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The title says "some" but let's be real - most men are (or seem) emotionally unavailable. The fact is there and the reasons are numerous. Although this article does not provide you with the 10 tips to repair your man, I will say that clear communication is the key if you even want to worry about trying. So, here are 8 reasons why your man (or a man) could be emotionally unavailable.

1. They have the emotional range of a teaspoon
Although the concept of emotional intelligence is widely criticized in the scientific community, it is difficult to deny that it is at least partially true. Emotional intelligence is a person's ability to recognize his own emotions and those of others, responsive feelings appropriately and use this information to guide their behavior. Many men never invest time to analyze their emotions and can not treat them properly. At best, they will mark closed and emotionally unavailable. At worst, they will have anger against anger and behave like fetulant children.

2. Toxic masculinity
We can only wish men take terry crews as an example of what it means to be a confident man. Instead, boys are raised to believe that showing no sign of having a complex range of emotions as a sign of weakness. They have the full range of positive emotions, but with regard to negative emotions, they have anger or complete despair. There is no intermediate solution. And while emotional intelligence is a person's ability to understand their emotions, the problem of toxic masculinity makes it difficult to express themselves, even if they understand them.

3. Childhood trauma
To perfectly H, men are not the only people who may have problems with emotional unavailability. This problem is not limited to guys. Childhood trauma can cause children to grow with confidence problems, which makes their openness more difficult to others later in life.

4. No good examples
On the other hand, some men could simply reflect the behavior of their parents (especially their fathers) when they are in a relationship. If they grew up in a family who did not have good communication schemes and an environment conducive to sharing emotions with each other, it can carry out in the rest of their adult life and in your relationship.

5. It's really in you
So, because of a lack of emotional intelligence and their absolute inaptitude in expressing emotions, it is quite possible that your man is just overwhelmed by what they feel towards you and, instead of Open about it, they are limited to tiny drops of attention and love at a time. There is a whole gallon feeling out there, but you are only showing a drop at a time because of being cute and I do not have a "cool".

6. He is not that in you
On the side reversal, emotional unavailability could be a sign that they are just not in you. If you have been together for a long time, the relationship maintains ups and downs. But if you have been together for the equivalent of a half-month honeymoon period, then you notice that they are emotionally unavailable, so maybe it's better to talk about it right away. This could be a commitment problem.

7. He is concerned about something
Women are known to be large multineaastaskers. Men? Not really. It is quite possible that what you think is an emotional unavailability could be a sign that your boyfriend is hyper-concentrated on another area of ​​their life and has completely forgotten that you can not completely ignore one of the aspects of your life while you try. to understand another.

8. You betrayed his confidence
It is very unlikely that you and you alone are at the fault of the emotional unavailability of a man. In fact, the probability you have "pushed" is close to zero. However, some nonchalant comments about something they said or something they did have made them feel uncomfortable in the past, led to feelings as if they can not share Some things with you and bubbling in an emotional unavailability fully blown. Once again, with that too, an open conversation can probably allow you to be more open and available with / each other.

9. They are shy
Especially during the first stages of a new relationship, it is quite possible that emotional unavailability is not the problem - it's just shyness. Consider the fact that perhaps they open more slowly to new people, do not develop the attachments as fast as you do it and you are usually shy. Give him the time (if you have patience), and maybe it will simply soak.