained that after doing research on the subject, she did not want her children to suffer from the negative impact that the decision took as many others.

"The most common injury I heard of divorce children was:" My parents could not be in the same room and could not be friends. It took three years, it took 18 years, it took God forbidden - the death of a close family member for them to sit at the same table, "" "said Paltrow. "I just thought," I wonder if there is a way to get around that and go directly to the point where we are friends and we remember what we liked to each other and constantly recognize that we have created these incredible human beings together ... we "re a family, that's all. We can claim that we are not, and we hate you ... or [we can] try to reinvent this for ourselves . "

As one could expect, reaching this goal was not easy.

"I think at the time, I was a lot of pain," she said. "It looked like such a failure for me. It was so difficult and I was so worried about my children."

And the scale play did not help.

"It looked like a layer of the world that turned to say, basically," we just want to be nice between themselves and staying a family, "she said." It was brutal. I already felt like I had no skin. "

But they made work. In November 2017, Paltrow posted a veryCasual photo of a Sunday brunch She shared with her ex-husband and her new fiance with the hashtag #modernfamily.

And when they married in September, Martin even joined them at their honeymoon in the Maldives.

"Then my new husband and my child, my children, my ex-husband, our best friends of the family [all went]. It was a very modern honeymoon," she said onLiving with Kelly and Ryan in January.

In an interview with the LondonEvening The same month she explained why the term "conscious decoupling" always meant so much to her.

"The family structure can be reinvented and divorce does not have to be devastating," she said. "It's not forced to be the end of your relationship with someone ... I think Chris and I were supposed to be together and have our children. But our relationship is much better than: friends and co- parents and family. "

In the last five years, the idea that divorce does not have to become ugly and disorder has really been taken. At present, there are more than 3,000 messages on Instagram with the hashtag #conciesuncouploying and the climb of the #divorcesfie indicates their intention to do divorce seems a good thing seems to have worked.

And for more information on how divorce can actually have a positive impact on your children, checkOne of the main obstacles of divorce that no one is ever waiting for.

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