It's the label error you need to stop doing 40

Do not let your bad ways rest up you longer.


Everyonemakes a label error From time to time, if you accidentally let the elevator door close when someone rushes to enter or forget to say "Thank you" when someone makes you a favor at work. However, while these occasional errors can be forgiven, there is a fake essential label, you probably take regularly without even realizing it.

"For 40 years, we should know how to present us correctly," says the label coachMaryanne Parker, founder of the Luxury Label Institute andManor ways. While Parker notes thatLift hands will probably be out of the table For a while because of coronavirus, she says that "visual contact is always extremely important" when introducing yourself to someone else. It is also important to provide your first names and your first name and make sure you ask the same thing from the person you meet.

It is far from the only label error that you probably commit yourself regularly. If you want to stay on the right side ofEmily Post, these are the label errors you need to stop doing after 40. And if you want to get your act together, it's time to stop doing these50 things you do every day that hinder others.

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Do not introduce others

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You can assume that each member of your internal circle knows, but it's not always the case. "When you miss to introduce everyone in your party, it does not make every person feel valued and she also sends a message to the other person they are not worth knowing," saysTONI DUPREE, founder ofLabel & Dupree Style, a label and a finishing school based on Houston. "If in doubt, always play safe and present people who may not know you to avoid doing so that anyone feels gone."

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And not stand up at the introduction

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Of course, there are of course exceptions to this rule (no one thinks it's rude if you stay sitting if you have mobility problems, for example), in general, if you are presented to someone One, the label dictates that you are standing.

Although Tsai says that women had to sit during introductions today, is considered good practice, whatever their sex. "When you want to greet someone, it shows not only that you are looking forward to meeting you and welcoming them," it is also an easy way to convey respect, "she explains. And if you want to avoid a false conversation step,This question that you always ask can kill a conversation, say experts.

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Excuse too much

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Although it is important to have your mistakes, to make too much effort to apologize may experience as a sincere pressure or pressure on the recipient.

"You can be really sincere when yousay forgivenessBut it is to the other person if he will accept it, "said Parker. And if you commit yourself in behaviors less than polis,You can have your in-laws to blame for this bad habit, the study says.

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Make the embarrassing behavior of other people

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Of course, you still think it was funny when your friend had some too many cocktails and danced on a table, but that does not mean they want to relive this embarrassing moment.

"We should leave the past to the past," says Parker. "[If they] are excused on this and we have accepted the excuses, we should never go back and bring negativity and bad memory to the table again."

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Connect each story back to yourself

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It's human nature to wantparticipate in a conversation, But sometimes people just need to move. If you follow everything your friend says with a story about something similar that has happened to you, you arenot really listen effectively-And you are rude.

"Your listening skills are the most important asset in the construction of relationships. Talking constantly and constantly on ourselves is overestimated and, frankly, never creates a positive impression," says Parker. And for label tips delivered in your inbox,Sign up for our daily newsletter.

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Not RSVPing in a timely manner

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This option "perhaps" when responding to an event on Facebook does not really excuse you to give your host a definitive answer to the participation of their party.

"There is a lot of effort to plan an event ... So you want to be attentive and respectful guest responding to the RSVP," saysBonnie Tsai, founder and director ofBeyond the label, a label training and communication company. So, how fast should you offer a confirmation? Tsai suggests responding more than 48 hours later.

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Show up

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While everyone becomesstuck in traffic jamsor takes more more leave the house than having initially destined from time to time, to be often late, especially if you do not say to the person you encounter you will not be on time - is an undeniablelabel error.

"Showing later tells others that your time is more valuable than theirs," says Tsai. If you run late, it is important to inform anyone who can expect and thank them for their patience upon arrival. And if you are worried about your ways, check these11 impolite behaviors we all do now, thanks to coronavirus.

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Do not bring gifts to the holidays

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Even if you do not have disposable revenues, you show an error on empty hands at an event, it's always a label error.

"When you are invited to an event or a dinner, it's important to bring a gift asAppreciation token of your host, "said Tsai. However, it does not mean that you must bring wine, especially in cases where it would not be appropriate for part of a child or a host of recovery, for example. In these cases, Tsai says that a scented candle is always a sure bet.

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Do not thank your host

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Even if you brought a gift, you were introduced when you were introduced and that you were a supporter assisted (and guest), who does not thank your host after an event may leave a bad taste in the mouth of anyone. "Your host has provided you with an experience and even if you provide a gift, follow-up of the next day to express an appreciation is a nice touch and the good thing to do," says Expert LabelNorah Lawlor, which contributed to the front toThe most important ways: the easy guide to the label at home and the world.

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Neglect to send notes "Thank you" in general

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Although it may seem like aold-fashioned, the label always dictates that you should send a thank you note after receiving a gift.

"Do not forget to send a written thank you card after receiving a gift, saysMarie Betts-Johnson, President of theInternational Institute of California Protocol. "It's not old - it's a powerful tool that makes you memorable."

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Keep your phone on the table during dinner

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Unless you wait for someone to go into the job is a doctor who could be called to last minute surgery, keep your phone on the table when you dine with someone is undeniably rude. In doing so only shows your catering companion that you are not willing to give them your not divided attention - something that probably does not make your friends feel good, and certainly not attracted you a second date if you do it During a romantic meal.

As it is difficult to usually, Betts-Johnson says that, in the interest of the label, it is important to "put this iphone away and learn to have real conversations and to create relationships."

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Leaving your towel on the table instead of your knees

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What is the first thing you should do when yousit down a meal? Put your towel on your lap, according to Expert LabelKaren Thomas, founder ofKaren Thomas Label. In fact, do not do it immediately is a serious label error.

"The towel must be placed on your knees immediately on the session, even before the others do not go there, with the folded side rising to your size," says Thomas.

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Sip your drink before you recognized a toast

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Although it may seem like if you're going to take a sip of this champagne once someone with grilled bread is finished, making it a wrong label, according to expert labelJacquelyn Youst, owner ofPennsylvania Protocol Academy.

Before lifting your glass at your lips, "returning the toast, then you can sip your drink," she says.

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Eat with your elbows on the table

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If you want to look more polished in a moment, make sure your elbows do not rest on the table when you eat. "If the salad comes and we eat, no elbows on the table," says Thomas. However, between the courses, go ahead and rest on the content of your heart. "Once the waiting staff prevails, we can rest our elbows on the table until the next lesson comes," adds Thomas.

So why is that considered a mistake in the first place? Thomas says that, because meals were already considered formal events, the collapsed posture that goes aside with the rest that your elbows on the table were considered too relaxed and, as such, rude.

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Talk with food in the mouth

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You might be excited to participate in a conversation, but if you are half-bite, you'd better wait. "Be attentive to keep your mouth closed during chewing," says Dupree. "Finish the jaw, swallow, then join the cat-and if the moment has passed, so be it."

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Using bad utensils

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If you look at the range of knives and forks in front of you during a dinner, you broke in a cold sweat likeJulia Robert ' figure inA pretty woman, you're not alone. When using bad knives and forks, it's an undeniable fake, the rule here is simple: Work your way from the outside. Your salad fork should be left of your fork at the end of your dinner, and the knife to use for previous classes should be right with your dinner knife, which should be directly to the right of your plate.

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By just passing salt

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As strange as it may seem, if you are prompted to pass the salt and you do not give up the pepper too, you actually commit alabel error. "In terms of label, salt and pepper are married," says Thomas. "People simply do not know they are supposed to be adopted, but it's something that people should be aware."

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Reach on the table

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No matter how much you want to avoid disturbing other guests, reach the table to catch something during a meal is always a serious label blunder. "If it's far enough that you have to stand up to reach it, you should not do it and you should ask the place," says Thomas. And, she explains, if you are the one who passes from the food, you should pass it on your right.

So why reach a table such a label error? "Because your personal space is invaded by the scope," says Thomas. "It's also agerminal situation: My hand and my arm now invade the space in which you consume food. "

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Start your meal before others

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Just because you are hungry does not mean that you should dig your meal before the rest of the table has their food. "Do not start eating until everyone was served," said Youst. Once everyone has its food and all pre-meal rituals are away (like toast or prayers), you can dive.

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Pointing in people

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Of course, it can feel strange to go into extreme details describing the person you're talking about when you could easily handle in their direction, but you're heading, even if you think you're subtle about it, is a donation absolute t in the world of label.

Noting that the gesture can meet as accusato, Tsai suggests a simple alternative: "gesture with an open palm instead - it is much more welcoming and neutral."

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Boarding an elevator without letting others first

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"Know the correct way toEnter and exit an elevatorShould be learned when you are a teenager, "says Youst. However, for those who need refreshment, the rules are simple: supporting on the side, making sure you do not obstruct the doors while leaving everyone the elevator, then on the board in an orderly manner, with the people closest to the gates entering first.

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Do not hold the door

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Holding the door can be a delicate thing: while it is polite to keep it for the person behind you, hold it too long and you will become the de facto porter. So, how should you avoid a label error in this common situation? "Anyone who arrives at the door first holds him for people behind them," Thomas suggests.

However, this applies only to the one who isdirectly Behind you, and only if they can get there by the count of three-holding the door of someone 30 feet will only make them feel obliged to rush and is not considered polite.

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Do not say "excuse me" while trying to go to someone

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While maneuvering through crowds on a sidewalk or a metro car is never a nice experience, it does not mean that your ways should fall next to the path. Not saying "excuse me" "is absolutely one of the harshest things that someone can do," says Thomas. "We are all in a hurry. What it says is that" I'm more important than you and I do not need to be nice. "

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Order with "Can I?"

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While the food control can usually be a brief transaction, it does not mean that it is never acceptable to make it rude. "You should say," I would like "can not I have? "" Explains Youst of the appropriate language to order. "May I have please" is an acceptable alternative, "she notes.

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Or control during your phone

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Just because you were bored on the Starbucks line, it does not mean that everything is going to have a phone call at the counter while trying to order simultaneously. "YourIndivided attention should be given to Barista, server or clerk, "says Thomas." The phone call should never interfere with the transaction. "

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Shit

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We all listened to someone we want to stop talking, but in factHushthemselves? It is a serious label error according to Thomas.

"Shushing is a huge fake step," she says. "Nobody should be stopped when they speak, with the exception of a teacher calm a student." If you want to talk or do not agree with what someone says, just wait for your turn and get your point on when they are over.

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Interrupt

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We all know the feeling: you try to explain something to a colleague or a friend when, from nowhere, they cut you off to start doing their own point. But no matter how often it happened to you, there is no excuse to repeat this flawful behavior.

"People are just excited and they want to have their point of view, and they do not realize it's rude, but it's," says Thomas. "They should really stop and listen when the other person speaks, take a moment to digest what they said and wait to answer instead of interrupting."

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Do not follow after interviews

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You have landed an interview for your dream work, you feel like you nailed it, and yet you never hear back. What could have been wrong? According to Thomas, one of the biggestLabel Errors People do in a context Neglave what she houses the "Three Years Acknowledgment Rule". "Thanks to them in the interview, thank you after the interview by email, then to writing," she suggests.

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Neglect to respond to emails in a timely manner

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Your inbox can feel like a real black hole, but that does not mean you canlet emails not answered without coming through as rude. "He lets the sender guessing," says Lawlor. In addition, "they could deduct a particular answer so as not to answer."

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Do not use the appropriate spelling and grammar in professional communications

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When you send aEmail full of errorsOr impenetrable digital speaks, you ask the recipient to do additional homework on your behalf. It is therefore in your interest to give it a quick check before hitting the shipment, says Betts-Johnson. "You will be judged, then read it once again before sending it," she suggests.

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Leaving your reading receipts on

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Avoid this surprising social label fake step is as simple as checking theSettings on your phone. Although it may seem minor, left on reading receipts - especially when you do not answer people right away, can be perceived as seriously rude, as is the case with e-mail.

"Reading an unanswered message for more than one day, even in a personal setting, is really unacceptable," says Thomas. "If you read their text, you have to go back. The rule is in the day in personal environments and in business, it's two to three days."

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Answer the phone with something other than "Hello"

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While your personal telephone hi can have fun, it is in your interest in taking a page ofAdele Playbook and get used to saying a simple "hello". Starting a conversation with good greeting transmits respect and help you ensure that you accidentally give up an occasional response to an important caller. "A proper telephone label indicates that there should be a greeting, whether" hello "or" good afternoon "," said Thomas.

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And hang before saying "goodbye"

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It's not because you're under the impression that a phone call is complete does not necessarily mean that the person on the other end of the line makes it. If you are ready to end a call, make sure it's clear and say "goodbye" before finding yourself or that you might find inadvertently cut the person you have spoken.

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Leaving your headphones speaking

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Your Bluetooth helmet or aerodrieves can hardly feel like part of your body at this point, but if you arehave a face-to-face conversation With someone, it is essential to take this helmet or headphones of your year. When you do not, Thomas says, "It leaves the other party without knowing if you care about what they have to say - or if you even hear them."

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Leaving the sound of your phone on

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There are few more boring things than having to listen to someone else's phone's blast music or sound effects of a match. In fact, it's a major label mistake to have your sound at the time you are in public. When your phone rings, "You must do one of the two things: answer immediately or return it," says Thomas. "When you're in the office, you should have it."

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Cinemas

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As you have reached 40, chances know that you know that cinemas are not a suitable place to pursue long conversations, but that does not stop countless people to commit this label error.

"Talking before the movie? Absolutely. Once the lights are dim, even if it's the above? All discussions should stop," says Thomas. And if you absolutely need to tell your companion something during the movie, "it should be in a very light murmur and not strong enough for the rest of the theater to hear," she says.

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Put your bag or feet on an unoccupied seat

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There are few more boring things than getting on a crowded train and finding that the seat you hoped to find is occupied by a handbag - or, worse, the feet of someone. "When other people enter and the space must be busy, you should move [your bag] immediately," said Thomas, who leads to this behavior to an "8 out of 10" on the rude level.

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Cup

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You knew it was rude to kindergarten, so why would the online cup be less a label error later in life?

This is especially true in retail environments. If a new registry opens, but you are on the back of the existing line, it does not give you a free pass to jump to the front of the news.

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Using the last of something without replacing it

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Unless you want to give up the anger of people with whom you live or work, make sure that when you use the last of something, you are replacing it expeditively. By using the last product and do not replace, it is "unacceptable" in terms of label, according to Thomas. "Whether it's toilet paper or ketchup, you have to replace it," she explains. "It goes against the very nature of the label so as not to do it." And for more bad behaviors to jump, It's the most boring text you send all the time .


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Tags: aging / Etiquette / Over 40
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