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After #Metoo has become a viral seminal sensation that has been virtually all women (and some men) on earth has experienced sexual harassment, many men responded to social media with #HowiwillChanghange, promising to join the struggle To end harassment and assault, especially at the workplace. As a noble promise, in many real tweets centered on abstract promises to fight against sexism, as opposed to concrete advice on the measures to be taken to achieve this objective.

Maybe that's whyThis Facebook postby writer based in Toronto, actor, director andTV presenterNicole stamp I went viral last year, accumulating more than 68,000 likes and 70,000 shares in less than a week. Here are some of the strengths he contained on what every man can learn from the #metoo movement to help the fight at the end of sexual harassment. And for more ways to be a gentleman, make sure you know the17 worst things that a man can tell a woman.

"Practice these sentences:" It's not cool "and" it's a thing [silent] to say "Tell them to other men who say disrespectful things to or on women."

"Sometimes they write may seem" exhausting "or" too angry ". Put aside this discomfort because this feeling is your male privilege allowing you to disengage yourself from a significant conversation that women do not disengage . "

"When there is a problem and you will share an article about it, especially if it's a gender issue - take a minute and try to find a writing by a woman."

"Listen to men who rejected women's contributions and make a habit of listening and saying things like" Hey Zahra has a point ""

"So often, you hear that men have been introduced with job titles and braces, and the women introduced as" the beautiful "or" the beautiful ". I guarantee that no matter how the quality of his appearance does, she prefers be introduced by his title and his accomplishments. PerfaitWashington Post Article: "At lectures, doctors are introduced as a" doctor anyone "72% of the time; Physician women are introduced using the word "doctor" only 49% of the time. '

"It's a subtle way to stop them, raise your status on them as a man who chooses to vote as attractive and remind them and all present that they are just small ladies that no one should listen. "Publishers Note: It also makes you ring as if you are in a 70-year-old film in the Outback of Arkansas. (And it should probably go without saying that humiliating nicknames are definitely among the100 things that men should not say.)

"If you meet sexy time and the other person stops the reciprocal, calms down, seems tense or steep, avoids devoting eyes, breaks or otherwise slows down the tempo of the meeting, then you should .... Stop what you do.

Crop how you think of consent. You are not supposed to just "go for that" until someone shouts no and it's when you stop. It's old and gross. And it might not be able to explicitly say no, because it was most likely assaulted before and it could freeze when it is stressed - it is a side effect of all this "me too".

People should not have to say explicitly no. Instead, slow down. At each stage, listen with your ears (or ask with your words) for the word "yes", then you can climb the meeting together. Look for explicit and enthusiastic and active consent before continuing. Proceed together. "

"Use insults working on everyone rather than insults that specifically target feminine as low, less and unwanted."

"Do something that is coded as traditionally" female "in a way that encompasses the feminine as a valid way of being, not in a way that makes fun of femininity. Buy them of the books and watch TV and Films that highlight female characters. Move their stereotypes verbally. On what men do and how women are lower. "

"Beware constantly or just saying that little girls are pretty and cute or commenting on their hairstyle and clothing. I know that little girls often wear fun tricks and it's easy to comment. But that tells him and the little boys nearby, that girls should be appreciated above all for their appearance. Instead, try things like "what kind of toy is it? It looks fun, what is it? Do you read good books? What is your favorite topic at school? What kind of things do you like to do? Do you have a favorite animal? Can I ask your advice, should I buy apples or grapes? 'There are so many things to talk. "

"Literally go out on your way to help him feel that you do not follow her."

"Keep an open eye for the gross habit of our culture of putting the UN on the oppressed people in their pain for an inspection (only so that we can reject it as" only one instance they have probably caused or misinterpreted anyway ")., Try this-if you do not believe something is a problem, use the googles. Find, say, three itemswritten by people in this demographics, And read them. Look for models in their analyzes. You will find that these ideas are not foreign militant fringe notions, oppression is a well-accepted and stunning statusically sustained phenomenon and many insightful people speaks. "

"If you feel uncomfortable during conversations about sexism (or racism, or the ability to correction or cultural ownership, or all that all these systems are linked, Google 'Kyrarchy' and" intersectionality To learn more), the only correct answer must be calm and listen and try to focus on the subject by hand rather than focus your own feelings. "

"Thank you for trying to be decent men," concluded a stamp. "We see you."

It's not easy to change a system that has existed for so long and is, in some respects, so completely rooted in all. But if all these suggestions feel overwhelming, follow this gold rule: in a given situation, put yourself in the women's shoes and do you think: "How would I want to be treated?"