The real reason it is so difficult to break with someone
It actually comes from a good place.
We all know what it is to dwell into a relationship that we know is toxic and our reasons for suspending are selfish. We do not want to face the rupture and inevitable pain that it will cause us, and we will definitelyI do not want to cut in the cesspool that is online datingIt is therefore easier to hang. But, according to a newstudy published in thePersonality Journal and Social PsychologyThe reason many of us delay the breaks is not as egocentric as it seems. In fact, the reason is actually a very extremely selfless.
First: the study. In its first experience, 1,348 participants in romantic relationships were followed over a period of 10 weeks. In the second, 500 participants are considering a break have been followed over a period of 2 months. In both cases, the researchers found that the probability that someone considered a break mainly depended on the pain they received the decision would cause the other person.
"The more dependent people believed that their partner was on the relationship, the least likely to initiate a break," Samantha Joel, Assistant Professor in the Department of Psychology of the Western University in Ontario and Head of the Head of the 'study,said in a university newsletter. "When people perceived that the partner was very attached to the relationship they were less likely to initiate a break. This is true even for people who were not really tied to the relationship themselves or who were Personally unsatisfied with the relationship. In general, we do not want to hurt our partners and we care about what they want. "
One of the problems of this seemingly altruistic line of thought is that it makes assumptions about how the other person feels. "One thing we do not know is how people 'perceptions are accurate," said Joel. "It could be that the overestimate person overestimate how hired the other partner is and how painful the rupture would be."
After all, if you are not really hired, it probably already causes a lot of pain and discomfort. From this perspective, the most kind thing to do is let them go. "Who wants a partner who does not really want to be in the relationship?" Joel added.
Remember: this could cause more short-term pain, but in the long run, it records everyone a lot of grief. And if you do not want to take our word for that, read what these20 people learned after a failed relationship.
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