Tips from the relationship at the top of J-ROD
You can learn a lot from Jennifer Lopez and Alex Rodriguez.
Jennifer Lopez, 48, is not an easy woman to win. Fierce, successful and fully aware of what it is worth it, it has been proposed tofive times (Three of these have resulted in weddings, one in a broken commitment, and only one articulated is rejected). As a retirement Yankee superstar,Alex Rodriguez, 42, it's quite the grip. So how Duo Power, who made his red carpet debut like a couple with a Gala last spring spring, which will make it? Here are some of their best advice, with the courtesy of their new common coveragestory forVanity fair.And if you think you have met your own J.LO or a stem of A, try one of themIrresistible first date ideas.
1 Ladies, do not be afraid to make the first gesture.
If it surprises you that the international mermaid Jennifer Lopez was the first to approach a cane, it's good because she was surprised too. "It was only one of those things where you feel obliged to do something you would not normally," said J.Lo, to see Rodriguez walk last winter when she had lunch in Beverly Hills and will all decide a sudden, come and exploit it on the shoulder and say hello. Like most women, the movement did not come easily easily for her as for some men.
"I almost shouted" Alex ", but I am the most shy person when it concerns things like that," she said. When she went to him, he was still confronted with her. "I could literally Just make me. But I walk on the shoulder and say "Hey."
2 Men, construct this movement.
Since it is rare for a woman, even on the day and at the age of today, to be that of approaching a man, he is in the best interests of a guy to turn around As soon as possible if he wants to make magic. Forget the "three-day rule", which is obsolete anyway. A-Rod called it that only a few hours after they hit each other, and very soon they had dinner plans this week.
3 Do not forget the compliments.
It seems easy, but it's something that guys nowadays tend to forget (or intentionally avoid because they do not want to seem objectifying). And there is an art to that. If J.Lo had been dressed Super Sexy and A-Rod said, "Whoa girl, you look fiiiine", would probably have returned and furrowed. But instead, she was dressed, as she puts it: "Like a boy-Timberlands, jeans, curly short hair," since it was coming out of a promotion for his show,Shades of blue, in which she plays a cop. Alex took a look and immediately said, "You are so beautiful."
Give a compliment like this when a woman clearly did not implement to look attractive to get a guy a lot of points because it allows him to know thatShe is The one you think is beautiful, not all makeup products and hair and glitz and glamor. In addition, if you have trouble finding the right compliment, you can not go wrong with "you are so beautiful." "Beautiful" is much better than "pretty", "cute" or "hot". "Beautiful" means that there is space for love. And if you are looking for advice on compliments to say, make sure to check the13 sexiest things you can tell a woman.
4 Remember the details.
The reason J.LO was comfortable approaching a cane in the first place, it was that they had met 12 years earlier in a match in which she then husband,Marc Anthony, thrown first. When they came out for their first date, she asked if he remembered the way they met for the first time, followed: "You do not have to say that you remember if you do not do it ", which is obviously a trap, because women like to know that you do not only remember how you have met for the first time, but you have kept your outfit and what perfume you do because C was an opportunity so monumental in your life. Fortunately, he spent and said, "Stade Shea, during a series of metro."
5 Take it easily on the first date.
Stars, they are like us! Although major celebrities, none of them are 100% safe as their dinner at the Bel Air hotel was actually a date.
"I did not know if it was a date," said A-Rod ", we may have seen each other because of his work schedule. I went into uncomfortable, not knowing his situation."
"I do not know if he thought it was a date," she said. "I thought it was a date."
He ended up being a good thing because they learned to know each other biologically, without the pressures of what you are "supposed to" do on the first dates.
6 Men, do not be afraid to leave your guard.
One of the things that really seemed to attack J.LO to A-Rod is that he did not set up a forehead, but let himself be rather vulnerable and honest and a little bit safe. Women like that, especially women like J.LO who are strong and independent women who have crossed the games.
"He was sitting there in his white shirt, very confident and virile, but he was so talkative!" she said. "I think he thought I was going to be that strong person, but I'm not. I'm not listening. He speaks to talk about his plans, the way he had just retired from baseball, the way he was getting married again to get married, all those things that you would not normally talk on a first date ... Then I knew he was nervous because he asked me if I wanted a drink. I said, "No, I did not drink" and he asked if I've asked if he had one. He was nervous and it was really cute. "
7 Enjoy what she can bring to your life outside of sex only.
In one of the most awake things by which a professional athlete can eventually say, A-Rod explained why he felt grateful to dinner with J-Lo, even if it was not a date.
"It would be incredibly productive for me to sit with one of the most intelligent women and the biggest people in the world, especially for a guy like me who runs through difficult times, recovering, recovering to people there there ", did he declare . "I thought it would be a winning victory no matter what."
It's pretty mind because there are a lot of guys there who would say they would have never dinner with a woman they found attractive unless they thought there was a pretty good luck of Sleeping with her, but A-Rod realized that just talking to an incredible woman could enrich her life.
8 Read. Sa. signals.
If we had a camera recording their date, I'm sure there would be a lot of body language coming from J.Lo to indicate that she was starting to find an attractive cane and probably supported. But what we certainly know about the interview is that there was a reasonably subtle signal, he could not ignore:
"She told me around the third or fourth round she was single. I had to get up and go again to adjust my thoughts. I went to the bathroom and I had enough courage to send him a text."
What did the text say? "You look sexy AF." Boom! And from there, we are firmly on the date of the date.
9 Have things in common is important.
It seems a bit obvious, but also romantic as the ideal of falling in love with your polar opposite, research shows that theThe most durable marriages take place between peoplewho share a similar context and the same fundamental values.
"We are very binoculars," said A-Rod. "We are both Leos; we are both New York; we are both Latino and about 20 other things."
10 Shared trauma and how you manage it.
There is something to face having faced the same type of emotional challenges in the past, because it helps you really understand and help you cope.
"I understand it in a way that I do not think anyone can, and he understands me so that no one else can ever," says Jennifer. "In his twenties, he ran into great success with the biggest baseball contract [at the time]. I had a movie # 1 and an album n ° 1 and made the story. We all had The two of the tops and challenges in our 30s, and among our 40s, we both had been at once so much. And more importantly that everything, we both did a lot of work on ourselves. "
Both had their fair share of emotional setbacks and personal failures. In 2003, J.LO was, as it calls it, "eviscerated" by the failure ofGigli. Shortly after, his participation in the co-starBen Affleck Very publicly fallen apart. In 2008, A-Rod's wedding atCynthia scurtes implemented on an allegation of business withMadonna. Then, in 2014, his career was ruined after being suspended from Yankees.
As J.Lo, he made his loss but then went again to start again. In all the similarities, they share, perhaps the most important thing is that they are both fighters. "The most impressive thing for me was how he got up and took this opportunity to get a better person," J.Lo said. "The most difficult times prove who you are. That's what I love and admire the most about Alex. He does not let anything beat her to beat her. It's just stronger."
11 Remember how lucky you are.
In relationships, it can be very easy to get used to a good thing, and it is at this moment that people are acquired. That's why J-Rod makes an active effort every day to be grateful.
"We are really good to remind us [show gratitude]," said A-Rod.
To give an example, J.LO recalled a moment when she was sitting in the bathtub, while a stem was sitting near the fire of the dress. When he was hot and came out to cool on the patio, she came out and asked what he was doing. "Live the dream," he replied.
12 Be the best of yourself.
Among the list of mentors of a cane is the big Warren buffet , who gave him once given words of advice he always wears with him:
"Number One: Be the best baseball player you can be. Number Two: Always be a gentleman. Be the best guy you can be."
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