20 white lies we say to our loved ones every day

It is a marvel that we do not all walk with our pants on fire.


Everyone is lying - and some do as well as others. According toRecent research, a solid 60% of us tell an average of two to three lies every ten minutes! But all the lies are not created equal. In fact, a2014 study from Oxford University suggests that some lies could evento improvea relationship. It really comes back to the intention. Ment to manipulate someone or getting something from them is always a bad idea. A white lie to spare their feelings? Well, it could simply be defensible.

"White lies are a socially acceptable way to avoid confrontation and discomfort," says the marriage under license and family therapistDr. Racine Henry, Ph.D. "We want to avoid hurting the feelings of others and the difference between a white lie and the truth can be minimal. However, usually avoid the accountability by saying a lie, whatever the small, can be a sign a larger personality flaw. "

Here are 20 white lies that we all said, at one time or another, to someone we love. Many are innocent, but for some, you might think twice before repeating.

1
"I'm fine."

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In most cases, this is perfectly acceptable. Even if you are not good, we do not have to dive into a deep discussion of the complication and concerns of life, just because someone asked, "All is fine?" But if you really hide something that the other must know, it will possibly suit a moment when you have to have this difficult discussion.

2
"You look skinny in this dress / suit / shirt."

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Even though it's a lie-hey, we do not always think that everyone looks great in everything they carry anyway, they still help them to look at their bodies more than more realistic way. A study from the University of the University of 2010 revealed that our brains are actually "massively distorted" when it comes to a body image.

Like Dr. Michael Longo, the neuroscientist who led the research, oncetold a journalist, "There may be a general bias to perceive the body to be wider than it is." In some cases, most people see their bodies like two smaller thirds and a third shorter than the rest of the world sees.

3
"My phone is dead."

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This is a white lie that you can usually escape, if only because we have all experienced a cutting phone call, either because of a lost signal or a bad battery life. In many ways, it's perfect alibi, and no one is hurt. Just try not to exclude it. Only so many times a telephone conversation can be cut suddenly short before the other party begins to suspect that you simply use a practical output policy.

4
"I listen."

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It can or may not surprise you, but you're not mistaken anyone. The person on the end of this white lie "probably already knows that you do not listen," says April Masini, arelationship. A better idea would be to admit that, hey, maybe your attention has been left, if only one minute. "Say," Could you repeat that? 'Or, "I want to make sure I had that, tell it again, please," "advises Masini.

5
"I'm busy that day."

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There is no harm in a white menu like this one, but it requires a follow-up. If you refuse a social invitation by claiming that you will be "busy", you must keep a low profile to make sure you do not exhibit inadvertently. The last thing you need is to be seen having fun in the world at the exact moment you insisted that you are stuck in the office at night.

6
"I totally forgot to do this thing you asked me to do."

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To be just, sometimes it's really easy to forget. But it's not always the case. Sometimes you did not do the thing your loved one asked you to do because you simply do not feel like. It is, saying that so high power can have a good signature. "Sorry, but you're not a priority." It is certainly a white lie that we can endorce - just use it with parsimony. You can only "forget" your task lists to do so many times before your loved one wants to make an appointment with a neurologist.

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"It's the best gift you have ever gave me!"

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This is a strange white lie, if only because it is entirely useless. Do we really think they're going to get angry if we're saying simply: "Hey, thank you for the gift!" Or something else as simple and easy? Why is it necessary to beon top with a reaction, make rollers how much weloooove gift?

"Most of us possess an innate desire to be loved," saysDr. Jill Gross, an authorized psychologist. "In addition, people are most attracted to the individuals who make them feel good." If your gift has been given to you by someone you want and want to know better, then sure, exaggerate your enthusiasm. But if it's a loved one you've known for years or decades, even you may want to calm him. They do not need to convince you to love you.

8
"I'm five minutes away."

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What's about "five minutes" that sounds like the perfect geographic lie? We are not just in the block, but we are not far enough that the person to say that this lie should be upset. There is one thing we all know is true, though: if we receive a call from someone who is late and they claim to be "five minutes", we all know intrinsically it's not true. Repeat this white lie if you owe it, but do not think for a second (or for five minutes) that you are believed.

9
"Children and I do not just look at TV everything you were part of."

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The reason some white lies fall into pieces are because of their specificity. If your partner returns from a trip and asks what you and the children did during the weekend, and that you answer: "Well, we did not eat as many chicken nuggets we all had stomach evils, I'll tell you a lot, "It's a beautiful bet that what you insist did not happen isexactly What happened.

10
"It was my last piece of gum."

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Sometimes white lies are not just to protect the feelings of others. Sometimes they exist to protect us from strange social expectations - as the social expectation you need to share your gum. If you remove a packet of gum, anyone around you is well in their rights to ask: "You have gum! Can I have a room?" This is one of the only things in the life of which we are supposed to share without question.

It does not mean anything. You do not go out your car keys only to expect someone to say, "Oh, great, you have a car! Can I borrow it for a few hours? "But getting out of the gum and suddenly everyone wants a piece of themselves. So go ahead and tell the white lie that you have just burst the last piece In the mouth. Your secret is safe with us.

11
"I had ____ sexual partners."

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Unless it's part of a more serious sexual health discussion - you should never lie to a partner of your sexual past, especially if you risk putting their health at risk - it's first of all to exaggerate or reduce the number of participants to your past sexesse. Hey, it's not like you give them phone numbers.

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"Your new haircut looks amazing."

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The best white lies are those who have a positive impact on the rest of a person's day. Tell someonetheir haircut Is flattering and attractive, even if it's nothing like that, can do exactly that. According toa survey, feelings of low self-esteem on hair can send a spiral person into depression. But if someone tells them that their hair is superb, 56% will pay forward and will be more kind and pleasant to other people, while 67% will generally have a better day in total. Who knew a haircut had so much power?

13
"I did not check it."

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It's a white lie that can only do worse things, especially if it's pretty obvious that you have been caught in a FIB. And not because it is a clumsy attempt to deny our own behavior, but because it suggests that we have something more to hide. If our gaze was briefly distracted by an attractive stranger, hey, it happens. It demonstrates that we always have a heart rate. It's also harmless. But protest a little too much vehement that we did not do something thatwe clearly doneSuggests that this kind of eye-wandering is not a punctual event.

14
"Your kitchen is delicious."

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It's not a white lie that you will want to repeat often, especially if you tell someone who could cook you regularly. But as an occasional thing - like an act of encouragement towards someone experimenting in the kitchen and see what they can do to make them cooking, it's delicious, even if that could not be further from the truth is not such a bad idea.Studies have shown This kitchen and cooking allow people to feel more relaxed and happier in their lives. Even if they did not serve you a meal that made your taste buds sing, you encouraged them to continue trying, and a small way of their day a little better.

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"Do not worry, it's okay."

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This is a delicate problem. Sometimes it is a white lie that a person needs to hear, if only the truth will be too overwhelming. We all make mistakes and some of us makenumerous mistakes, then having a loved one who tells us "it's going" even when it is very clearlynotOK can be a gift. But do not repeat this white lying too often.

Yes, leave it on someone once in a while, even when everything in your head wants to shout to them to play so spectacularly, is a good instinct. But from time to time, mistakes should not be forgiven so quickly. It depends on gravity. You will know when it happens. Did they spill wine on your carpet? Do not hesitate to tell them: "Do not worry, it's okay." Have they crushed their car in your yard? You do not have to play cool.

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"Tell me the truth, I will not be angry."

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For a white lie to work, it can not be immediately ignored a few minutes later. Go ahead and use this white lie if you owe it, but be ready that it only works once. At the moment the facade falls and you reveal that, despite the insurance on the contrary, there was always a possibility that you were going to become furious, you will no longer be able to use this white lie and have the same effect.

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"I did not throw it."

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Whether you're talking about a birthday card from your grandmother or a special art designed by a five-year-old child, no one can wait to keep everything on everything. But that does not mean that you should break their hearts by revealing that the thing they waited for you to cherish forever could have ended up in the nearest trash. Never admit this. Even if you are caught in the law or find their masterpiece at the trash, insist on your innocence. There are just things in life where the truth is doing everything worse.

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"No, it's not a new [Expensive wallet, pair of shoes, holding. I had it forever. "

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If your family is on a budget, you make crazies on yourself may be embarrassing. A white lie like this one, as long as it is a purchase that does not put you or your loved ones in financial jeopardy are mostly innocent. It can also be quite easy to escape, as long as your partner does not stumble on revenue that prove that you are less than truthful. Sometimes, when you are caught in the law, the best thing to do is to admit your mistake and move on.

19
"I laugh!"

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So, you said something hurtful and you realize too late that you might have inadvertently trampled about their emotions? A white lie as "just pleasant" can be an effective way to turn around, even if you both know that it's totally bunk. It's basically saying, "I know I'm spoiled, so I'm going to say I wanted to say that like a joke with the worst punch of all time and I hope you agree exchantely."

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"I did not do it."

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Ah, a classic in the kind of white lies. You have very clearly done something wrong, and everyone knows that you are the only responsible, but you hope that a refusal statement, if it is delivered with enough enthusiasm, will suffice to create enough doubt for you make noise. Alas, it does not work almost never, but that does not prevent us from trying. And for more things you may not be able to realize you hurt your loved ones, check the30 nasty things you do without even realizing it.

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