Good Lifestyle

You would not want to date someone without sense of humor, is not it? Visual, clothes, strength - it's all important, but a good sense of humor will always be more important than these superficial qualities. Humor is forever, while beauty disappears. But why humor? Well, it seems that a person with a good sense of humor knows when counting a joke and when acting seriously. They also know when to say that effect phrase and when adding more history to a joke to make it more fun. The most important part of avoiding transforming positive qualities into negative points is to know when to stop. Here are some of the biggest positives that women present for men, without knowing.

1. Be very childish
Act as a child is cute. Pet names are cute, say that no baby can sometimes be cute, and it seems that everyone talks about it in recent weeks. However, there is a time and place for everything. If you exaggerate with a child-like behavior, you can quickly pass to be cute until it is incredibly annoying. Sometimes situations require a serious attitude, and a child-like behavior will only worsen the situation instead of neutralizing it.

2. Be clumsy
Just as the previous item, being clumsy turns the socialization into taking care of a baby. It's always good when people have scarves and napkins When you need more, but there's a difference between needing them from time to time and have all the dressings required for a spy in an action movie, with bags full of wet scarves, dried napkins , stain remover and bandaids (in case of cuts). And all this does not even begin to cover the embarrassment of being around an awkward person.

3. Do not make decisions
Sometimes you just need to take care of a situation and be assertive about what you want. This goes for everything - the simplest decisions (such as to do for dinner) to large (how to decide between a small ceremony and a luxurious wedding). Often people take the habit of avoiding making choices. We understand. There is the pressure to make mistakes, the pressure to choose something that your spouse will not enjoy, and so on. However, from time to time it is important to make bold and confident choices. If everything else fails, no one ever said no pizza for dinner!


4. Gossip
As with other things, there is a limit to the amount of gossip a person can hear before they begin to doubt the integrity and reliability of the gossip. Of course it is always interesting to know what is happening behind the scenes with some friends or colleagues at work, but there is a difference between a simple gossip and become a human equivalent of a "TMZ about boring people."

5. Cleaning and hygiene
Do we even have to mention this item? No one wants to live in a laboratory environment and dedicate several hours every day to cleaning, but no one wants to live in chaos as well. Of course, having a relaxing night, ask for food, watch a movie on Netflix, and then go to bed is a great time. However, it is equally important to take some time the next day to throw the boxes out, take the dirt from the table, aspirate the floor, wash the dishes, bathe and put a facial mask.


6. Authoritarianism
Although most men behave as if they wanted their girlfriend to be your mother, they do not want an authoritarian girlfriend. Of course, many men legitimately can not turn on their own, but at a certain point the pressure of an authoritarian girlfriend will come to them, and care and attention will be seen as excessive behaviors.

7. If you make a donkey
No one is perfect at all. Even renowned scientists have problems with some basic issues at times. Sherlock Holmes did not know about the solar system. We all have our strengths and weaknesses. The difficulty comes when people are made of burrs on purpose to make the people around them feel better. No one benefits from it. One thing is to ask advice, reminders or clarifications, and another thing is to pretend to be dumb to receive sympathy and attention.


8. Pretending interest
It takes time to build a good communication. It is easy to find things to talk about during this "honeymoon period" of a relationship, but it is significantly more difficult to have genuine debates and conversations later. Sometimes, the simplest option seems to be pretending to be interested in what your partner is saying, but it can quickly realize and it will only make the problem worse. The only thing worse than explicitly say that you do not care to pretend to care - it's embarrassing and discouraging at the same time. Good communication takes work, but not that kind of work.

9. Do not act like yourself
In the same sense of "doing dumb" and be very childish act like someone other than yourself in a relationship is a huge downside. I'm sure we all like to play a character to some extent, but it is better to let her acting skills to the room. If you want a real relationship, you have to be yourself with your partner.


10. Disregarding the time
Balancing work, personal hobbies and personal health is difficult enough. Adding another party to this equation makes things even more difficult. It is important to remember this about you and your partner. Obviously, this goes for both parties - do not let them disrespect the time you need to take care of yourself, but also be attentive to your needs and not disrespect your "personal time" just because you want attention.

11. Feeling entitled to something
As my grandfather was fond of saying: "The only coistas certain in life are taxes and death." Although it is a somewhat morbid to look at life, he was right. There is nothing that you have right in a relationship - not the time of your mate, your friends, your money, your pets or your belongings. One thing is to clearly communicate their needs assertively and quite another thing is to act as if you were right.


12. Emotional Manipulation
emotional manipulation is never a good thing to do. Although it is much more common for women to emotional manipulation, it is important to pay attention to signs and red flags of this type of behavior. Always make sure that the fault is not the determining factor to coerce someone.

13. Communications Problems
Good communication is a solid foundation for any relationship. This means that both parties must be good listeners, and must be able to communicate their needs and desires with their partners. Here, good listening skills are more important - for both partners. Be able to filter useful information about your partner and separate your emotions will help you significantly to show that you understand the cause of the problem. Never acknowledge that your partner has feelings and needs that may be different from yours is definitely a negative point.